You Say Enough Is Enough, But Is It Really?

Decide. Decide. This is the day this shit changes. Inscribe, write that down. This is the day that this shit changes. And describe, tell somebody, tell some people, people who you trust, people who will support you, people who will hold you accountable. This is the day that this shit changes. And trust me, if you do that and you start to take those incremental steps each day, no matter how small, your physical situation may not change immediately, but your mental and physical state, they will. You're listening to the Circle CE Project. Welcome to the Triple CE Project, the podcast that helps you gain clarity, boost confidence, build courage, so you can live lifeless. I'm your host, Ryan Spence, the big lore dropout, life coach, author, speaker, lover of hoodies, hip hop and big hairy, audacious goals. If you're tired of living the life you think you should want and ready to start living the life you do want, this podcast will help you get from where you are to where you really want to be. So now with friends, I invite you to grab a drink, take a seat, allow me to guide you towards living a life that lit. Yo, yo. Welcome to episode 48 of the Triple C Project. If you've had those days that really piss you off, you know, you're just really just done with the day. Maybe it's something like you're at work and there's a shit show of a deal that just lands smack on your desk and you've got to figure it out and it's the last fucking thing that you want to do. Or maybe a colleague pops into your room and says, I really need urgent assistance with this, this really needs to be done, needs to be done now, and that just fucks up your evening or your weekend. That's happened to me before. I remember once getting a deal on a Wednesday night at around 6, 6:30, which required me to basically work until 1am on a Thursday, go into the office on Thursday, all three to one again, and then do an all night out on Friday because it had to close on the early hours of Saturday Singapore time. Yeah, that was brutal. Maybe your leave gets cancelled, maybe you're planning to go off to a friend's wedding or you mean your own birthday weekend and your leave gets cancelled because there's a deal that has to close and you have to be there and sportive alert. The deal does not fucking close, but the damage is already done. All of these are events that happened either to me or people that I know. Maybe they've happened to you and maybe you can relate. These two other things that have happened as well, that just made you say, fuck it, Enough is enough. I'm done. And what happens in those situations? You probably scream, you might cry, you might punch something. Hopefully you don't punch someone because that's a whole other world of problems. And you say, I'm done with this shit. Enough is enough. I can't do this anymore. I'm out. But what happens? You get up, you dust yourself down, and you get back on the hamster wheel. Because that's what you know, right? It's just what is done. And it becomes this dance every so often, you know? I mean, something happens. You say you're done, you storm off the dance floor, and then, due to fear or uncertainty or lack of clarity, confidence, courage, you sheepishly find yourself trekking back, getting back on the dance floor and dancing again, even though you don't fucking want to. And it's not because when you said, I'm done, this is it, I've had enough. It's not because you didn't mean it, because you did at the time, you know, and you know you meant it. You really felt within your soul that you just couldn't do this one more second, one more day. But the reason why you sheepishly walk back is because you believe that it's just the way things are. You believe that you just have to suck it up. This is all part and parcel of the job, all part and parcel of life, all part and parcel of success. And you believe that, therefore, nothing's. Nothing's going to change. It's always going to be this way. And you know what? You're right. Absolutely right. Because nothing will change. Nothing will change unless you decide it will, and you take action to change it, to change your situation, the situation that you don't like, the situation that you keep telling yourself you're done with, the situation where you keep saying, enough is enough. I just can't take it anymore. Until you decide that that's actually going to happen. They're just meaningless words. You can keep saying enough's enough, but as the saying goes, actions speak far, far louder than words. And so this is a little bit of tough love. It's time to put up or shut up. If enough is really enough, if you really can't take it anymore, whatever it is, you need to decide right now what you're going to do about it. You just got to decide. No more waiting. No more hoping things will get better down the line. Because you know that that won't happen. Because you've been saying this to yourself for Months, probably even years, if anything, like me. So you've got to do something about it. You've got to decide. And I take you back to earlier episodes and the DID framework, the three steps you need to implement right now. If you're not going to find yourself continuously coming back to the same position where you get off, go away, come back again to do exactly the same thing, be in exactly the