She married you because you were aligned with the greater purpose

Number one problem that a lot of men have in their marriage is that they continue to make their wife their number one pursuit. Brother, you need to make yourself and aligning yourself with the will of God your number one pursuit. Aligning yourself with a better version of you. The most optimized version of me should be something that I visualize and conceptualize every day multiple times a day. So many of you guys, you're, you're pursuing your wife and you're putting your wife in a position, right, that invariably she doesn't want to be in. Your wife wants you to have goals. Your wife wants you to pursue those dreams, your vision, but still make time for her and let her be a part of that. She's such an asset, a major asset in your life. God gave you this beautiful asset, your wife. She wants to participate and contribute, but she doesn't want to be your number one pursuit. I can't figure it out, Tim. I can't figure it out. You're still putting off this needy energy with your wife, this codependent energy, walking on eggshells, and every little thing you do, you overthink it. And so it's not genuine, it's not real. And every little thing that you do, you do it with a subconscious expectation, like, look at me, look at me, seeking validation from your wife when your wife is just saying, hey, I just want you to do this and be this way genuinely without trying to manipulate me for something, without trying to get something from me in return, without trying to prove something. Just by being it. Because that's what was most attractive to your wife from the very beginning was the essence and the energy that you carried of authenticity, the energy of that, that confident energy, right? You were in a position where you weren't willing to sacrifice where you wanted to go You weren't willing to sacrifice, right, being a lesser version of yourself for some instant gratification. A man who she could trust to lead her, but also contributed and made her a part of that bigger picture. See, the reality is Making your wife your number one pursuit makes you less attractive because you're not chasing dreams, goals, visions. And if you've ever built big things in your life, which I know you have, think about it. You can still build big things and have a beautiful, big marriage, beautiful, robust, romantic connection with your wife. And see, what you forgot is you don't know how to have the, the equilibrium between the two. The beauty is when your wife sees you pursue what you want but still incorporate her as a part of that bigger picture. Get ahead of it. Get ahead of it. Before it's too late.