Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

This is not a high value womn behavior, stop chasing men

27 Sept 2026 · 1 min

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In this YouTube monologue, Sami Wunder critiques a common dating pattern where women repeatedly call, text, and over‑explain to a partner who does not respond. Using a client’s example, Sami labels this behavior as "chasing" and explains that it stems from anxiety, insecurity, and fear of abandonment. He emphasizes that the urge to provide lengthy explanations is a way to seek relief and maintain control, but it ultimately prevents the relationship moment from breathing. Sami delivers the critique with compassion, urging listeners to recognize and stop over‑investing emotionally in partners who are not reciprocating.

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One of our clients said, Sami, I called him. He didn't pick up. So I called him again because I was worried. He didn't pick up. So I called him and I left him a voicemail to explain why I had called twice. Girl, you are a chaser. And this is not a judgment. I say this with a lot of compassion, but all that over-explanation, all those paragraphs about why you do something, what upsets you, why it hurts you, how he can do better next time, all of that over-explanation is you chasing the guy, is you over-investing in the guy. And it's literally you not being able to let the moment breathe because you feel anxious and you feel some kind of insecurity or some kind of abandonment. And the way you get relief is by explaining yourself.