You can't change other people by forcing them to fit your expectations. Real influence comes from fixing yourself first, overcoming your own limiting beliefs and habits so you naturally lead better in relationships and family life.
See, you have it all backwards. You're trying to get people to fit into a box. You're trying to get people to change. You're trying to get other people to be who they're not so that you're more comfortable with yourself. You're trying to get your wife to basically tolerate and accept your self-destructive behavior. You're making excuses like, this is just the way that I'm wired, and you're becoming intolerant towards other people because They're not conforming. So you're trying to change the environment around you instead of changing the environment inside of you. Your whole life you've tried to fix the inside from the outside. You need to stop doing that. See, when you, you fix the inside, the outside— you naturally have influence over the outside. I mean, let me ask you a question. Here's the million-dollar question: do you believe that if you were in complete alignment with the best version of you, do you believe that if you literally overcame all of your self-defeating beliefs, all of your procrastination, and you tapped back into your full potential, do you believe that you have the power to provide a positive influence and lead your family? And in turn, by leading your family, things could get better. There's your answer. See, stop trying to get people to fit into a box. Stop trying to get people to conform to what you want so that you can feel more comfortable with yourself.
