In this final video of the 78‑day Practical Reality Transurfing series, Renee Garcia explains Vadim Zeland’s concept of “borrowed” or “other people’s” goals. She outlines how to tell whether a goal truly belongs to you or is imposed by external expectations. The key diagnostic is the inner feeling of comfort versus discomfort: a genuine goal feels naturally compelling and brings present‑moment happiness, while a borrowed goal creates mental tension, a sense of obligation, and an illusory future reward. Garcia links this to the heart‑mind alignment described by the Ikigai model, urging viewers to let the heart choose a purpose and then let the mind work out the logistics. She warns that pursuing false goals leads to emptiness, a meaningless “pot of gold,” and lasting dissatisfaction. Practical advice includes self‑questioning (“Do I desire this with all my soul?”), paying attention to soul discomfort, and recognizing red‑flag signals from the heart that are often suppressed by ego‑driven logical thinking. The video concludes with a call to action for viewers to engage with the series, comment for a giveaway, and explore related resources.
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Hello, Transurfer and the Transurfing curious! My name is Renee Garcia, and today, the last lesson of the 78 Days of Practical Transurfing! I believe when this airs, I'm actually going to be entirely finished with the 78 days! What! Quite an accomplishment! That was 78 videos! And editing, and all that stuff! So, if you have missed some of them, go back! There's a playlist and they're all there! Actually, they will be after this one. This was Day 61. Somehow I overlooked it, and I am going to do it now! So, remember to like this video and comment below "My world is taking care of me" if you would like to enter my daily giveaway for my reprogramming stickers. And Teachable! Reality 2.0 down below, check it out, y'all! So, Day 61, Other People's Goals. When defining your goal, ask yourself, do I really desire it with all my soul, or I just would like to desire it? If you need to convince yourself, then the goal is not yours. If the goal is truly yours, you do not have to convince yourself at all. Movement towards the goal of somebody else always leaves the celebration for for a later and illusory future. And if you are moving towards your goal, you're happy even now. Other people's goal is always violence over you, compulsion and obligation. The translation there is a little harsh, but let's roll with it. False goals attract with its inaccessibility, forcing you to prove something to yourself. And everyone else. The goal of other people has been obtruded to you by others and serves to increase others' welfare. Search for your goal. Vadim Zeland's interpretation: Other people's goals cause mental discomfort. Typically, false goals are very attractive. In ecstasy, your mind will beautify in any way all possible attributes of the goal. But if despite all its attractiveness, something oppresses you, you need to be honest with yourself. Sure, the mind doesn't want to hear you. Everything is wonderful. So where does that shadow come from then? Thinking about the purpose, do not take account of its prestige. Exclusiveness and means to achieve it. Pay attention only to the state of mental comfort. Imagine that you've achieved it and everything is over. Do you feel better or worse? Do not confuse soul stiffness or shyness— is all this for me?— with discomfort. Soul discomfort is an oppressive, feeling or burden that is too weak against the optimistic thoughts of the mind. Soul stiffness can be removed with the help of Slides, but soul discomfort, never! Whoa! Okay. So, Reality Transurfing, as I have stated like an infinity amount of times, is a goal-based modality, right? Watch my video on— the Ikigai chart, or the Japanese formula for happiness. This idea is the same as heart and mind coordination. This is when you find your goal that is meant for you in this world, and both your mind and your heart agree. I like to say I let my heart choose, and then I get my— I let my mind get involved in the logic, right, to work out the equation. That's how I found myself doing this, and all the other things that I do, right? They felt good to my heart, and then my mind goes, "Okay, how can I work this out?" Now, a lot of times, goals are imposed on us as people. They can be imposed on us by our society, by our immediate environment, right? Wherever we live. They can be imposed on us by our parents. Our spouses. We can get competitive in nature by the information or media that we engage with that makes us seem like we're lacking something, right? We need to follow some false goals, some goals that aren't intended for us. So, in the book, Vadim Zeland talks about the value of listening to your inner state of comfort or discomfort, primarily your discomfort. Because your heart will always tell you what it does not want. Always! Always, always, always! And usually, what we do as human beings is we work at quieting that voice down, because we have the propensity to want to engage with the mind more. This is ego, will, logical thinking, even though it's not logical, like, "Oh well, this will make more money for me!" than what my heart's telling me, so I'm going to go with this. And what my heart's telling me, I'm going to, you know, push that voice down because I don't want to not make money, I wanna make money, and my brain is telling me, my mind is telling me that this is the better way. It's the same with your parents wanting you to do something, or maybe even advancing in the field that you're currently in, and you're sort of being pushed from some kind of— you know, outside entity in another direction, but you maybe don't necessarily feel like that's your calling, right? A lot of people have these warning flags, these red sirens that go off that are like, hey, wait a second, this isn't cool. I don't want to do this. But then the mind takes over and the mind likes to stay in control. So Reality Transurfing is definitely a modality that brings, brings you to awareness of when you have chosen someone else's goal and when a a goal is specifically intended for you. You should never feel challenged. I mean, challenged is one thing. Of course we have to grow and evolve as people, as we, you know, develop skills and learn new things and educate ourselves. And we're always going to be challenged, but you should never be— have a feeling of extreme discomfort, like waking up in the morning and feeling dread that you just have to get through this thing so you can achieve the goal, that pot of gold, that, that that illusory, fictitious, imaginary pot of gold is not going to make any path that you don't feel good going down worth it. When you get to the end of that path, that pot of gold is going to virtually be meaningless, and you will realize that you have in fact followed a false goal intended for somebody else. And you will be left with feelings of emptiness, right? It is the alignment with our true purpose that brings happiness in the world, not the goals of others or false goals. So, let me know what you think of this one, everyone! Remember to like my video and comment below "My world is taking care of me!" And I hope you all enjoyed the 78 Days of Practical Transurfing! It is now completed! Thank you for watching, everyone! Have a good day! Bye!
