Tim Arrigo explains how couples can reduce conflict by validating each other's feelings without agreeing. Stop trying to prove your point. Acknowledge that your partner's perception is their reality, even when you see things differently.
Powerful inside relationships is when we learn to stop arguing, to stop trying to prove our point, stop getting defensive, stop being invalidating and just invalidating our spouse's perspective just because we don't agree with it. And we actually start affirming our spouse. You know, you can validate your spouse without agreeing with them, right? You can say, hey, you know what? I totally understand how you would think and feel that way. Because perception is reality, right? So what they're thinking and feeling really is true for them. So why do we need to argue with it? It's their truth. Guess what? Just because they have their truth doesn't mean you don't have yours. You can validate your partner without agreeing with them.
