Tim Arrigo talks to men about reclaiming inner peace after a partner withdraws. Stop blaming circumstances, do the internal work, and recognize codependency patterns. He offers a free training for men ready to see themselves as the source of their relationship problems.
You're not going to win your wife back, so you should just stop trying and realize that the whole process of you pursuing your wife and her withdrawing is causing you to lose your identity. You're losing your sense of self, brother. You're losing your sanity in the process. You're losing your strength. You're losing your power, and you're becoming codependent. You're putting off that energy of desperation. You're losing who you are. Let me ask you this: what do you deserve in this life? Do you deserve happiness? Do you deserve peace? Do you deserve to stop pursuing another person only to settle for breadcrumbs and get rejected rather than finding your strength amidst this adversity? Maybe God is not allowing you to get your wife back because it's time for you to get back a relationship with yourself. It's time for you to get back your edge. It's time for you to get back to a place, right, where you can have inner peace inside. In other many times in my life. Same with a lot of brothers in the Total Breakthrough Academy, right? Where I tried to fix the inside from the outside. But you can't fix the inside from the outside. You can only fix the inside from the inside. You got to go internally. You gotta work on your inner world first. That's why it's like trying to solve the problems inside your marriage. You don't have marital problems, you have personal problems that affect your marriage. That's why marriage counseling has never worked for you, because You continue to put those problems, your internal issues, in the hands of somebody else that, A, doesn't care about those problems as much as you do, and B, is not even equipped to solve those problems the way that you can. Brother, nobody is more capable of solving your marital issues than you. But it requires you to look at yourself and realize that the problems are inside of you. They are not outside of you. Stop blaming your wife. Stop blaming the circumstances. Stop making yourself a victim amidst this process. If you want to learn more about how about how to do this, how to transform this, I put together a brand new free training specifically made for you. And I'm talking to you, if I'm talking to you, this is for you. And if I'm not talking to you, this doesn't apply to you. This is for guys who know they are the problem inside the relationship, who are dealing with inner conflict, who are feeling stuck, who are knowing that they have internal issues that they have yet to be able to identify, become aware of, and resolve. There is a link right below this video. Check out the free training, man. At the very least, I hope you take something away from it that will benefit you and your relationship in the future.
