Tim Arrigo argues that self-validation comes from living in alignment with your values and God's will, not from external approval. He pushes a behavior-first principle: act according to your values today, and better thoughts and feelings follow. Start with concrete actions now, not abstract thinking.
What are you doing to validate yourself? Because a lot of times we seek external validation when we're not validating ourselves, and we have the opportunity to validate ourselves all day long through the way that we behave and act and treat ourselves and others. So validation for yourself can be living in alignment with your core values and doing the things that you believe you need to be doing to create a clear conscience, to live in alignment with the will of God in your life, right? right? And to act and behave in ways that are congruent with your values, that are your core values and your core beliefs, right? What you want to believe and what is right. So it's, it's not doing what feels right, but doing what I know is right. So when it comes to living in alignment, what are the things that you can do today that you can start today that you could start doing that are gonna make you think and feel better about yourself? So instead of trying to think and feel better about yourself in order to do what you want to do, instead, don't try to think and feel your way into better behavior. Behave your way into better thoughts and better feelings. So let's strike while the iron's hot. Let's go right for the behavior. So what are the things that you can do today that will make you think and feel better about you?
