How to Fix Your Marriage Without Even Talking About It

Great Thanksgiving. Hope everybody's having a great Black Friday. Just want to say welcome everybody joining me. Um, so tonight, you know, I really wanted to jump on here, um, and talk about an opportunity that I wanted to share with you guys. And I really wanted to talk about tonight is the interior of the program. You know, a lot of people had asked me over the course of this experience, you know, when I get on these live trainings, "Hey Tim, can you talk a little bit about the Inside Out Method, about the actual Total Breakthrough Academy, what the Total Breakthrough Academy is, why you created it, and who you guys actually help?" So Total Breakthrough Academy is a program that I myself created. If you guys don't know too much about me, So, my name is Tim. So, I've, I've had 25,000 clinical hours in the field. And as a clinician doing clinical counseling and working with married men and overseeing, you know, the marriage and family therapy counseling and everything else that went into the, the, all the years of clinical practice that I had, I noticed and got really, really frustrated with how long it was taking men to get a breakthrough. And the fact that a lot of times in these marriages, that only the surface level issues in the marriage were being talked about, which oftentimes would make the problems even worse in the marriage. And oftentimes people weren't working through these issues. So they weren't looking at the person that they were, and how the person that they were was showing up in the marriage. So it's important to look at the person you are and how that person shows up in the marriage, because that's what's most important, right? Before we can fix your marriage, we got to fix the person that shows up in the marriage. The person that's showing up in the marriage, it's crucial to first address you and your behavior. If you notice, that's always my approach. That's the approach of the Inside Out Method that makes our approach so unique. Number one, one of the first things is before we start trying to tackle all these issues in your marriage, we help change the man that shows up to the marriage first. Um, and you know, the reason why we created this program, as I mentioned, is because it takes so long for guys to get a breakthrough. Right? And oftentimes, they're in a position where they're not wanting to take ownership, and they're unhappy in the relationship. And at that point, I really ask guys, you know, if you want to save the marriage or not, because if you're not interested in saving it, then why do you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? And vice versa. You know, and what I believe in and what I've been doing and what I've been teaching for the last 10+ years is leadership, ownership, right? Composure, confidence, assertiveness, handling yourself in the face of adversity very well. And that's what this is about. During the holidays, there's a lot of adversity that people face, right? During the holidays, it can be really hard. I'm sure a lot of you guys can relate to this. It's difficult during the holidays and there's a lot of pressure to provide, right? There's a lot of pressure to provide. What's up, Todd? How you doing, brother? So a lot of pressure to provide during this time. So, you know, guys, as I was saying that through my own experience and breaking down a lot of my own personal beliefs that I had about what real breakthrough looks like. And that's what I want to talk about tonight. So one of the first steps inside of our program, one of the first steps is we first identify the problem and pain. Okay, this requires you to— you got to be brutally honest with yourself. You got to be able to identify your problem and your pain. Okay, with I statements. Instead of saying, my problem is this person, my problem is these things. No, what is the problem with you that you have with yourself? I, I feel this way, right? It's a self-inventory process. Okay? It's your hurts. It's your resentments. Your hurts and resentments towards yourself, other people throughout life. Okay, that's, that's one of the first steps. And through that process, what we have to do is we have to excavate, right? We have to dig deep to identify, process, and start resolving the stuck points that are preventing your personal growth. And that's why tonight, right, for a limited time, I want to talk to you guys about an opportunity that I'm providing to you guys on this weekend. So number one, we got to build rapport with you, right? Trust is something that has to be built. We want to gather your history, want to learn about you, analyze your family of origin, look at some of the— your past, some of the things that have happened in your life, uncover some of your self-defeating belief systems. These are all parts of the first phase. They're all parts of the first phase inside the program, gaining objective awareness. Observing the emotional conditioning in your life, the emotions that you're addicted to reliving again and again. Identifying the behavioral patterns. What are the behavioral patterns that you want to change? What are the things you want to change about yourself? Because check it out, what you're, what you're aware of that you need to change, but you're choosing not to change You're simply just choosing, right? It's like what you're not— what you're not changing, you're now choosing. And things change when you change. You can sit back and you can blame other people. You can sit back and make them the scapegoat as to why you're unhappy, or you can look at yourself and lead. So you got to look within— self-examination, self-reflection, self-analysis. Looking at you, a brutal, real inventory. And all the guys that join the program, this is the first phase we put them through, right? These are the first steps initially are you got to do— you got to look at yourself and you got to look at why are you unhappy? Why are you not feeling fulfilled? Why are you not feeling optimistic about this relationship or yet your life in general? Okay, also, you got to acknowledge what's going on in your shadow. Okay, all the parts of yourself that you've repressed. This is also part of the excavation phase, right? A lot of us think that the issues in our life are issues that present in the present day on the surface, when a lot of it is issues from your past, ways that things that you're holding in. You know, I was talking to a gentleman earlier and he said, I'm overprotective of my son. You know, I'm really overprotective of my son. I said, what does that tell you? And he's like, I don't know. And I said, well, who couldn't protect you? And he broke down. And there was a lot of stuff that he had been carrying around. And as men, that's what we do. It's like we have a backpack full of cinder blocks. And we