Tim Arrigo tells men to imagine another man treating their wives and families the way they do, then use that rage to change. Real transformation comes from disgust with your old self and a commitment to new behavior, not just words.
If another man treated your wife and your family the way that you did, you'd have it out for him. And don't tell me that you wouldn't want to stop it right away. See, the irony is sometimes that we don't take into consideration the fact that we can look in the mirror and we can decide and we can make a choice to change the dysfunctional behaviors in our life that are making everybody in our life that we love the collateral damage to the fact that we're not making those changes. See, how would you feel if you watch somebody else talk to your wife, treat your wife the way that you do? How would you feel if you saw another man be absent, emotionally unavailable, riddled with excuses the way that you are, putting your family second? How would you feel about that? Because if that doesn't stir up some emotion, if you— if that doesn't stir up some anger— see, anger can be useful. If you know how to use it appropriately. And sometimes the first step to changing your life is feeling a sense of anger inside, disgust, when you get brutally honest with yourself about where you're really at. Because I know for me, I had to get really tired of the man that I was. I had to get really sick and disgusted with the way that I was living my life, and I had to establish a new standard about the man I wanted to be, and I had to have it out for the old version of me.
