Drownproof: Eight Life Lessons to Keep Your Head Above Water, Andy Stumpf, ep55 Hardcore and At Ease

For me, money is a tool, honestly, to be able to say no. And by saying no, I take further control over my time, which is really the only thing that I want to use money as a tool for, is the ability to do the things that I want to with the people that I care about the most deeply.

A lot of us say the people we love matter the most right after we've spent years proving with our actions that something else came first. And I include myself in that list.

There's this pressure on young men and women to have it all figured out. And I don't know where that comes from, 'cause most adults don't have it all figured out. And we, you know, we ask children of that age, "What do you wanna be when you grow up?" I don't know what I wanna be when I grow up. I'm 48 years old. I think the healthiest thing that people can do that are veterans is have a social circle that's completely outside of the veteran world and don't talk about their service with those people, which is not to diminish their service. It's just to remind you that you are not what you used to do. Who you are and what you did are very different things.