Tim Arrigo tells men to stop using divorce as an excuse and start taking responsibility for their relationships. He argues divorce damages kids psychologically and financially, and that invoking it masks fear. Real leadership means extreme ownership and massive action, not blaming others.
You throw around this word and you don't realize the damage that it causes when you do. You throw around this word and you don't realize that you throw it around like it's an escape clause. It's basically the caveat. It's the thing that you throw out to really avoid doing the work. And that word is divorce. You say things like, well, why don't we just get a divorce? Or, I want a divorce. Or, why don't you just divorce me? And you say these things and you throw this word around as though somehow or some way it's not creating damage. And we all know what kind of damage divorces cause, right? Psychologically, emotionally, financially, on the children, right? What people have to go through when they get a divorce. So you throw around this word because you're really scared and afraid to do the work on the inside. Stop throwing around this word divorce. If, if divorce and walking away and bailing out is an option for you, then okay. But don't call yourself a man when you know that you're not living at your full potential and you're throwing around the word divorce as some, some type of escape from you actually having to do the work. And believe me, I know that you don't like being blamed. I know that you don't like being the scapegoat for every problem in the relationship. I get that. But when you're not leading with massive action and clear intention and you're not living at your full potential, the water is muddy. You can't tell whose problems are whose. And if you're going to take extreme ownership and own your part, then you better start to correct it. Stop throwing around the word divorce. If that's an option for you, then okay, then this message isn't for you. This message is for men who want to live at their full potential, men who know that they're living below par, that they're trying to get other people to accept a suboptimal existence that they're in. If you want live above reproach, if you want to live and be a rare man in this generation, if you want to lead your family, and if you truly believe that leading your family can fix every problem you have, then this message is for you. My program is all about people who want to change their life, people who believe that their lack of leadership, their lack of ownership, their lack of self-discipline, their lack of self-control is what's creating division and the problems in their family. It's not for men who want to escape, who want to make excuses, who want to live in the gray area, who want to self-destruct, who want to be a victim. It's for men who want to level up. So if you're one of those guys, this message is for you today. Stop using that word divorce.