don't want to open up. We don't want to reach out for help. There's a lot of stigma around that. Men's mental health— more men commit suicide every day than women do. More men struggle with substance abuse, right? More men struggle with these things in secret because of the stigma around reaching out. So you got to look at yourself. You got to start to look at, right, What's preventing me from living at my full potential? And that's not always easy, but that's the first process because you can't heal what you hide. Let me say that again. You can't heal what you hide. So if you hide it, there's no fixing it, right? There's no resolving it. Um, Cynthia, have your fiancé reach out, right? And that's why I said for, uh, uh, uh, Josh just reached out. Hey, I love your videos. It hit me in a crazy way. Right on, Josh. And that's why this weekend, right, everybody, right, for Black Friday, I wanted to let you guys know, right, that from a limited time, I'm just looking for 5 people to work with. We have just a limited time right now. I only want to work with 5 people. So if you're interested in changing your life and you're interested in getting your life back, right, send me a message. Send me a message this weekend. Hey, I'm ready to change. I'm ready to do this, right? What a better gift to give your family on the holiday than a better version of you. Josh, reach out to me, brother. Let's talk after this. Let's talk after this. For all you guys that are— that you're committed, because I don't want to work with anybody that's not committed. Unless you're committed, you're willing to go all in because check it out. We get in the trenches with you. We do a lot of the heavy lifting with you, right? I feel like it's time and it's— I have time and it's doable. Let's do this, brother. I'm here for you. Let's get down to business. So, you know, guys, that's one of the first phases of the program is doing this— to doing this work is number one, right? We got to excavate. We got to look at it. We got to excavate. And we got to do this, right? And again, guys, like I said, what a better investment, right? Absolutely right. Some of the other guys are saying it's the best gift you could ever give your family. Absolutely, man. Best gift you could ever give your family is a better version of you, right? What if getting your life back isn't possible? Every— anything is possible, bro. Stop telling yourself that. Stop telling yourself it's not possible. Yes, right now in the Total Breakthrough Academy is all men. We are opening up another opportunity for other people in the future though. This requires commitment, right? Because you have to be willing and committed. You have to be willing and committed, right? So again, commitment is the first step. And the first step on our behalf is we help you excavate, right? We help you unravel and uncover all the stuff that's really going on. The second phase is Envision. This is where we help you become laser focused on your vision, right? Just really like laser focused on your goals and your vision for your future, right? Who do I want to be? What do I want to have? How do I want to feel? What do I need to do? Right? Those are the keys right there. Right? What do I need to do? How do I want to feel? What do I want to have? Who do I want to be? And really mapping that out with the frameworks and everything we use inside of the program to help you do that, that process is crucial. That's a crucial process because a lot of, a lot of guys don't even think about that. You have to have recognized what are your values and what is your self-worth? Are your actions in alignment with the things you say that you value? right? Are your actions in alignment with the things that you, that you value in your heart, the things that matter most to you, right? Thank you guys so much. Do it for yourself. Nobody else. I totally agree with that. I want my family back, guys. If you guys are interested in learning more about the program again, and you have, you're ready to invest in yourself and you're ready to commit, then let me know, right? Let me know. Because again, I, we don't work with everybody. We only work with people who are committed. Who are serious about doing this work. We're not going to hold anybody's hand and coddle you, right? You're going to get held accountable and you're going to be challenged. But I can promise you this, that's why the guys in our program get results. That's why, because they don't sit around like they do in a therapy session and talk about why this happens and why you feel the way you do and why do you think this is and why, why, why. My 5-year-old daughter asks more— what, asks less why questions than a lot of therapists. That's why we don't do that with you. That's why we're all about the how, the what, what you need to do, how it works, how you need to change. What are those steps? We're all about results. So again, with all the clinical experience that I've had over the last 10+ years, that's why we created this. We created this to help men get a real breakthrough. That's why it's called Total Breakthrough Academy. Guys, in, in aligning, you got to align yourself and sort through the beliefs that are serving you and the ones that aren't and take action. You got to uncover the false beliefs and you got to take actions that are aligned with yourself and sorting out the ones that aren't. And you got to develop skills, right? That's what we teach inside the program. We give you the keys. What we use is we take techniques that traditionally clinicians would use on you in sessions, and we teach you how to use those techniques on yourself, right? Matt says, the more I sacrifice, the more I feel taken advantage of. Matt, if you're ready to change, brother, let's get this crackin', right? Tim, I've lost the link to reschedule a meeting. How can I rebook? The link is in my bio. What if your partner just continues to gaslight you? How much can a man take? Matt, it's because you're not being a better version of you, brother. You got us. You got to get away from blaming your wife, bro. It's not about— you got to get away from that. It's not about what you need to say. It's about what your wife needs to see, man. Who do you need to be? You got to become undeniable. You got to become unstoppable. And if you're not undeniable and unstoppable and living at your full potential, then brother, you're— you can't look outside of you. So Josh, let's talk, brother. 100%. Hit me up, hit me up in the Messenger. So again, guys, this is a powerful opportunity for you guys. As I mentioned during these holidays, holiday season, right? And I can tell you guys right now, I mean, with all the guys in the program, I mean, I'll play you guys this really quick. Here's a very brief, very, very brief video from a client who we worked with. This is what he says.

