Tim Arrigo tells a divorced man that partners are attracted to people with clear goals and independence, not neediness. Cultivate a mission and leadership mindset, and you'll naturally attract someone who matches that version of yourself.
Your wife isn't attracted to your neediness. Your wife is attracted to your own pursuit of your own dreams, your own goals, your own mission, vision, values. Your wife is attracted to you when you're on the pursuit of greatness, when you have something in your life that has so much meaning to you that you are chasing it with a passion, with a fervor, right, with an excitement, but you still make time for her and you her a priority in your life. Your wife is never going to want to be in a position, right, with you where she feels like you need her, you depend on her, you rely on her. In that sense, you got to find your independence. And maybe this divorce was the best thing that ever happened to you because it gave you an opportunity for you to have a relationship with yourself and do the work that you need to do on yourself so you can have a better relationship with yourself. You ever thought about it like that? Because here's the deal, once that work happens, it puts you in a position to therefore then attract what you want. Because brother, you're not going to attract what you want, you're going to attract who you are. And when you start attracting people in your life from that position, you know what you attract? Other healthy people. People, right, who are not in the same situation as you, are putting off this dependent energy, this energy of dependence. Your wife doesn't want a needy man. She wants a leader.
