Tim Arrigo argues that entrepreneurs often sacrifice family for business success, confusing their identity with their company. He introduces downshifting: delegating work, separating yourself from the business, and slowing down to be present with people who depend on you.
What is freedom and success? Freedom and success isn't doing what you feel like doing, isn't doing right what you want to do. It's doing what is right. It's doing what prevents consequences and fallout in your life, and that doesn't distract you from the path that you know you need to be on. It's doing what helps you be the example so you can rise as a leader and guide your team, guide your children, and guide your wife, right? You've most likely thought that success was doing whatever you wanted to do. But most of what you want to do, just because it feels good, doesn't mean it's good for you. It's about what's doing— it's about what's doing what is right and the things that honor the people who depend and rely on you most. It's about doing the right thing, not what feels good, because oftentimes what feels good isn't the right thing, and oftentimes the right thing doesn't always feel good. That's why your family Right? Life may feel hollow and empty. It's because your heart posture isn't one of openness. It's hardheadedness. It's you want to do what you want to do because doing what you've done has got you to where you're at in your success and in your business. You've never used— right? You've used your business to create this identity that you have instead of using your identity to create your business that you have. And so you can't even stop for 5 seconds to be present and look in your kid's eyes, your wife's eyes. So why do you think that they're struggling? Why do you think that they're suffering? Inevitably, you and I both know that your kids are gonna hopefully not have to go to therapy, but a lot of times they end up there because you just won't slow down and be present. They want your identity, but your identity is wrapped up in what you've created. And what did you create? Your business. You created a machine that's literally so large that it's consuming everything in its wake and spitting it out in shreds, shredded pieces, family photos broken into pieces because of the thing that you created. You need to downshift. Take advantage of the Downshift Method. It's, it's in the link in my bio. You need to downshift, not live in the fear of losing your your success constantly. Why? You're afraid of losing your success because your identity is wrapped up into it. Who am I without these things? You need to deal with those insecurities that don't allow you to delegate. That's why you don't ever invest in yourself on the inside, is because you're so hyperfocused on controlling the outside. The crazy thing is, not delegating is really caused by you just wanting to control everything on the outside, controlling Your identity, which is what? Your business. It's everything on the outside. You haven't separated what you've created from who you are. But the problem is your identity is no longer who you are. It's what you were able to create. And who you'd be without it is what scares the living crap out of you. Without what you've built. That's the double-edged sword. Be consumed by a business that you love and hate because it helped you build and provide. For the very thing that you now can't protect from that machine. And when you're in that position, you have to learn how to downshift. This is going to make you more successful in business, more successful as an entrepreneur, as a leader in your home, in your community, in your family, right, with your employees. This is one of the most important things that we have to learn how to do, which is shift gears downwards, not power through. So take advantage of this guide. It's in my bio right now. Extract some value from this. Take— just take 5 minutes and read this over. Trust me, if you're a guy like me, you're going to benefit a lot from this. It'll open up your mind to help you realize why you're experiencing all the problems in your marriage and how you can solve this— the— all the issues in your marriage without sacrificing your business or career.
