Great Conversations Define Life

Life is a series of conversations. You've heard that before, but what does it really mean? Well, step back for a minute and ask yourself. Everything good, meaningful that happened in your life. How much of it was just sitting alone, staring at a computer, staring at a phone, staring in your room alone? Yeah, I enjoy reading alone. Sometimes alone time can be good. But the biggest things that have an impact on your life. The job interview where you get the job. The interview at school that accepts you, proposing marriage to someone. Building actual friendships, talking with each other late at night in a dorm room, or over coffee, early morning or lunchtimes. It's conversations that actually create the fundamental building blocks of our lives. So it's critically important that you get good at it. If you want a good life, you actually have to be good at having conversations. I don't mean you have to become Mr. Extrovert, Ms. Extrovert and walk up and down the street and talk to every single person you ever see. Now you don't have to become an extrovert. Nothing wrong with considering yourself to be an introvert. But introverts have to have conversations with human beings. You might enjoy a little more time alone. That's fine. You might enjoy a smaller group of friends. Perfectly okay. You don't have to be the life of every party. In fact, you don't even have to go to parties. But you do have to have conversations with human beings. You can skip the big keg party where there are a thousand other people, but maybe you actually want to spend an hour or two hours with one or two friends from the chess club or the computer AI club. If you're in school, there's no one set size group of people you have to talk to on a regular basis. But if you want to be a successful human being, a happy human being, you're going to have to learn how to have conversations. Now this can be intimidating for a lot of people, especially these days when more and more people are spending hour after hour a day staring at a screen. Because when you stare at a screen, you do not increase your ability to have face to face communication. Now, I'm all in favor of virtual communication. And yes, I like to talk to people on FaceTime and Zoom. And what we're doing right here on social media is great when people talk to me, but it's no substitute for actually talking to someone in real life. It's conversations like that that quite often have the biggest impact in the business world. When you land your biggest clients, the six figure, seven figure, maybe even eight figure Clients, it's typically because you met with them face to face. If you're an entrepreneur and you're raising venture capital or even significant angel funds, it's not always, but it's typically because you're in the same room looking at those investors. Those investors are looking you. They want to see that you can look them in the face. They want to see that you can understand them, that you can actually respond to them and address their concerns. It's got to be a two way conversation. Now, it's untrue that nobody knows how to have conversations anymore. That's an exaggeration. And it's also untrue that in the past everyone was great at having conversations and everyone was some great conversationalist sitting around the Algonquin Roundtable discussing witty matters of philosophy and literature. That's a false reading of history. All you have to worry about is you and building your own comfort level in your ability to speak to people. Now, you might not want to speak on the grand stage to 100,000 people or to 50,000 people. That's okay. You might not want to go on the BBC or CNN or some big national international TV network and speak to millions of that's okay. But there are going to be times in your life when you want to speak to one person, two person, sometimes five, sometimes 20 people. And I want to give you the skills you need to come across your very best. For starters, realize that a conversation is actually more about listening than you pushing out an agenda, pushing out a message. Where people go wrong quite often is think, I'm gonna wait my turn, ignore everyone else and go through my own mind, everything I want to say. And then I'll just push it all out. And don't look at me or interrupt me or ask questions because I don't want to forget what I'm going to say. Wrong. Listen to other people, address their concerns first. Ideally, focus on one idea at a time and then ask them, did I address your concerns? This applies in personal conversations. It applies in the business world, for large corporations, for startups. If you're a startup and you're having a conversation with an investor, their first question, their first concern is what does this business do? Their second question is, how does it possibly make money? When you are giving a presentation like that, which is a type of conversation, you need to address those concerns right out of the box. That's much more important than getting