You're not too busy for your family. You're lying to yourself. The speaker argues that work should fit around family time, not the other way around, and that claiming things won't get done without you is self-deception. Most people overestimate their importance and rationalize neglecting their kids by calling themselves good people anyway.
You have to give your family first dibs on your calendar, and the work has to get everything else. And if you're telling yourself, "Yeah, but then things won't get done," I submit to you, you're probably telling yourself a lie that isn't true. You probably think you're more important than you are, and if it just couldn't happen, you probably would figure out a way. But you're giving yourself permission right now to be a bad dad under the pretense of, "But I'm a good person," and that just isn't how it has to be.
