A short spoken-video segment advocating the interpersonal principle "be interested, not interesting": approach conversations by asking about others rather than delivering a sales pitch. The speaker references classic self-help guidance (mentions How to Win Friends and Influence People and possibly The 7 Habits) and argues that people enjoy talking about themselves, which naturally leads them to ask about you in return.
I am often thinking of the quote that says, I don't know who did it, but I think I've heard you say it as well. But be interested instead of interesting. And always just going in with how can I learn more about this person? That's like a tenet of, I believe it's seven habits of highly effective people or no, how to win friends and influence people, I think is what that is. And so always making sure that, you know, people love to talk about themselves. It's like I think psychology, their brain is going haywire, it's going wild whenever they're talking about themselves. And so just be interested in what you know, who they are. Don't go with your sales pitch. You're going in with like a self motivation of what can I gain from them? But really go in just being really interested in who they are, what's their background, how do they serve their clients? And people will ask in return. It is natural for them after they've talked about themselves for a time to ask, hey, what do you do?