My marriage has never been better than it is right now. A month ago we were getting divorced. Right now I can tell you, just this month alone, my marriage has never been better. Never been better. And that's no lie. We've been married 12 years and my— there was always this mistrust. There no trust, the fighting. It's not like that no more. We cuddle now. We're 63 years old and we cuddle, we hold hands, and the love sessions has never been better.

And again, that's just one of many, guys, and I'll play some more of these for you guys. But again, like, that's— this gentleman was committed. He was all in. He made the sacrifice, right? And he took total and complete ownership of the issues, and look where he's at now. Right? He was going to get divorced. The marriage is completely saved. Why? Because he stepped up to be the leader that he knew he was capable of being. And again, these skills are important. That's why we give you the keys. We give you the skills, the habits, the character traits that help you develop the man that you want to be, the resources, the mental models, right? These are all the things that we impart on you in this program. This isn't just sitting down and doing one-on-ones with me. Right? This is way deeper than that, right? That's why we do nightly live calls, you and all the other men in the program, right? That's why we get on breakthrough calls with you. That's why we have our app. We have the skills in the app. We have the support community. We have the self-assessments, right? We give you the access to the community, one-click access to me and your coach. We give you one-click access to the assessments, the assignments, the coping skills, the communication skills, and we give you a ticket to our live event. right? We're doing a live event in February and we give you guys all access to that event where we're going to kick it personally. We're going to have dinner, right? We're going to have expert speakers. I'm going to speak at the event. We're going to give out awards. It's going to be powerful, guys. It's an opportunity for us all to connect. And that's a part of what this is. And that's why I said I only want to work with 5 guys. So if you're one of those 5 guys that's interested in doing this, right? Okay. If you're one of these 5 guys, right, who is interested, I'm ready, ready to work with you, right? This guy says, this dude just makes excuse after excuses for sloppy, lazy, emotionally abusing women. Simp. Not at all, brother. It's actually the exact opposite. So I don't make excuses for lazy, sloppy, emotionally abusing women. No, I don't. What I do is I hold men accountable to being the best version of themselves because I was that guy. And if you're triggered by that message, it's not for you, bro. Right? And by no means am I giving anybody the green light to mistreat anybody. But my message is directed towards men being the best version of themselves. And that's why for the last 10+ years, over 2,000 men have gotten breakthrough in the program. That's why they've changed their lives. Right? And again, results speak for themselves, guys. Results speak for themselves. So take responsibility. All right, people don't, they don't really want to take responsibility. And I got to ask, right, if you're unhappy in the marriage, and why are you staying around? This isn't— you hear it as an excuse to mistreat somebody, bro, when other people, right, are hearing it as a call to action to better themselves. Right? Said like a true leader, right? Thank you, Julian. Right? Because that's what real leadership is, brother. Right. And if you're triggered by that message, I understand because a lot of guys are, right? It is a lot of guys are, they're very triggered by that. You can't put that in somebody else's hands. And I would say, bro, that's your mindset is still you seeing it because I would just ask you, are you truly living at your full potential? Right? Are you truly exhibiting the leader? Are you, are you being the best version of yourself and pursuing that? So again, guys, Matt says, uh, Matt says, is this plan Latina-proof? I love it, Matt. Matt, shoot me a message, bro. Let's talk. Um, so yeah, guys, I mean, it's, it's, it's a hard pill to swallow, right? It's a hard pill to swallow, but I'm telling you right now, your, your wife doesn't want you to beg. And this isn't about you being a kiss-ass. This is about you being a true leader. right? It's about influence. It's about knowing the power of true leadership. And let me tell you right now, right? I work with a lot of high achievers. I work with a lot of very successful people, right? And I can tell you right now that these guys understand the power of leadership. And that's why this, this is for you. If you're one of those guys, right? Anybody that hasn't experienced some degree of leadership in their life, that's why a lot of guys who own companies, a lot of guys who have been in positions in their life where they understand they have people working under them, They have employees. They understand the power of true leadership, but they're just missing that gap between trying to be the same leader they are in their business as they are in their house. And that doesn't work, right? There's a different style of leadership that, that's, that's required. So, and again, guys, that's why a part of this is the integration too. It's the experiences, it's the routines, it's the challenges, it's the tests that we have to go through as men because we're forged in the fire. Right? That's how we're built, is in adversity. Adversity shapes and molds our character and our conscience. That's why we want to be put in situations, right, where we're tested. We want to be molded and shaped by what we go through. We grow through what we go through, right? These experiences help us. They shape us, right? They help us to become the best version of who we are, right? They help us to live. Think about the growth that you've extracted, right? The valley teaches you much more than the mountaintop ever will. Right? And some of you guys, a lot of the guys I've worked with, right? A lot of the guys that I've worked with, they've said that one of the best things that ever happened to them was being on the brink of divorce or even getting the divorce, right? It was one of the best things that ever happened. Here's another gentleman right here.

