Ken describes the rush of social media likes as a drug-like high that keeps people coming back. Tim traces it to a lack of self-worth and argues that even wealthy, successful people chase external wins that never stick, leaving a spiritual void that money and status can't fill.
So you're seeking validation?
Oh yeah, and it feels good. It's like, uh, I don't know, a shot, a drink. Uh, I don't do drugs, but it feels good when you get that like. It's just like, woo, man, I've gotten up to 16 likes today, man. I must have put something good out there that they like. And then, yeah, it just starts building, and you're like, wow, I must have done this right, and I want to reinforce that tomorrow. I want to have the same good feeling that I have. So it kind of brings you back, like, oh Better do it again. Got to feel it again today.
Right. So the real question is then, then how would you overcome that? Because if you're seeking external validation, seeking external validation is always connected to what? Lacking what?
Self-worth.
Correct.
So I thought I was good enough myself. Why do I need others to tell me Ken's in check? He's good.
Yeah, man. And I'll tell you right now, I've worked with some of the most successful people in all of America, literally some of the top performers in America. And I'll tell you, they got the greatest life from the outside looking in. You get under the hood on that thing and you'll see it's not the life that you actually wanted. Because in the word it says, right, what does it pay a man, right, to win the world and lose his soul in the process? Everything that is material is temporal. And those things aren't even the things that people actually want. They want the feeling they think, they think those things are going to give them. People don't want a house on the beach in Newport Beach with a Ferrari, right? And you're right, they don't want those things. They want the feeling they think those things are going to give them. And then you wake up with those things one day and you— it's just a car and it's just a house and it doesn't really have any depth.
Yeah, that's all it is, really.
It's crazy.
