Tim Arrigo argues that blaming your spouse for unhappiness keeps you stuck in a victim mentality. The only relationship that truly limits your growth is the one you have with yourself. Take ownership instead of waiting for someone else to change.
Stop assuming that because your spouse is not changing, that that's the reason why you're miserable. See, a lot of you guys, you think that somehow, some way, your spouse is going to change their behavior and that's going to completely absolve you of all your internal issues. And see, that mindset is still a mindset based on dependency, seeking external solutions to internal issues and believing that the solution is outside of you and not actually within you. This puts you in a position of victimhood. It keeps you powerless. It keeps you believing that you can't excel or become successful unless somebody else does something. So they become the scapegoat as to why you're unhappy, miserable, depressed, anxious, frustrated, and not living at your full potential. See, when you start to actually take ownership and responsibility for your life, you also start to look at the relationships that you choose to keep. Stop assuming that because because you're locked in or stuck in a relationship. Nobody's stuck in a relationship. Stop making excuses. Stop putting the other person in the position of power that they didn't earn. You're giving people positions in your life that they didn't earn, and you keep blaming them, which keeps you in a state of just feeling stuck, broken, victimized. Stop blaming your spouse for why you haven't achieved your full potential. Start to look in the mirror and realize the only relationship that is keeping you stuck from living at your full potential is the one you have with yourself.