Don't even think about it because I was. I was on the fence. I've talked to Tim numerous times. I've seen his TikTok videos and number of reasons, just scared of change, scared of what if I do this and it don't work? What if I do this and it doesn't help? What if, what am I gonna do now? What if, you know, that's the victim mentality instead of saying, what if I do this and I'm successful? What if I do this and it changes my life? What if I do this and it saves my marriage? What if I do this and it teaches my kids how to communicate healthy? And that's exactly what it does, and that's what it's doing for me currently.

And again, guys, that's like I said, it takes a certain type of person to step up and step into a position of ownership in their life. That's not easy. You got to overcome fear. You got to overcome self-doubt. You got to overcome the limitations. Okay, Matt, you can send me a message. And you can just send a message right here on this page that you're on, the Beyond Driven page. And I'll reach out to you on here. Josh, you too. Absolutely, brother. I'm proud of you, man. Staying around because I still feel like she still wants to be married. My wife thinks that I need to refine myself and that I'm not confident. 100%, brother, and you deserve to live at your full potential. Uh, Michael Corey says, I'm still doing mistakes and not trusting sets, sets things back in our intimacy. I try to do the work again and value her and listen and trying to be intimate. A lot of you guys are in the position of like, you're putting that happiness still in your wife's hands. This isn't about that, right? This is about what do you need to do to be the best version of you, right? It's like, what is attractive to her is when you're, when you have purpose, when you have mission, right? When you're, when you're a man on a mission, who's, who's pursuing his, his passion, pursuing being the best version of himself, right? A man who on the inside isn't driven by ego to, I know that I'm a catch, right? When he's obviously, I mean, let's be honest, he knows he's not living at his full potential. He knows that he just pretty much making excuses and he's entitled and he's egotistical, right? Or a guy who knows, right, there's always growth to be had. Right? He's always looking for a next opportunity to grow, to pursue something new, right? He's always open to learning new things, building new relationships, right? He's always understanding that there's more to be done, right? There's more to achieve. There's more to be done. Matt says, I feel like my situation is fluid because my mother-in-law also lives with me and I recognize the traits my wife has are good and both bad. Definitely, bro. That can be a difficult situation, man. And again, that's why a part of the program is skills development. Right? The habits, the skills that we need to develop, right? And that's why I said I only want to work with 5 people tonight. And that's why if you're interested, right, for a limited time, I only want to work with 5 guys, 5 guys that are truly committed, 5 guys that are interested in going all in, right? 5 guys that are willing to do the work. I don't want to work with anybody who's not willing to do the work. So if you're not committed, do not message me. If you're not willing to go all in, if you want to continue to blame, if you want to continue to play the victim, if If you want to continue to make excuses, if you want to continue to try to like turn the, turn the card and turn the table towards your wife and blame her and blame women, and that's the game you want to play and you want to talk negatively about women and that's what you want to do. I never waste my energy doing that, right? That's why I don't, I don't spend any energy talking negatively about women because I've never, I just, I don't do it. I believe in strong leadership, right? I believe that, right? Good women are seeking out good men. Right? They don't want some telephone tough guy who hides behind his phone talking shit, right? They don't want a guy who isn't living at his full potential. They don't want a guy who's passive-aggressive. They don't want a guy, right, who makes excuses, who's a liar, who's some porn-watching, alcohol-abusing, right, guy who's obviously not living at his full potential. So this is for men who want to step into a better version of themselves. That's what this is for, right? And again, I'm just speaking to a former version of myself because I was that guy, so I have the right to speak on it. And that's why I speak this way. And that's why I have the conviction and the passion that I do, because I know, and I've also worked, like I said, with thousands of men in and outside of the clinical setting. Results don't lie, they speak for themselves. And that's why I'm showing you guys these testimonials, because it's powerful. It's powerful, guys. Integration, right, is important. That's why it's another phase of our program. And the atonement, man, the reparation, right, the forgiveness, right, moving past the things that you're holding on to. Like I said earlier, a lot of guys right? A lot of guys are holding on. They got their— it's like they have a backpack full of cinder blocks. They got to wait the weight of the world on their shoulders, right? Mark says, and what are we talking about that, right? So Mark says, what are we talking about? So what we're talking about, brother, is how to save your marriage and how to fix your marriage without even having to talk about it and just being about it and going all in and being fully invested in being the best version of you. And understanding the power of strong leadership and how that can solve and how that can heal a marriage, right? I've seen it day in and day out for years, over and over and over again. And so a lot of