You Can't Be Wrong If You're Speaking Your Truth

You can't be wrong if you're speaking your truth. You can't be wrong if you're speaking your truth. And what I mean by that is when you are talking about how you feel, you're talking about what happened to you and what that did to you. That's your truth. Nobody else really has a right to question that. You're listening to the Circle CE Project.

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Hey. Hey. Welcome to episode 57 of the Triple Seat Project. And this week's going to be a shorter episode and I guess a bit more of a PSA rather than an in depth discussion. Tips, advice, coaching, whatever you feel that I usually do each week because I felt that this was just something important to say and to share with you in case you've ever felt this way this has ever happened to you. So I heard on the Grapevine recently that there's some despair about the way that I talk about Big Law, about my time in Big Law, and it was very easy for me to dismiss because to my mind, if you don't want people to talk about something particular way, then don't have it be that way. You know, if people don't want you to talk bad about them, they shouldn't do bad things to you. If your job doesn't want you to talk ill of the company or the firm, then they shouldn't do things that make you feel the way that you feel. But this isn't really about me. I just wanted to use that as a jumper for this episode because I know that for a lot of people this happens in all different areas of their life. You something happens, you feel a particular way about it, and people want to discount the way that you feel or question whether you should be really feeling that way, calling you too sensitive, you know, you're taking things too seriously, too literally. And I wanted to just call out that bullshit and encourage you to do the same. And I wanted to say to you, if this has ever happened to you and you started second guessing yourself, started questioning yourself and it's led you to retreat inwards and not say what you truly think or let people know how you truly feel for fear of basically being gaslighted. This is what I have to say. You can't be wrong if you're speaking your truth. You can't be wrong if you're speaking your truth. And what I mean by that is when you are talking about how you feel, you're talking about what happened to you and what that did to you. That's your truth. Nobody else really has a right to question that because they are not within your body, they are not feeling your feelings. It's one thing if you're making up a pack of lies that should be challenged, but what is actually your truth? It doesn't really matter what anybody else thinks. Just because somebody else may say, well, I wouldn't have felt that in that situation situation, or I didn't see it that way. That's neither here nor there. Great for them. But this is you. Your feelings are as valid as anybody else's. And as I've said many times before, you have to feel your feelings. You have to feel your feelings to get in tune with who you are, with how things make you feel, with how you react to things so that you can work through situations and get to a place where you, you feel peace, you feel happier, you feel that you can move forward, acknowledge, accept, adapt the framework that I share, that I go through. But when you're talking about things that have happened to you and the way that things have made you feel, that paint other people, organizations in a negative light. People are going to be on the attack because they're going to want to save their reputation. And when they are on the attack, that can lead to you getting a little bit of a, a little bit of a lapse of clarity, a little bit. It can cause you to shut down for fear of being attacked. And I get that because nobody likes to be attacked. I don't like conflict. You know, nobody really likes to be put down in that way and to have their feelings and their ideas and their thoughts dismissed. And so retreating inwards is a way to deal with that. And if that's how you feel, you want to deal with it, I am in no way going to question that at all. What I would like to share though is this. The more that you allow people to bully you into silence, the less that things are going to change, the less rapidly things will change. Because the reason things have been this way for so long is because they've just been allowed to, because there hasn't been enough of a groundswell of powerful people speaking up. And I'm talking about this a little bit of an abstract way, because obviously I'm not just talking about being a big law or being in a corporate environment. I'm talking about society in general. And. And that's actually a bigger conversation. And I just wanted to touch the surface here because there's a few things I'm reading at the moment. And the more that I get into what I'm doing, the more that I start to feel this way is that things can only change if we continue to speak up about it, even in the face of people trying to dismiss our feelings and what we feel, what we say, what we think, that they're not valid. So that's really all I wanted to share this week. Very short, very sweet, but I felt it was really important because it came to, as I say, it came to my attention when I heard this, and my initial thought was like, huh? Why? That's a really interesting choice of words, that you'd feel despair. But at the end of the day, I'm speaking my truth. This is what happened. And people are perfectly at liberty to give an alternative view from their own standpoint of truth. But that doesn't mean that I'm going to stop sharing mine, and that doesn't mean that you should stop sharing yours. And this is why I always come back to clarity. Because when you know who you are, when you know what you want, when you know why you want it, then you can speak your truth from a strong foundation, and you're less likely to waver in the midst of other people's attacks or bullying or questioning. Because you're very clear as to where you're going, as to why you're saying what you're saying, you're very clear as to your truth. Going to leave it there this week. Thank you for being here. A little bit of an abstract episode in some senses. And I plan to come back to some of the threads in here and pull them a little bit more in the coming weeks or months to give a bit more. Bit more. Bit more color to the whole thing. But I really hope that you take away from this, you're never wrong if you're speaking your truth and you continue to speak your truth, whether that's speaking truth to power, whether that's just simply speaking about what it is that you want to do, where it is that you want to go, even though it may not be the conventional path, even though it may not be what other people feel that you could do or feel that you should do. And until I see you again next week, stop living a life of lethargy. Start living life Lit.

Thanks for tuning in. But before you go, the weight of limiting beliefs is heavy. It literally weighs you down and keeps you stuck in that life of lethargy.

I know.

It's why I stayed in Big Law for so long. And it's why so many of my clients don't believe they can do the things that they want to do. But what causes those limiting beliefs? It's a lack of confidence. Lack of confidence in the belief that you can do the things that you want to do. And I got something for that. It's my confidence journal. It's six journal prompts that I created that I've used to help me get from where I am to where I want to be. To help to give me the belief to do the things that seem outside of my control, outside of what I can do. If this sounds like you, you need to get your hands on the journal. Best thing about it, it's free. All you have to do is head to iamryspence.com hit the button for Confidence Journal and get your copy today. It's going to help you start to reframe your thoughts and get you thinking about what you can do instead of focusing on what you can't do and shed that load of limiting beliefs that you don't need to be carrying. See you again next week. And until that time, stop living a life of lethargy and start living life Lit.