into all the little details of your technology and all the bells and whistles, gizmos and your brilliant crafting of software. Nobody cares about that if they don't understand. What does your business do? What problem does your business solve? And how do you make money? Now, you might not be an entrepreneur. That's okay. You might be an administrator at a major hospital, and you're trying to change policies. You're trying to get doctors to wash their hands more or follow some other protocol. You've got to communicate with them on their terms. You've got to speak to them in a way that makes them understand you respect them. You're listening to them. You are concerned with them. You're giving them ample time to respond to you and share their concerns. And together you can figure out something that seems reasonable to everyone. That is the essence of good conversation. Where so many people go wrong is they're too passive. They just sit there and listen, and they expect the other person to do all the heavy lifting. Or they do the opposite. They do all the talking. They don't even give the other person a chance to ask a question. It needs to be balanced. I don't mean 50, 50. I don't mean you sit there with a stopwatch and say, well, you talk for 30 seconds. Now it's my turn to talk. 30 seconds. No, it can't be that tit for tat. It has to be roughly a flow that goes back and forth. And what makes it flow is you actually listening. Someone says something to you, whether it's a friend, a business associate, restate in your own words and then ask them, am I getting it? Did I understand you correctly? If you do, they're going to love you for it. They're going to think, finally, somebody actually gets me. Somebody's actually listening to me. And that will advance the conversation. It will make them much more open to hearing your views. Now, to take it even deeper, ask a question based on what they just told you so that you can go deeper in your understanding. That's how real conversations progress superficially, is just to listen to them Say, okay, you've had your piece, now let me say what I want to say. And you can have people going back and forth for hours. No real exchange of ideas take place because no one's listening to anyone. You don't want to be like that. Get in the habit of having real conversations where you truly listen to someone. Get rid of your own agenda for a few minutes. Listen to them, restate it, make sure you got it. Ask a question, listen more. But then it is your turn to participate with more than questions. It's your turn to share your Ideas, your thoughts, your reflections, your expertise. Even if all you do is ask questions, there's a chance the person feels like you're interviewing them or interrogating them like they're a criminal and you're the police officer. You don't want that. It needs to be more or less an even exchange, a meeting of minds. If you learn to have conversations like this, it's going to help you in your personal life, it's going to help you in your social life, it's going to help you in your professional life, your business life. Whether you are just beginning and launching a startup, whether you are an 80 year old chairman of a publicly traded company. These conversation skills will make life better for you and everyone you know. Okay, welcome folks. I'm TJ Walker. Thanks for joining me. We're just doing a little warm up here. Trying to launch and hop right in with a long form video about communication skills. I am T.J. walker. This is the T.J. walker Success Channel. It's all about helping you become more successful by being a better communicator and having more confidence in your communication. And I see a lot of comments coming in. Someone's asking me about various presidential candidates and I love talking about politics. I could talk about politics all day long. This isn't the place for that. This channel, we talk about apolitical communication skills. Now occasionally a politician will give a speech or a media interview and they do something either so well or so awful. It is a context for us to talk about how these skills apply to other people. So I won't say I've never ever, ever discussed a politician. But we don't get into the politics of the day. And once you do that, flame wars start and people want to call each other nasty names so we just don't get into that. But I do appreciate you didonic stopping by and saying hello. Brad says, what a handsome man and well spoken. Well, thanks a lot. I do appreciate that and I, I keep that in perspective given I quite often get comments in the other direction criticizing my appearance. Hey buddy, you're old, your skin is wrinkled, you're bald, you have beady eyes so you get all kinds. I think the best thing to do if you are going to be a communicator in a virtual world is you can read everything but sort of laugh it off or ignore things for the most part like that. Okay, comments are coming in already today. We have our Thursdays are a little bit different in that we