guys, they want to complain about it, but then they don't understand. Okay, then what is the solution, bro? What is the solution? You want to go to marriage and family therapy and you want to sit there and you want to have the therapist give your wife more ammunition so she can use it against you? Right? You want to make things worse. You want to sit in a therapy session and talk about why and how that feels and oh, that must be tough. And let me reflect this back to you and what do you think about it, right? This is all about action. This is all about implementation. It's all about integration. It's all about refining your skills and developing yourself and becoming the best leader that you can possibly be. When you have strong leadership and you're able to manage your emotions and manage your mind and manage your words, and you're a leader who who can communicate well, right? A lot of people don't understand the power of dynamic communication, the art of effective communication. Effective communication is an art form, right? Understanding how you can create results in your life with the art of effective communication, knowing how to carry yourself, knowing how to carry yourself like a G, like a gentleman, right? Knowing how to carry yourself this way. Let me tell you right now, like I said, I've worked with a lot of successful guys and they just didn't know how to, handle themselves in the face of adversity in their home. You can't just power through stuff, right? Before you, before you, you know, win your wife back, you got to get her first, right? You got to understand her, right? And a part of that's different for everybody. Everybody's different, right? But a part of that is you have to slow down. You got to downshift. You got to learn how to be in the pocket more. You got to be more attuned. You got to be It's like a slow dance with your wife. It's learning how to be present, learning how to nurture that relationship, learning how to foster the intimacy, which are all things that take time to learn. Right? And I know for a lot of us, even myself, right? My folks had a really unhealthy marriage. Right? And I didn't have the best example either. But it's, again, it's about what you want to learn and how you want to cultivate that. A lot of people want to develop insight, but yet they're not willing to invest in themselves. So again, guys, that's why I said I only want to work with 5 people that are willing to do this, really willing to commit and go all in. And again, like I said, it's deeper than just we're going to do some one-on-ones and some Zoom calls. It's deeper than that, right? Because it's not so much importance. It's about what you do and how you do it. It's about the practice of it. It's about the skills. It's about making it a habit. So it's no longer my information. The information lives inside of you. It's a part of who you are. right? Every single— so Matt even said, he said, every time— funny— every time we see our therapist, we fight the same night. And that's super common. I mean, how many people are getting in a fight the night that they go and see their marriage and family therapist? It's like, even this— isn't this supposed to be getting better, right? And they keep putting the change on their wife. They keep putting the change on her. It's like, you can't— you can't get upset at your wife for something that you created. Let me ask you, was it always like that? Was it always like that? Right? Was it always like that? Was your marriage always that way? And the answer they always say is, no, it wasn't, Tim. It wasn't always that way. Right? It got that way over time. Well, how? Well, it got that way over time through infidelity, through dishonesty, through my emotional outbursts, through my anger, through cheating on my wife with work or my, you know, my buddies or the bar, or it got that way through a lot of my bad habits. It got that way over time, right? It got that way over time. So I can't be mad as a leader at the fact that my marriage has gotten this way over time and I'm blaming the other person. Why are you— why would you want anybody that would accept mediocrity from you? Why would you ever want to be with somebody like that, that accepts a lesser version of yourself than the one they married? Right? You want to be with someone that brings the best out of you, right? And somebody else wants that as well. Right? And you're either bringing the best out of somebody or you're bringing the worst out of them. We've all had people in our life, right, at one point or another that brought the worst out of us or brought the best out of us. That's why everybody can relate to this. Right? Erica says, as a woman, I can tell any man who is listening to this gentleman speak, I wish the world was full of people with the same experience and desire to help others. Thank you so much. Appreciate that. It's true, absolutely true, and is being told by a woman who has gone through a lot of what he talks about. And again, guys, this is just from experience. And it's not, it's not, it's a hard pill to swallow. And that's why I'm only looking for 5 guys who are really willing to do this work right now, like I've said. And again, this is more than I said than just a normal, like, we're going to just do a life coaching thing. No, I want to work with you guys on an intensive level to help you get real breakthrough, to help you excavate, do some exploration, right? Really explore the issues that are holding you back, not just in your marriage, but in your personal life as well, right? In your business, in your career. And that's a lot of the breakthroughs that we create, right? Are not only in business, but also not only in your marriage, but also in your business, right? And that's why I can show you guys this as well. Here's another one.

