Tim Arrigo examines how people avoid healing by denying painful truths. He describes a woman who committed adultery but refused accountability, instead calling it God's plan. Real healing, he argues, requires rejecting self-deception and owning what you've done.
You know what people who don't want to face reality do? They blow up reality. They sabotage the situation as a way to do what? Avoid all the hard work of what it takes to actually deal with it. So now that right there, that right there, that is indicative of now a pattern that she has in her life, which is a way that she deals with hard situations. How do I deal with a hard situation? Escape it, avoid it, run towards what's pleasurable, and live in a fantasy, live in an idealized reality, romanticize the situation I'm in, and live in a state of chronic self-deception about what it is and how great it is and how fantastic it is and how amazing it is and how God has this all planned, as to do what? Live in absolute denial. Brother, what you're seeing is not a reality. It's called self-deception. And what other choice does she have? Either acknowledge that I have cheated on my husband, I've committed adultery, I've put my kids in a compromised situation, I've totally betrayed and hurt the person that I've been with and what that says about my character, or no, no, no, this is God's plan. God wanted this to happen. This was supposed to happen. And this was meant to be, and let's expedite this whole process as quickly as possible.
