A man's wife walks on eggshells because he's angry, reactive, and won't talk directly. His outbursts come from fear and hurt, not strength. He needs to soften his heart, speak calmly, and show his kids what a real man looks like.
So a client tells me that his wife won't approach him and that she's really kind of meek and doesn't speak her mind. I said, brother, that's probably because your wife is walking on eggshells. Your wife's walking on eggshells because you're so unapproachable. Your anger, your angry outbursts, you emotionally react. You can't even have a conversation with her. You just storm out of the room. You constantly use her trying to hold you accountable and approach you as a scapegoat to react. And then you get all passive-aggressive. You get all passive-aggressive with your wife, man. That is like, how do you even respect yourself after that? You get literally passive-aggressive with your wife instead of being loving, calm, assertive, direct, open, honest, communicative. You're just, you just shut down. You shut down cuz you can't truly confront how you really feel and what's going on with you. So it's easier for you to just project, deflect, and just avoid the conversation. People walk on eggshells because they don't even know how to confront you without you just being like a hair trigger. You come home and you're like a hair trigger. You just fire off on anything and any, anyone that's right there. You displace your anger, you blame shit, you do everything and anything to have to prevent yourself from looking within. And I want to tell you, we know the real reason why you don't do that. It's because you're really afraid and you're really hurt because Because anger is a secondary emotion. People only get angry if they're afraid and hurt and feeling a sense of powerlessness. So you feel this at times. People approach you, they want to talk to you, they actually care about you, they actually give a shit about you, but you don't even allow them to have that conversation and even be there to support you. You can't even accept the love that people freely want to offer you every single day of your life. And what is it like to live a life where your heart has so become so hardened? Your heart is hardened. Hard, man. It's time to learn how to walk in humility, walk in empathy, but still be strong and powerful. The powerful man that you're called to be in this generation. What kind of legacy are you leaving your kids? What are you teaching your kids? There's a way to communicate, and the art of effective communication— the tongue is one of the most powerful weapons in the— powerful muscles in the human body, and a powerful weapon. It can be used as a tool, right? It can be used to build people up and speak life over People also speak death. And you know, and I know, there's a lot of things that you've said that you can't take back. It's time to change all that because you and the people in your life deserve better.