My relationships, they've improved tremendously, both with my wife, with my son. You know, it's allowed me and afforded me to really be present and in the moment, act in the capacity of a loving husband, an invested father. You know, I feel very well equipped, and now on a daily basis, I can be there for others. My career has improved tremendously. I've actually made some life-changing decisions. I'm now going to be going out on my own. I come from a very— I've done very well in the corporate world, so to speak. But now through Beyond Driven, I now recognize that I have the potential and the ability to succeed on my own. And that's what I'm going to be doing.

This is 90 days, right? 90 days. And he broke through. And that's how it works, right? When you're fully committed and you're all in. And that's why refinement is a part of it, right? That's one of the the part of the third phase of the program is refinement, where we help you shift your identity. It's the declaration of the embodiment of the new you, right? It's like developing a recipe for healthy living by eliminating the things that haven't worked and refining the things that do. It's full alignment with your true self. Right? And like I said, I, I've gone through this process. All the guys in the program have been through this process. And a lot of guys don't realize the power of working with other men. Right? It's— let me tell you right now, it's so, it's so powerful when you have a group of other men that you're actively working with. And that's why I said we only have limited space right now. If we got room for 5 more guys, so 5 more guys right now to join. And the power of working with other men, right? The camaraderie, the brotherhood that we have, right? Let me tell you right now, the brotherhood and the camaraderie that we have is amazing, right? And that's why that's a huge part of the program, which is that brotherhood, right? Which is that fellowship together, right? Working on a common goal is to what? Be the best versions of ourselves so that we can serve everybody around us at a high level, right? My cup is overflowing and then I look for other people to help. right? That, that's true leadership, right? It's not blaming everybody else, making them the scapegoat, talking shit about everybody, that what they should be doing, and not looking at yourself. Because let me tell you right now, you're far from perfect. We all are, right? We're all a work in progress. So it's focusing on you, working on you so you can change you first, change the guy that shows up to the marriage. It's expansion, right? That's the last phase, giving back what you learned, right? Right? Being your best self, your higher self, leading your family, your kids, your team, right? That, that's true leadership, guys. And that's a huge part of the last phase, which is embracing the unknown, the social recreational activities, the things that make you feel most like yourself, right? And by the way, guys, again, if you're, if you're interested in joining tonight, I only have room for a couple guys. If you're interested in joining, please send me a message, right? This is a limited time thing that we're doing right now. Only want to work with 5 guys only if you're invested. Please please do not message me unless you're fully committed, fully all in. And again, we don't hold your hand. We will walk with you through the pain, through the struggle, right through the process. But again, guys, Josh says, this had me like question my leadership skills at work. Yeah, because it is important, right, to take a look at that stuff, bro. It's like, if it's affecting my marriage, then it's probably affecting the way I show up as a leader at work too. right? Engaging in the appropriate ways to communicate, interact, and handle conflict. And that, that's powerful. And I, it takes a certain type of individual to have to look at themselves and really take ownership. That's not easy, right? It can be really uncomfortable, right? It can be really hard. Yeah, Steve says, I give a lot of free content. Yeah, check out the free resources in my bio, guys. Please take advantage of those. Um, I got a ton of free resources. What's up, Heavy Dog 34 says, hey Tim, can you help us with our demons that hide in the dark side? 100%, brother. You know, I've been there, right? And that's 100% what we work on is those issues because those issues show up in our relationships, brother. Right? So absolutely, man. Send me a message. Let's get to it. Um, so, uh, 8 years in the Army, Matt says, and he says, I feel like a failure every day. Yeah, brother, you're not. Want to say thank you for your service, number one. And number two, brother, you're not a failure, right? You're not a failure, bro. You may have made mistakes, but you're not a mistake, right? Don't beat yourself up for the things that you've done, man. That's not what this is about, right? A lot of people confuse my message. This isn't about beating people up. It's about calling them up to being the best version of them because I know what people are capable of, right? I'm calling out— I'm calling out the men to be the best version of themselves, just like I needed to be. Held accountable to that version, right? It's a call to action to men, right?

