CHOOSING TO IGNORE Living The Reality Transurfing Concepts Vadim Zeland Renée Garcia

5 May 2020 · 2 min

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In this brief self‑help segment addressed to Clarissa Chiaese, the speaker advises that anxiety stems from focusing on future outcomes that never arrive. By grounding oneself in the present moment, one can gradually neutralize anxiety. The speaker emphasizes that attempts to suppress anxiety only amplify it; instead, one should allow the feeling to exist, recognizing it as a mental construct—likened to a childhood “monster in the closet” that only lives when we give it attention. The recommended approach is to systematically detach from the anxiety‑filled mental space, either by ignoring it or, if that fails, by accepting it and making peace with it, thereby creating room for more positive experiences.

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Clarissa Chiaese. You must choose to ignore that which causes pain, anxiety, worry. What exactly is causing you anxiety? The future? The future will never arrive. All you have is the moment that you are currently occupying. Gaining a gradual sense of this will neutralize anxiety. On top of this, if you have anxiety, let it exist. Trying to extinguish it calls attention to it in your mind in a negative way. It's like that belief we all had when we were young: that there was a monster in the closet. It's simply a dark, unoccupied space. Your imagination put the monster there, but the monster only existed because you chose it to. How many of us believe a monster is still in our closet at night? The monster only exists if you put it there. Put it out of your mind. Start systematically and methodically tuning whatever it is out, separating and ignoring it. If you can't, accept it and make friends with it. Completely detach from whatever it is filling this negative space with anxiety and allow something more positive to flourish there. There is no monster.