Use "I feel" instead of blame to stop arguments with your spouse. When you own your reactions rather than attack your partner, they stay open instead of defensive. The speaker offers coaching and an app to practice this daily.
How to eliminate a fight with your spouse before it even happens. I statements. So many of you guys don't use I statements. You say things like, you make me feel this way when this happens, instead of I feel this way when this happens. See, you blame the other person, which sets them up to become defensive. And instead of doing this, right, try using I statements. I statements take somebody off of the defense in it appearing as a personal attack. It also prevents you from looking like you're blaming the other person for the way that you reacted, the way that you feel. I statements shows ownership and personal responsibility. It shows that you're not making it about them and their behavior. You're making it about you and how you acted, how you felt, and you're taking extreme accountability and ownership for the things that you thought, the things that you felt, and the things that you did. Using I statements shows that you are taking responsibility and that you are able to consciously and in the moment actually show the other person that you are cognizant of the way that you felt. That's why so many of you guys are locked up. You don't have the emotional intelligence, right? Inside my coaching program, inside of our private groups and our private coaching, right, I give you guys the techniques and tools. Inside of our private app, I help you repeat repetitively these techniques so you can get real results in your life, right? Stop, stop dedicating 1 hour a week to change, right? Step in the ocean of change. You start experiencing real results and real change right now.
