Tim Arrigo explores contempt as the strongest predictor of divorce. He discusses how feeling small in a relationship erodes connection and what it takes to rebuild respect and empowerment between partners.
And already what we know, bro, is that contempt is the leading cause of divorce. It's the number one indicator that a marriage is failing and on the verge of divorce. It's disrespect. We're there. Yeah, it's one person believing that they're superior to the other. It's like you driving in the car with your wife and then, you know, your wife going like, why'd you go this way? Like, don't you know there's always traffic this way? You should have let me drive.
Yeah, this has been going on for quite a few years, Tim.
Yeah, you gotta stop believing that you're small. Have you ever felt small?
I don't know if I've felt small. I felt like crap, and I've—
have you not liked me? Like, like powerless, like you couldn't do something, like you couldn't protect yourself? Have you ever felt small before?
Yes, I'm feeling it right now because Chris and I went through this, and I have a sandbox very similar in my little notepad here.
Yeah, and I have failed to do it. Yeah, I've felt small too before in my life. I've felt small many times. And the reality was, when I became an adult, I continued to make myself feel small by not taking the action steps that I needed to take to create empowerment.
