When you start improving yourself, people who've relied on you being broken get uncomfortable. They used your dysfunction to avoid their own problems, and your growth threatens that. Breaking free means accepting their doubt and choosing yourself over their expectations.
Some people prefer you broken. Why? Because you're not a threat. You're not doing anything great in your life. You're not forcing them to have to look at themselves by modifying your behavior. See, when you start achieving your success, it's going to make a lot of people in your life really uncomfortable. Why? Because they're so used to you being broken. They're so used to you being the scapegoat. They're so used to you not living at your full potential, and they're so used to making you the reason why they're miserable. Some people like you broken. They prefer you broken because at that point they don't know how to do the relationship once you get healthy. What's their role then? What role do they play in the relationship when they can't enable you, try to fix you, cosign what you do, when they can't dissociate and they finally have to start to connect with you? Because dysfunction breeds dysfunction. In order to stay in a dysfunctional relationship, you have to be dysfunctional to some degree. Some people, they prefer you broken. You start investing in yourself, they start doubting you. They tell you why what you're doing isn't going to work because all the quick fixes you've tried in the past. And so then you don't invest again, and you're still waiting for the people in your life to validate your vision before you take action. Think about that. So you're asking other people whether or not you should take the steps that you need to take to change your own life. And do you think people that prefer you broken want you to make those steps, want you to make those changes? No, they want to make you the reason. They want to make you the scapegoat. And if that's the type of relationship you're in, if that's the type of dynamic that's gone on in your life over the years, then you really need to ask yourself why you're not living at your full potential. Because here's the thing, you want to be in a relationship where you're the scapegoat, why you're the reason for why everything's gone wrong. You want to carry the labels that you're given? You want to be confused about what the actual problem is? Or do you want to step into something better for yourself regardless of who you're with? That's the real question.