go from 9:00am Eastern to 9:45 Eastern. Typically I Have to take a break. We then go live just for my Udemy students. I have more than 2 million online students, not just Udemy, Skillshare, other course platforms. We have a sort of a private training just for them where I'll critique their videos of their speeches and it's in a private setting and then I come back to you. Whether you're on TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Twitch and a few other Instagram. We're live again across all major platforms at 1045, typically until about noon. Comments coming in. Hello. Sorry for bothering you. I want to offer promotion of your channel. Viewers, followers, views, chatbots, etc. The price is lower than any competitor. The quality is guaranteed to be the best, flexible and convenient order management, panel, chat, panel, blah blah, get to steam rise so light. I don't mind you coming onto the show and promoting. I actually want to empower people to promote and get more comfortable promoting. Where we are different is I want you to get comfortable promoting while speaking. Because in, in this world, there's so much text. Everyone gets 10,000 email spams a day. Text. Did a spam bot write it? A robot? Who knows. Now, even though artificial intelligence can create images that speak, we talked about and demonstrated that yesterday, it's still comparatively rare. When you contrast that with the this absolute flood of marketing messages in a text format so light, I will, I'll promise you two things. If you are brave enough to hit the Streamyard link, you can come in and talk to me about your service and I will listen. So I guarantee you that. I can also guarantee you I would never in a million years just go check out your service for you. Posting text in my comments, not something I would do. I get so much of that every single day I have. Like you and most people, I get pitched every single day on LinkedIn by people who want me to use their service and want to meet with me in their Zoom Room. And I typically say, hey, I'm happy to meet with you. All you have to do is come to my live show and I'll let you in. I've done that probably a hundred times. I've had exactly one person take me up on it. Now what I started doing is as of yesterday is I'm telling people I'd be happy to chat with you. Here's my chatbot. I now have an artificial intelligence chatbot that can speak to you with a voice that sounds, I would say, 90% like my voice. And you can talk with me and ask me questions. So that's Another way I try to be accessible. My colleague Ben is in the. The green room. Ben, if you could get Muhammad ready for us because we do want to work on our. Our bumpers for the show. Our opening show credits, essentially an identifier. And we're going to have Ben on and I'm going to ask for feedback from all of you on social media. My friends on TikTok, I would love for you to see sort of the opening credit montage for my show. I can't show it to you on TikTok. I would need you to come over to my YouTube channel and all you have to do is go to YouTube and type in TJ Walker. Success. It'll be the first one that shows up. If that's too long to remember, just type in TJ Walker. It's typically the first or second channel that pops up. We've had, wow, almost a thousand people pop in, even if briefly on TikTok. Always appreciate so many friends stopping by on TikTok to say hello and lots of comments. Lynn is saying hello and Lewis Boings is with us. Anthony Denny, thanks so much for stopping by. Let me know if you have questions related to communication skills. That's what we're about right here on this show. Jeff has joined Joe Hogg, James Prada pink shirts wanting to come on camera with us. Pink shirt, I would love to talk with you. I. I can't do it on the TikTok platform. If you want to come join me on YouTube or frankly any other social media platform, we are live streaming right now. All you have to do is push the link to streamyard, which is in the comments and you can join us and come right on camera. Talk, ask questions, disagree, everything else. James Islander has written some questions. It says, why do you never see elephants hiding in trees? Because they're so good at it. Okay, thanks for sharing that commentary. Why is the person barely on camera? That's a fantastic question. So I am doing several things at once. Here I am talking to you on TikTok, but I'm talking to our community on YouTube, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitch. In my TV studio. In my TV studio I have a three camera layout and what I was doing earlier is I was doing an opening monologue essentially from camera one. Sort of my main set that shows me almost full body where I can walk around. I have my cell phone on a tripod and what they call it a gooseneck. And it's just hard for me to manipulate that to get it straight. So I apologize. Noah guy, it's A perfectly fine question. That's why I would love for you. We're trying to solve two problems. We're trying to get TikTok to