TJ WALKER - THE HABIT INFLUENCER - Personal Development | LIVE STREAM

A really frequently asked question I get is, tj, what do I do with my hands when I speak? And related to that question is the question of how do I stop moving my hands in a presentation? This is a big, big issue with a lot of people. A lot of people waste their time on this. There's going to be some disagreement. I've talked about it other places in the course, but in my professional opinion, you should move your hands when you speak. In theory, is it possible to be wildly distracting? Sure. Does one out of every 15,000 viewers on my YouTube videos complain that I move my hand? Yeah, in general, the vast majority, and I mean 99.9% plus people, when they see someone speaking, moving their hands in their gut, they feel more comfortable with the person. The person just seems more confident, relaxed, authoritative. The second you freeze your hands, you freeze your body. You stiffen your body, your vocal cords get stiffer, you sound more monotone, your head doesn't move as much, and you come across as scared, tentative, lacking in confidence. So my recommendation is move your hands when you speak. If you're not sure how to move your hands, ask a friend, family member, colleague to just record you sometimes and you don't realize and you're talking. I don't mean record you when you're doing something inappropriate, but when you're just having a conversation, what you'll see is your hands move. This is true in every culture around the world. So the answer to the question is move your hands. Move them the whole time you talk. Don't try to bring them in, don't try to constrain them. It's not going to make you look any better.