Tim Arrigo explains why you can't see what others are doing wrong: you're blind to your own part in the conflict. Anger masks fear. Depression is often blocked expression. Understanding yourself first is how you stop blaming everyone else.
You can't see their part because you can't see your part. See, your inability to introspect, to look inward, causes you to project on everybody around you, right? Your anger is a facade. Your anger is a mask. It's a defense mechanism that you use to overcompensate or to really avoid what's really going on with you on the inside. You can't see their part Because we're seeing their part would require you to have empathy. And see, empathy is emotional understanding. You don't have emotional understanding because you don't even understand your own emotions. All you allow yourself to feel is what you deem to be acceptable emotions, which for most of you is just anger. And so you allow yourself to feel the anger, you express the anger, but you depress all the other emotions. And that's why a lot of times you're depressed. And see, What's the opposite of depression? It's not happiness. The opposite of depression is expression. See, to depress something means to push it down. What's the opposite of that? To let it out, express it. There's a block between who you are and who you truly are because of everything that you bottle up. You can only fit so much in here, by the way. I don't know if you knew that. And then your cup is all the way full and it pours over, spills over onto everyone else in your life, and they become the collateral damage for your unresolved emotions. See, the key here is developing emotional intelligence, understanding your story and how it's affected you. Relationship management, self-awareness, stress management. See, these are critical components to being successful. Success is not strictly an exterior— external thing. It's an internal job. And see, when you become a success on the inside, right, when you work on yourself, when you develop this emotional intelligence, you're going to feel free in a way you never have in your life before. You're going to feel uninhibited. You're going to feel like you can move about. You're going to have a healthy relationship with you because you're going to operate from a space of, of self-love. Your inability to love other people and truly connect with them a lot of times is just out of fear because You don't know how to connect with yourself.