allow us to multi stream from our streamyard account so we can be on other accounts. And I'd love to get you to come on over to our YouTube channel and that way you could see me properly framed and not standing over here out of the screen. So I do apologize for that. But that is in fact why does this camera, does the guy know where the camera is? So I do know where it is, but in the last minute of switching to camera one, I simply didn't adjust this gooseneck the right way. So apologies for that. And Taylor says hi big papa. Okay. My daughter doesn't, I don't know if my daughter actually calls me papa, but she does call me dad and had to say goodbye to her today. My 11 year old daughter went and took a field trip today with her entire class to St. Augustine, Florida. We live in South Florida. It's like a five hour trip. It's an overnight trip. And they learn all about the history of this town which claims to be either the oldest, depending on how you define oldest, or one of the oldest towns, settlements in the entire United States. So rich history. I haven't really spent time there in about 50 years, but that's where my daughter is who doesn't call me papa but just call me dad. Okay, Vanessa says it's like an interview with Biden. Now this is kind of amusing and Ben, can you see if you get Muhammad with us because he was supposed to join us five minutes ago. I don't mind comparisons. Now I typically, to other people, I typically would prefer it not to be someone who is old enough to be my father and 20 years older than I am, as in the case of President Biden. But I don't mind because I get it. Old white guys who don't have a lot of hair and what little hair they do have is gray. You can make the case we all look alike and I'm not offended by that because there's an element of truth to it. So Vanessa, thanks so much. I do appreciate your thoughts and some other kind comments as well. Command says, how do I send you on tv? What you on TV shows, sitcoms. Not quite sure what that means. So to my knowledge I've never been on any sitcom. I have been on pretty much every major news network in the United States, whether it's Fox News, msnbc, cnn, Bloomberg, cnbc, ABC News, you name it. And a Lot of major networks all over the world too, typically commenting on the communication skills of well known people, politicians, folks like that. So I'm often brought in as an analyst on communication skills. So maybe you've seen me there. I'm not sure. I do appreciate all the comments coming in, the nice hearts and, and sometimes people are giving me diamonds right there on TikTok. There are similar bonuses right there on YouTube and really all the major platforms now are sort of giving ways people can not just do a like but a like with a little extra something. George says, do you ever hang out? Well, I'm hanging out with you right now and I certainly do like to socialize with friends. Tomorrow night my wife and I are going out to dinner with another couple. Were then going to a comedy show at a major cultural place here in downtown Delray. It's called the Arts Garage. So I'm looking forward to a fun evening on the town and then out of town for the weekend with a little fun. So. And George, I'm. You may think I'm being silly, but I am very sincere. This is to George and anyone else out there. If you ever find yourself in Delray Beach, Florida, let me know. I'll buy you the first cup of coffee. Just reach out to me through LinkedIn and let me know when you're going to be in town. Always happy to meet face to face members of our community who really care about communication. And I see one of you just tried to join us on live here today on TikTok. Again, apologies I can't connect with you on TikTok, but I'd love to have you come right here on screen with me. All you have to do is push the button for streamyard and you can join me right here on screen and ask questions, give a pitch, talk about whatever you want to talk about, disagree with me. Even you can do that as well. I see Ash has joined us as well and Michael has joined us as well as Common Post and also Vanessa has joined us. So thank you so much to all of you who have joined us so quickly here today right here on our live stream. Again, if you're joining us for the first time, I'm T.J. walker. This is the T.J. walker Success Channel. We're all about helping you become more successful in your personal life and your professional life by building your communication skills and by boosting your confidence in your communication skills because you really need both of those things. Okay, Command is stopped by says I'm here where I can type. Clear. I'm all thumbs on the phone and command post. Let's. If you want to. If you want to come in, all you have to do is hit streamyard. If you want to post a question there. Happy to have you there as well. And Muhammad is waiting in the wings, my colleague and associate and a producer here. Let's. But let's first go to. Is this command post. This is me today. I'm very good. Very good.

