A man who blames his wife for his moods is predictable, and predictability kills trust. When you externalize responsibility instead of looking inward, you hand power to someone else and become a marionette. Your ego and denial are the walls keeping you stuck.
Justifying your emotional reactions. Why do you do this? Why do you justify the way you react? Why do you blame other people for the way that you react? Because every time you blame other people for the way that you react, there's no reason for you to have to look inside. There's no reason for you to have to look inward. Your justifications of blaming your wife for the way that you react and blaming other people for the way that you react is really preventing you from having to look at yourself, number one. And number two, you're giving them the power. You're giving away your power, bro. You're giving people in your life power and control over you. You like being the world's sock puppet? You like being in a position where you're just a marionette on a, on a set of strings and people can just say and do whatever they want around you and you just react? Just predictable in your reactions. It's like, watch, watch. Hey, say something to— say something to Tim and watch him react. I never want to be like that. I never want to be that predictable in my reactions. Are you that type of man where people can literally just predict the fact that you're going to react based, based off of something they share with you? And that's 9 times out of 10 why your wife doesn't want to share anything with you, because you're predictable. You're predictable in the way that you react, and your reaction is not positive. And that predictability, that reactionary behavior is going to be the end of your marriage. Your wife and your kids are going to suffer because of that. Because why? You don't want to look inside. You don't want to look at you. Your ego is so massive. Your walls of, of, of denial and evasion, your walls All these protective mechanisms. You've erected walls over the course of your life as a way to stay safe. And let me tell you right now, those walls that you created to stay safe have now become a mental prison that you can't get out of. And then here, here's me talking to you directly in this video right now, and you're still watching this, and you're watching this for a reason, because I'm talking directly to you because I've been there. My question is, are you going to keep watching this video? Are you going to keep watching these videos? Are you going to do what's necessary to actually make the changes and stop making excuses and stop procrastinating? Exactly what brought you to this video and made you listen to this video up until now will be the same exact thing that what? You continue to put off something deep within you that's calling you to make these changes. And see, your reactions being like a hair trigger in that environment, causing people that love you to walk on eggshells, is going to cause you to lose everything in your life that matters most. Everything. My question for you is, is that the price you're willing to pay?
