When your partner is angry, stay calm and ask what's really bothering them. She was upset about her body and a messy house, not about you. The anger often comes from skipped self-care like exercise or therapy.
So my wife was very triggered today and projecting all of her anger onto me. Utilized the downshift technique, did not react. Honey, do you want to share about your trigger today?
Yeah, you ever like been on your period and you have nothing to wear and you feel like you look fat and ugly and then like the house is a mess and you just hate everything?
Guys, don't ever take that take it personal. It's not personal. Better not take it personal. You got something to say, honey? What? Nice. Anything else you want to say, hun, in regard to all that?
That's it.
Is that it?
Yeah. I'm sorry.
It's all right. Appreciate your apology. Thank you, honey. Welcome. Anything else you'd like to say about any of that?
Yeah, I need to work on self-care.
You need to work on self-care.
Appreciate your support. Thank you.
So what happened? You weren't prioritizing your self-care. So what happened?
I don't know what happened.
You know what happened. What happened?
I just told you what happened. Not going to the gym, not working on my trauma, not taking time for myself.
Need to do that. I love you. Love you. Proud of you. Thank you. All right guys, you heard it here.