I knew I recognized you from somewhere.

And where do you recognize me from? I.

It just. I. I don't know why I thought sitcoms, but I know I'd seen you on TV before and I thought, hey, has he been on something funny? Normally I watch funny shows, so.

Okay. Sorry about that. Well, I. I could tell right off the bat that you seem like a comfortable, confident communicator. Your voice is strong. Are you a. A regular streamer, A podcaster? Do you produce content about gaming? Tell us a little about yourself. I do.

I'm trying to start something off the ground with gaming, a service where I run the game for people. And I have tried to make some content, and it hasn't been that great. So I'm glad you think I'm strong in communication. I have been on many different panels with a. With a stream yard here. You know, I get about like 8 or, yes, 9. People do pretty well there. But I haven't really been doing all that great with the making videos. I tend to stutter, so.

Well, I haven't heard you stutter yet, so it. Sometimes it's easier to have a conversation with someone. It is. Than to just talk to the camera. How many videos have you done where you were just talking to the camera?

About 70 so far.

Okay. Well, I'm very happy you've done that many because so many people do one and quit, or they do five and quit. They never get over that hump of initial comfort level. I'll just give you a couple of points right now. I'm not saying this will guarantee you get billions of views, but you need a little better lighting. It appears to me you have an overhead light behind you, and it's giving your face kind of a dull, fuzzy look. And for as little as, you know, $20, a ring light in front of you. Where there's light in front, I would get rid of the overhead light. I've turned off all my overhead lights. I only have lights in front of me. I would get rid of the overhead light. I would get a front light. And if you don't want to spend 20 bucks, get a couple of lamps. Take the lampshade off and put it on the other side of your computer or camera. Now at least you'll have light, light in your face. And that would look a little better.

You say that now until I turn on the light.

Well, again, it's not that. I'm not saying it's going to make you look like Brad Pitt. Doesn't make you look like Brad Pitt. But what, what does help? Let me go to slightly larger screen. It does help people to be able to see you clearly. It's not that my face is so beautiful. People can look at my face and say, oh gosh, tj, you're getting a double chin and your eyes are beady and your eyes are too close together. My God, your hair is horrible. It's not that I want all this light because I'm just so beautiful. It's because so much of communication isn't just the words. It isn't just the voice. It is the facial expressions, the eyebrow, what your mouth is doing, all of those things. When people can see it clearly, they feel a stronger connection. It's easier to focus. Okay, so is your specialty Texas hold them or what do you actually do? Well, these are.

Yeah, it's kind of the, the nerd tabletop type of stuff. So they're fairly complex long games, about three to four hours. Typically have to do with something fantasy or historical. I do a lot of historical war game.

I'd love to hear more about it and talk to you. I apologize, I have a pre scheduled interview right now essentially meeting with my producer. I've got to go to him. This is. Thursdays are an odd day that we only go 45 minutes. Then we have to break for sort of a private livestream with my students. We will be back at 10:45 if you want to come back. More than happy to talk to you in detail. Janice has come by and says nice to see cpg. Another quick drop for TJ Walker. Success gems a quick break while working on an ebook on an e book exam. Send strategies 9 keys to reducing Anxiety and Boosting Exam Readiness. That's what Janice at Unconventional Advice that Works is talking about. She also says great tips for CPG on lamps and lighting and thanks for the compliments. Unconventional advice, Janice. Thanks so much. So cpg, stay with us. I'm gonna have to bring up my colleague Muhammad. We've got some sort of housekeeping matters so I'm going to take you off but happy to have you in the green room. Mohammed, how are you today? I'M fine. How are you, TK Fantastic. We got the whole. We got the whole side shot. We'll each do our side shots. Okay, Mohammed, let's go ahead and play. You're working on. I don't know if I call it a stinger. The opening credits. Typically, Whether it's a TV show, a lot of YouTube shows, you start off with something, an interesting hook where you're giving people new value. Then you play the show credits. Whether it's Friends, whether it's young Sheldon, whether it's succession. There is this thing that comes on through video music, sometimes voiceover explaining what the show's about. We had an audio the other day. You have done a first draft videotape. Can you go ahead and share what you have and let's share or let me do it. Let's share the. Make sure we have the audio shared at both levels so everyone can hear it. Sure. Can you see my screen? Let's see here. I. Oh, this one. Okay. That's what you're talking about. Yeah. I'm gonna lurch it. But we're not hearing anything. So if you hit audio that didn't work, you need to go back. When you do the initial share, there's actually two share buttons and our friends on Tick Tock. If you want to see this, you got to come over to the YouTube channel. Channel. It's TJ Walker success on YouTube. Okay, so you want to try to share again? Yeah. Okay. Just bring. Bring it over. Can you see the screen? Oh, let me add it. Okay. Join us as we welcome to the TJ Walk. Can you listen now? Yes. Go ahead. Boost the volume on your end. I'll boost it from mine. Let's start from the beginning. I would. Let's just run it all the way through without stopping. I would invite anyone to give comments again. If I'm here for three hours, I think it's okay after I've done, let's say an opening five minute segment, to put a little video clip so that for new people coming in thinking, what is this? Something that lets them know what we're about without me having to just say it in a straightforward, bland way. So that's what we're doing here. Let's play it from the beginning. Welcome to the TJ Walker Success Channel, where we empower you to master the art of communication. Join us as we guide you through every facet of effective communication, from personal conversations to commanding stages. We've got you covered, whether it's three people, 30 people, or 300, or even millions on national TV. We'll equip you to shine in every spotlight. Get ready to amplify your voice, boost your confidence and unleash your potential. Tune in and transform your communication skills today. Okay, so a lot of good stuff there. I like a lot. I think it's a good base. I am interested in other people's comments. So Janice, anyone else watching our. Our friend at CPG would love commentary on this because this is a work in progress. This is not a finished thing. So let's go back and play it again, Muhammad. And if you don't mind, when you see. When you see my hand go up. When you see my hand go up, hit stop. Sure. Welcome to the TJ Walker Success channel where we empower you. Okay, I just don't think this is a good interesting graphic. It's just, it looks like you know any YouTube channel. We're talking about the channel, but I think we need something that shows an up close face actually speaking. I just don't think that that's a strong enough hook. The music to me doesn't work. I'm not a music person. I just know if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. I think of music like on the TV show Succession. If any of you have ever seen that on hbo.

