A speaker tells men facing divorce or infidelity to see the crisis as a turning point, not a defeat. He contrasts playing the victim against taking ownership and using the pain to build character. The Book of James frames trials as blessings, and he urges men to emerge as mentors for others.
Don't you understand that these marital problems are just the conduit for your spiritual awakening? All this is, is God getting your attention. That's all that is happening right now. Through this point of adversity, God is calling you to something greater, but you have to walk through the fire and do the required work. So many men in the academy, what do they say? This is the best thing that ever happened to me. So let me ask you right now, what if the worst day of your life Your wife said she wanted a divorce. You found out your wife was cheating on you. What if the worst day of your life became the best day of your life simultaneously? What if you look back on that experience and you're like, oh my God, this is the best thing that ever happened to me because it radically changed me by forcing me to look at myself? You know what most guys want to do? They want to blame their wife. They want to slough off the blame onto their wife. They want to avoid responsibility. They want to play the victim. They want to ruminate in what's wrong. But then there's the men that want to take action. Then there's the men that want to transform. Then there's the men that see that it's happening for them and not happening to them. They decide to not be a victim but become empowered by the adversity, to grow through the adversity, to learn from the adversity. Because what happens if you don't do that? Yeah, you might get through it, and it's like, wow, I got through that. But you didn't gain anything from it. You didn't get forged by the fire. You didn't come out and understand that It's the university of adversity. That adversity is going to reveal two things: the true nature of your character and your willingness to preserve that character. Who are you really? And how bad do you want to keep and preserve who you really are and change and transform and become somebody new, rising from the ashes to take the form of something new? Listen, brother, you're a king. Understand this. Understand this. You're a king. There is nothing that separates you from I, you from me. There is no difference. I am a man who holds up the mirror to you. I am the man that lights the torch in the darkness that you will carry. I am the man that will remind you of your greatness. I am the man who will remind you of your worth. I am the man who will not allow you to have the excuses that hinder your progress, your brilliance, your power. Guess what? When the journey is over with you and I, when you stand in victory through blood, sweat, and tears, you're You look behind you, there's another man behind you, and he has his hand out. And you get to be that man for the next man. Can't you see that God is calling you to something greater? Says in the book of James, count it a blessing when you go through trials. See, God never promised that you wouldn't go through storms. He promised you that he would be there with you when you did go through them. And trust me, we're either walking into a storm, we're in a storm, or we're coming out of one. That's the test. That's the test of our character, our integrity, in the virtues that we developed amidst the adversity. See this adversity and see its potential to help you grow. Hindsight doesn't have to be 20/20 on this thing. You can see the growth amidst the struggle right now. Allow the worst day of your life to simultaneously become the best day of your life. That's a choice.
