Unlocking the Secret to Engaging Conversations

15 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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Short YouTube advice clip by TJ Walker responding to a viewer who over-explains and bores friends. Walker's solution: monitor listeners for boredom, stop or shift the topic when you notice disengagement, ask questions (e.g., 'Am I making sense?'), and maintain eye contact and attention so you can detect and respond when you start losing people.

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TJ I have difficulty while talking to my friends. I always go into extra detail that's boring and my friends are not captivated by my talk. How do I overcome this problem? This is a common problem. Here's the solution. The second you detect a friend is bored by what you say, stop doing it. Stop talking. Ask them what they think. Change the conversational flow. Say am I making sense? Worst case scenario, say am I boring anything other than going down that path of giving more boring details? You need to really be looking at your friends when you're talking. If all of a sudden you're and you're not focusing on your friends, that's why they're bored. If you're really paying close attention to someone you're talking to, you should know exactly when you're losing them. So pay attention. Be ready to stop. Be ready to change directions. Be ready to say something more interesting.