The.

I'm not saying we're going to have music that good, but it's. It sets a tone, it sets a mood, it draws you in. We're not a succession drama comedy show. But I want something that gets people excited about. Wow. I'm going to really learn new stuff here that's going to help me help my personal life, help my professional life. I want something that really draws people in. Let's play. Let's play some more. Master the art of communication. Join us as we guide you through every facet of effective communication from personal conversation. Stop. I think we need something covering me up where I'm talking there. I mean, I'm already on for three hours a day. I don't think. I think this is the one bit of the whole day they don't have to see me. I'd like to have something more interesting and dynamic than me speaking there. Okay, let's go rewind like two in two seconds and let's go back. Communication from personal conversations to commanding stages. Okay, that one. Is there any way we can freeze frame on that without a disappearing. Yep. So I'm the voice. The audio is saying commanding the stages. But this guy's apparently so boring. Two thirds of the seats are empty. So to me, the visual just doesn't work. It makes it seem like he must be really boring because, you know, by my count, it looks like two thirds of the chairs are empty. So we need a different image. The other thing is, everything I stress is never, ever, ever get behind a lectern. Here's a guy, he's clear. Even though you don't see the lectern, you see the microphone. So he's clearly violating every principle I teach. So we need to buy. We need to have someone who's speaking, ideally, walking around with some movement, who seems like he could be a sheep. They're really engrossing. And there's a full audience. It needs to be a stacked audience. Okay, let's see some more Eve. Got you covered. Whether it's 3 people, 30 people, or 300. Let's go back to the beginning of this. We said three people. What do we have for 30 people, though? Stop. Just one second in 30 people. But I only see four. I see five people. We need to somehow place pull back. And I would prefer it not. I mean, this is clearly what looks to be a professor in a classroom, and we certainly do have some students, but most of our audience, and certainly basically all of my clients from my business are not in the academic world. So I would rather it look like it's a business setting. And you see someone either surrounded by 30 people or they're. They're clearly standing up and talking to an audience of 30 people. And you see the. I want to see the contrast because we saw. I'm talking to one person or three people, and then 30. And then I. I wanted to see an expansion of audience. And here we've only gone from three people to four people, even though we're saying 30. Okay. Or 300 or even millions. So again, we need to actually show the audience getting bigger, bigger, bigger each time. This says 300 people. Again, it's somebody who's violating every single principle I recommend. I tell. I tell you, don't ever get behind a lecture. Now, of course, there are exceptions. He appears to be a government official. I do want to avoid. I mean, that looks like a. I don't know what that's a flag to. To me, it looks like a flag of perhaps a small Eastern European country. I don't want to confuse people and get involved with politics. So I would. I would like us to find footage where there's no flags whatsoever. And we need to have the different size audiences. When I'm saying 300 people, we need a room that actually looks like there's 300 people. The other thing I'm noticing is we need a little more diversity. I haven't seen a black person, certainly an African American or someone from Africa or appearing to be a native of Africa in any of the footage yet. We need some diversity. I have seen some Asian people in it. Let's keep going. Hundred or even millions on national tv. Okay, so again, these. That star. I don't know what that is a symbol of, but to me, it. This looks too much like an Eastern European government official. And that's just not the vibe I'm going with. I don't think that works at all. So we need. We need something. We need some things where it's not a white guy in a suit. Now I realize I'm a white guy in a suit. But we want people to feel comfortable regardless of what profession they're in, how they dress. So we need. We need a more variety of people, and