A man talks to other men about hidden pain spilling into their relationships and families. He says ego and the illusion of control keep them from seeking help, but thousands of men have found healing through supportive networks of what he calls solid individuals who form a chain of mutual support.
Brother, you're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. You're hurt and you need to heal. A lot of the wounds on the inside of you, you're bringing into that relationship. Other people shouldn't have to suffer for the things that you didn't heal. Other people shouldn't have to suffer for the work that you haven't done. Other people shouldn't have to be the collateral damage to the parts of you on the inside that you won't look at. You can't heal what you hide, man. And here's the reality. Your skin is translucent, bro. People see right through it. It's obvious. It's obvious. Stop pretending like you can just keep it all together and that people don't notice. You're not fooling anyone, man. Your walls of self-deception have become so thick. You're in these irrational beliefs. You're so stuck in this false reality, this false sense of security. Your guard, your ego won't even let you reach out. Do you know there's literally men waiting to support you. Do you know the power of being locked in with solid individuals? Solid individuals who got your back, who understand because they've been there, they've lived it, they've experienced it. Do you understand the power of this? Men who have come before you, men who have pioneered that path. It's like links of a chain, man. You hold on to the guy in front of you and you also hold on to the guy behind you. And you don't think that brings value into your life? You don't think that's going to transform you? When you finally let go of the illusion of control that you think you have, but you don't. You don't think that's going to take you somewhere? Just imagine right now if you went all in on this, on this promise to yourself, this commitment, this investment that you're going to make into yourself. Just imagine if you fully went all in and gave yourself 100%. Imagine what you're truly capable of. Imagine what you could truly achieve. I mean, look, Look what you've created by doing what you've been doing. Look at the destruction, the chaos, the condition of your life that's been created by your procrastination, man. You can't keep putting this off. You're not getting healthier. You're not— you're not more attractive to your wife. You're not having a better marriage. You're not a better father. You're not making more money. You're not in any of these states. Nothing good is coming out of this. And the only reason you're doing this is because you're so hardheaded. Your ego is so massive. That you won't reach out. But the craziest part is there's thousands of men who have been in the same exact condition as you, and reaching out, they all look back and say, that was the best decision I ever made in my life. Thousands of them saying the same thing. Your self-doubt, and then you project that— this won't work for me, or that won't work for me, or this person doesn't know. And isn't it crazy that you're the one that everybody comes to for answers to problems, yet you don't have the answers to the biggest problem in your life? And you would think that a person like you would be smart enough and intelligent enough to know by now that you haven't been able to figure out on your own. And it's not because you're not intelligent, it's not because you're not capable, it's because you need help. And there's nothing wrong with that. In fact, that's one of the healthiest things you could ever do as a man and most mature things you could ever do as a man is reach out for help when you need it.
