A speaker argues men need to shift between different versions of themselves depending on the situation: strength and decisiveness at work, but sensitivity and listening at home. Being multidimensional solves relational problems without forcing business power dynamics into marriage and family.
It's time to stop being one-dimensional. What this requires from you— solving the issues in your marriage— what it requires from you is for you to step into a new version of yourself. See, your whole life you've had to step into a new version of yourself, and right now this is requiring you to become a multi-dimensional man, a man who can show up different in different environments and understands that different environments require different aspects of his manhood. It's about meeting the moment with what the moment most requires from you. See, you should have that powerful side. You should have that protective side. You should have that strong side of who you are, but also you should have the sensitivity, the caring, the compassionate side of who you are as well. Being emotionally intelligent, being able to be a leader, be the protector, be the provider, but also be a listener, be a be a supporter, be an encourager. It's about learning how to be decisive, to be the problem solver, to be assertive when you need to be. But also, it's about getting on one knee, looking your kids in the eyes, attuning to them. It's about learning how to listen, learning how to listen as a solution to a problem. It's about not always having to be right. It's about what— yeah, you You can be strong, you can be confident, but you can also be patient. You can be understanding. You can learn to compromise, be a negotiator. See, when you understand this, you understand that you could be a multi-dimensional man and meet the moment with what the moment most requires from you, which allows you to do what? Solve problems in your relationships without trying to use your power through mentality that you use in your business. You should be the encourager, the one who uplifts people in your environment. Why are you not doing that? It's about being able to be that authoritative figure that you want to be, but also you can be humble and understanding. You can be the rock, you can be the pillar, but you can also be gentle and you can also be loving. You can be an amazing an amazing companion to your wife, an amazing father, an amazing son, brother. And you can learn to transition into different aspects of who you are because you know and understand that different environments require different aspects of who you are. It's about bringing the balance of all those parts of you— the leader, the protector, the encourager, the mentor, the, the friend, the father. And not just this one-dimensional version of you. You can't fit a round peg through a square hole, bro. So stop trying to be the guy that you are at the office inside your home. Stop trying to be the guy that you are with your friends with your wife. Stop trying to be the guy that you are out in public. See, what does the moment most require from you? And what aspect or what version of you needs to show up in that moment? That's the real question.