we got to get rid of things that look like flags for particular countries because, you know, before we know it, I've offended someone because that's a country where there's a territorial dispute with someone else who doesn't recognize as a country. And I don't want to get involved in the politics or the potential politics. Let's see some more. We'll equip you to shine in every spotlight. Get ready to amplify your voice, boost your confidence, and unleash your potential. So again, we just have to get rid of that guy. We can't have anything with that blue background and stars. Okay, sure. And let's be very, very careful about red text. If we don't have a white background, it gets extremely difficult to read. So that's, like, right there. Boost your. Go back to the. Boost your confidence. That's just not enough contrast between the red and the border. It's got to be a sharper contra that gets very difficult, difficult to read. And again, I want to. I want to not show anyone behind a lectern, because that's something I spent a lot of time talking about. How, you know, if you're the spokesperson for the State Department and you've got to read a brief written by international lawyers. That's one thing. Or you're the president of a country and you have to be an elector. But for the vast version, vast majority of people, it's just so much better to not ever get behind a lectern. Okay, let's watch some more and unleash your potential. Tune in and transform your communication skills. Today. Okay, let's stop there. I, I mean she's was looking at her phone and she's looking up. I'd like to see her talking, maybe show her talking on FaceTime. That might work. And it's good to see people of different ages and different races. We, we want everyone to feel included. But she's for all I know she's just looking at a silly video on FaceTime and looking up at the sky. I don't know what that has to do with communication. So that's confusing me now. It seems like we lost the music at the end. I didn't just, I didn't hear anything. I wanted to build and make me more excited. I think all. Oh wow, this is a great show. I better pay attention here. We are getting some feedback. Janice writes quick feedback, serious tone like succession for serious success about choices, vocabulary. I like the words cover boost, keep going and improving. How about images of women speaking? I think you're right. We did have. Well actually I don't know if we had any images of women. We have this woman in it, but I don't know that she was speaking speaking. So yeah, we need a, we need then have to be 50, 50 to the millisecond. But we need roughly an even mix of genders, ages, races and what appears to be ethnicities in these different cliffs. And that will make it better. If anyone else has commentary on this or if you're watching this video on demand, I would love to know your thoughts. We are unfortunately going to have to break here soon because we're going to have to stop for our, our live show just for our Udemy students in just a few minutes. But I do want to invite all of you to continue the discussion. Cpg, happy to have you. Come back. Unconventional advice. Come back. We will be back here live at 10:45, which is in just 61 minutes. So it's not long. We've got a lot of fun and I want to, you know, thank deer for showing up and got interest. Showed up on, on Tick Tock. Bob Smith has, has showed up. He says your name is Smiley. I, I not quite sure what that means. Smarty says TJ with a million dollar voice. What up do? Well thank you so much. I do appreciate that. Where can I call? Okay, Julian, if you join us at, if you join us in one hour, come to my YouTube channel, TJ Walker. Success on YouTube, you push a button and you can be right there with us. So happy to do that. And by the way, I'm in the process of setting up a system so you can call TJ Walker AI any time of day or night, 24 7. Ask me a question about communication skills and I'll answer you. Talk to you by name. It's all done through artificial intelligence, but you get my actual ideas. It's not just random stuff pulled from ChatGPT. You get my answers as I would talk to you right here. And you will be able to do that with a phone call. So that's something that may be coming as soon as next week. So a lot of exciting things happening. Want to thank you for joining me for our first segment today. 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