Right.

As, as true leaders in our community and in our homes, right? We need to come together, right? We need to lock arms. We need to understand the power and the synergy of working and being around other men who are on this journey, right? It's powerful, guys. It's the coping skills, the Unbreakable Mind, right? It's, it's the embracement. It's, you know, understanding, catch it, check it, change it, the mental filters. Wise mind, the final verdict. It's, it's understanding how to reset your— it's the neuro reset, right? It's all these coping skills, the stimuli, urges, the rise, the fall, the cravings, the observer, the consciousness. It's being able to be conscious so you can make changes. It's about thinking ahead, flipping the switch, right? Fresh start. These are all the techniques that we teach inside, inside the program. Sandbox, we teach that. The Vow, Flip the switch, fresh start. Like I said, um, we teach you guys all these things in the program because I don't believe in making you dependent on me. I don't want you to ever rely on me, guys. I want to impart you with everything that you need to succeed far after we work together, right? That, that's one of the best parts of working together is that longer down the line, what happens? You get to share that information with other people and they get a breakthrough, right? You get to share that with other people and they get a breakthrough in their life. And that's a huge, huge part of your legacy, right? Is what you get to share with other people in your life. And what a greater gift to give people during this holiday, but a better version of you. How amazing is that? I mean, how many times have we tried to buy our family happiness, giving our family gifts and, and, and to try and to try to fix everything with money. Right? And it's, it's not, it's not working. Thank you, Mark. God bless you too, brother. He says, your words are saving my marriage and helped me become a better person, man. I'm honored. Thank you, brother. That's humbling, man. And I do this because I care about you guys, right? I do this because I want this for you guys so bad. I want this for you guys. You guys need to understand, like, me and my team, like, that's all we talk about. Is how can we make this better for you guys to serve you guys? That's why we're constantly making improvements on the interior of our program, right? Constantly, nonstop, even just the smallest tweaks. Why? Because we believe in what you guys— call me crazy. I like to see you guys succeed. Call me crazy. I like to see you guys have a healthy marriage. Call me crazy. I like to see your wives go head over heels for you when you become the absolute best version of yourself. Call me crazy for that. I like to see that. I love hearing that. Right? I got— I just got another testimonial from a gentleman. This is what his wife said. She said, hey, my husband just signed up for your program and I moved out of the house. And today, a week later, a week later, right? I moved back to our beautiful home. And it took a lot for me to leave my husband. We've been connected. We've been together for 12 years and he's my best friend, uh, my everything. But he loses his anger easily. I felt like I was walking on eggshells and we did not communicate because I was deeply afraid to ever bring anything up. Because of his reactions. But this last week, he realized that he really doesn't want to lose me, and his attitude has completely shifted. And it's been the best week ever, down to our sex life. Okay, that was a week into the program. One week. Imagine right now, one week from now, one week, one week. So next Friday, You're literally in a completely different place. One week, your marriage, your mindset, your emotional world, right? Your, your life is in a completely different place in one week. That was one week, right? And guys are getting breakthroughs like that constantly. Why? Because they're all in. The keys are right there. All the solutions are right there. The tools are right there, guys. All you got to do is use them, right? That's why I love this testimonial right here from another one of our clients.

I was anxiety-ridden, full of anger, and had basically no self-care for myself, no ambition to really do much with myself. So it was not a great place.

A lot of us have been there.

