Tim ArrigoYou help high-performing men confront and fix the internal patterns sabotaging their identity, relationships, and leadership so they become grounded, disciplined, and emotionally intelligent leaders in their lives.

FEEL what you NEED to FEEL‼️ Forgiveness only occurs when you’ve PROCESSED what’s taken place and

Name: FEEL what you NEED to FEEL‼️ Forgiveness only occurs when you’ve PROCESSED what’s taken place and
Uploaded: 2023-09-05T16:15:24+00:00
Duration: 1 min 15 s
Channel: Tim Arrigo
Description: In this monologue, Tim Arrigo challenges the common advice to simply "forgive" someone by arguing that true forgiveness cannot occur without first…

5 Sept 2023 · 1 min

Watch on YouTube

1:15

In this monologue, Tim Arrigo challenges the common advice to simply "forgive" someone by arguing that true forgiveness cannot occur without first processing the underlying trauma. He explains that many people use forgiveness as a form of spiritual bypass, claiming they have forgiven while actually dissociating from the painful experience. Arrigo emphasizes that one must acknowledge, understand, and work through how an event has impacted their life before they can genuinely forgive. He questions listeners to reflect on whether they have truly forgiven or are merely avoiding feeling the associated emotions.

Chapters

I hear all the time people say, well, just forgive that person. You know, oftentimes people can use forgiveness as a spiritual bypass from actually having to do the work. People I work with and I've talked to in the past, they say, well, you know, I've forgiven that, Tim. You know, I really forgiven that. My question is though, how can you forgiven it if you haven't really processed it? You know, you can't sit in a park with somebody and for the first time in your entire life acknowledge that something happened to you that was probably the most traumatic thing in your life and simultaneously in that day forgive that event. You can't put the cart before the horse. You can't forgive something that you haven't processed. You can't forgive something that you haven't worked through. So how can you forgive it if you really haven't quite understand how it affected your life? And If you're using forgiveness as a spiritual bypass, then you really haven't paid attention to how that thing is still showing up in your life without your permission. So my question is, have you forgiven it or have you dissociated from it? Have you forgiven it or are you using forgiveness as some type of bypass to actually having to feel the feelings and do the work?