same place where you don't want to be. And the reminder of that framework is this, as I said, you need to decide. That's the D. Decide you're going to do something, decide you're going to make a change. Not maybe I will not think that you could, but decide it's going to happen. And then you've got to inscribe, you've got to write that down. And you don't have to have a whole elaborate plan about what you're going to do and where you're going to go. You just have to start brainstorming. And you have to also just write down that today is the day when this shit changes. Today is the day of when this shit changes. And those changes may be small changes in the beginning. It may be something as simple as you actually reach out to that recruiter who's been calling and sending you emails, but you've been ignoring because she was scared to talk to them. It may be that you go and research your idea of becoming a writer and to see where you can start to publish your stuff, to get that experience, to see if you like it. Maybe you do quit your job and go off and travel around the world. There's a whole host of things that you can do, from the minuscule to the major big life decisions where you burn the whole thing down. But all you've got to do is decide something's going to change and then write it down. Today's the day that this shit changes and mean it. And maybe make a note of how this shit is going to change, the things that you could start to do, to give yourself some ideas. And then the final D is describe, tell somebody, tell somebody. Because it gives you that accountability, it makes you accountable to somebody. Because if you tell somebody, I'm done, this is it. Today's the day this shit's going to change. I'm going to go off and I'm going to do some. Something else. Then when they come and say to you, a few days, a few weeks, a few months down the line, hey, how's it going? How's that change going for you? You're going to want to have something to tell them. You know, I mean, you're not going to want to look stupid. You're not going to want to look like somebody else who says one thing and then does another. You're not going to want to look like somebody who just is just whining and complaining, but doesn't have or isn't willing to actually do something about it. So it keeps you. Keeps you honest. So next time you say, enough is enough, I'm done with this shit, you think it or you really feel it inside your body, then I want you to think back to this episode and think back to that framework. Decide. Decide. This is the day that this shit changes. Inscribe. Write that down. This is the day that this shit changes. And describe. Tell somebody. Tell some people, people who you trust, people who will support you, people who will hold you accountable. This is the day that this shit changes. And trust me, if you do that and you start to take those incremental steps each day, no matter how small, your physical situation may not change immediately, but your mental and physical state, they will. You'll show up differently, you'll act differently, you'll feel differently, you'll think differently. And it's a funny thing that once those things start to happen, opportunities start to present themselves. You start to see things differently, you start to see things clearer, and you start to step out your zone a little bit, your comfort zone, start to take a little bit more of a risk, start to get a little more confidence. But that only comes if you actually do something. It doesn't come if you sit still and keep going through the same old cycle over and over and over again. So I'm going to leave you with this. The next time you say to yourself, enough is enough, ask yourself. Play devil's advocate. Imagine there was a friend standing there listening to you, and they're going to say back to you. Is it, though? Is it really? And if it really is, go ahead, implement that framework and let's fucking go. Let's get started on changing things. Changing things so that you can live life the way that you want to live, so you can ditch your life of lethargy and start living life. Thanks for tuning in. But before you go, the weight of limiting beliefs is heavy. It literally weighs you down and keeps you stuck in that life of lethargy. I know. It's why I stayed in Big Law for so long, and it's why so many of my clients don't believe they can do the things that they want to do. But what causes those limiting beliefs? It's a lack of confidence. Lack of confidence in the belief that you can do the things that you want to do. And I've got something for that. It's my confidence journal. It's six journal prompts that I created that I've used to help me get from where I am to where I want to be. To help to give me the belief to do the things that seem outside of my control, outside of what I can do. If this sounds like you, you need to get your hands on the journal. Best thing about it, it's free. All you have to do is head to Iamry Spence.com hit the button for confidence journal and get your copy today. It's going to help you start to reframe your thoughts and get you thinking about what you can do instead of focusing on what you can't do and shed that load of limiting beliefs that you don't need to be carrying. See you again next week. And until that time, stop living a life of lethargy and start living life lit.