I started with traditional therapy and it was not taking me anywhere. It wasn't giving me any answers. And one day I came across one of Tim's videos and it just hit me like a ton of bricks. And it's like, that's the guy I need to work with. From the way he teaches to the way he talks, everything hit home with me. I guarantee that their life is going to change dramatically if they put the work in with Tim. There's no way their life cannot change to the better, to what they want. All the tools are there. You just got to use them.

Right there. All the tools are there. You just got to use them. There's no way that your life won't change.

Right?

And that gentleman wasn't even finished. He was only 60 days in, 60 days in. He's a completely different guy. Right? And again, guys, this is what is possible. This is how real and tangible this is. It's right at your fingertips. Right? And think about all, like, all the money that you've been investing in all these quick fixes or ways to just temporarily It's like, what do I got to buy my wife this holiday to make her feel like I love her? It's like, man, best thing you could ever do is invest in yourself. A lot of guys have never even made an investment like that, right? Is investing in themselves, right? It just is such a different type of investment to invest in yourself. And trust me right now, when your wife sees you pursuing the best version of yourself and you become a better man and you bring a better man into that relationship who can handle his emotions, communicates from a place of stoicism, a place from assertiveness, true strength, leadership, right? And he exhibits that in his day-to-day life. He lives above reproach, right? He wakes up earlier. He takes care of himself physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, right? His mind, his mode, his model, his mission, the four core, the core four of our program. Mind, right? The way your brain processes information. Mode, your emotions, how you manage your emotions, right? Learning how to understand your emotions, learning how to express your feelings in a healthy, strong way, right? Number 3 is your, your model, your behavior, right? The things that you do, your habits. And then 4, your mission, right? Being in alignment, right, with a greater mission, right? Which is God's calling on your life, being in alignment with that. And again, guys, this is why I only want to work with 5 guys, 5 guys Right, Matt, I'll reach out to you, brother. Don't worry about it. 5 guys who are ready and willing to go all in. If you're ready and willing to go all in, please message me. You can message me right now. Just message me driven, right? Driven, guys. If you guys are messaging me on TikTok, message me driven right now. I'm looking for 5 guys who are ready to go all in and who are ready to commit. Again, if that's not you, if you're not ready to go all in, please don't message me. I only want to work with guys who are fully committed because we get in the trenches with you. Right? And we'll do the heavy lifting with you. And that's why, guys, I've been playing these testimonials all night for you guys. That's why these guys get the results that they get. Results don't lie, right? And anybody can say whatever they want until they get on the inside of the program and their life is completely changed. And that's the reality here. That's what we're doing. We're helping people change their lives, right? Everything is already there, guys. All you got to do is apply it. All you got to do is fully commit. All you got to do is be all in. Stop the excuses. Stop the bullshit. Stop the blaming. Stop living in the gray area. Stop the self-doubt, the procrastination, and stop projecting all of your fears and all of your doubts onto, onto real-life solutions that have worked for thousands of men before you. So again, guys, if you're interested in doing this, right, again, I'm only looking for 5 guys for a limited time who are ready to go all in, who are ready to commit, right? And let's go, right? Message me right now, driven. Right? You can shoot me a message with the word "driven." I'll get right back to you. Let's talk about it. Again, though, I'm only looking for 5 fully committed individuals who are ready to reignite the spark in their marriage, unlock their full potential, and learn how to communicate and manage their emotions on a level that they've never experienced before. So if this is you, right? If this is you, if you're ready to really transform your life from the inside out, then message me tonight. Message me tonight. Let's get it started, man. Now is the time, right? No more time to waste. No more living in the gray area. Stop the excuses, right? Commit. It's time. All right? You've been here long enough. And look, you need the help. Whether you work with me, you work with us, or you work with somebody else, you need the help. So even if you don't work with us, guys, you need the help. Get the help. Your family needs it. Your family deserves it. Your wife deserves it. Your wife needs it. They need you as the strong, amazing man, amazing leader that you know you are deep down inside. You know you're capable. You know you're an amazing leader. You know you're capable of making these changes. Stop making excuses. Stop believing that you can't. Stop, stop saying, well, I don't have this or I don't have that. Right? Invest in yourself for the first time in your life. Invest in yourself because let me tell you right now, that investment's going to pay dividends into every area of your life. Results don't lie, guys. Make the investment before it's too late. All right, guys, love and respect. Take care tonight. I hope you guys had a great Thanksgiving, and I'll see you guys soon. Shawnee the Kid, thank you so much, brother.