Tim Arrigo tells men trying to save their marriage to stop chasing that outcome and focus on becoming better instead. Either you fix yourself and save the marriage, or you grow enough that you won't repeat the same mistakes next time. Attaching to results you can't control sets you up to fail.
Every time I get on a call with a guy, when we enroll him into the Academy, he tells me, he says, the number one goal I have is to win my wife back. But see, what that is, is you're setting yourself up to potentially fail because your outcome is something external that you can't control, brother. Let me explain to you the win-win situation. See, scenario A, you work on your personal development, you become a better man, you come out the other side and you save your marriage. Scenario B: you work on your personal development, you come out the other side, your marriage doesn't work out, but you prepare yourself for whatever God has for you next, and you assure yourself that you never end up in the situation that you were in ever again. Or you just never do the work. Remember, stop attaching yourself to an external outcome that you can't control. Your personal development is your number one priority. Just focus on becoming a better version of you. Don't have any strings attached. Don't have an instant gratification mindset and don't expect anything external. The ROI, the return on your investment for your personal development is an internal return. It's an internal reward. It's a sense of confidence. It's a sense of contentment. It's a sense of self-assurance, self-reliance, independence. Authenticity, self-love that truly emanates from within. Don't look into the external for the result. Look inside yourself.
