How Being Weird Helps Your Reality Creation Practice Reality Transurfing Vadim Zeland Renée Garcia

Hello, Transurfer and the Transurfing curious! My name is Renee Garcia and this is Transurfing TV! And today, dun dun dun, being weird! I have come to fully embrace— my weirdness. And I have to say that I, like, really entertain myself by it. I used to be super hard on myself. Well, first of all, I was constantly putting energy into trying not to be weird, right? Because being weird was weird. And I was really overly concerned with what people thought about me. I remember I was at a trade show for my primary business once, and this guy says to me, "What's your deal?" And I was like, "What do you mean?" And he's like, "You're just so, like— you're so hard to read, and I've never really understood what you're about!" I knew the guy for a lot of years. And I realized, looking back on that version of me during that time, I was very concerned with keeping any idiosyncrasies or unique characteristics contained, right? I didn't want to show anyone any part about me that I perceived to be odd or— Maybe like I viewed it as a weakness or something, right? So, I was very cold. I was very cold, and I was very calculated in my approach to people. And I was constantly trying to refine myself in my mind to fit a mold. And what ended up happening was I lost my character. I had no character. I was a paper person, right? I was a paper person, I was a mannequin, I was a dull mannequin at that. And I realized, especially— well, I realized this before I found Transurfing, but Transurfing really helped me to kick it off. But before I found Transurfing, I remember having this thought of, "Why? Why am I doing this? Why am I constantly trying to change who I am and refine myself, refine my nature, hold parts of myself back?" And it probably took a year or two for me to start to merge over to this truer version of me. But then I started showing up to the same trade shows and I was like, "Me!" Right? And people— were confused. They were like, "What the hell's going on with Renee? All of a sudden, she's got a personality? What the fuck?" So, and this was obvious in a lot of ways. I started dressing like myself, I started acting like myself, I didn't really care what other people thought anymore. I started to let all that stuff go. And sure enough, people's response to me was overwhelmingly positive. People wanted to have— more to do with me. People wanted to invite me into their booths and do business with me. People wanted to take me out to dinner. People wanted to have fun with me, because who I was at my core, even if it was a little bit weird, was like a super fun person, and people liked that energy. So, I already had started to tap into this truer version of me before I found Transurfing. But then, when I found Transurfing and I learned of all the reasons why— it's valuable to not try to put yourself into a box, to tap into that Soul Fraile, to not pay too much attention to perceived shortcomings or flaws. It highlights them, it makes them worse, people notice them a lot more. And in shifting away from my perceived flaws— flaws, or my idiosyncrasies, or ways that I'm weird. I actually turned all of that stuff into positive stuff that I'm using right now to achieve success in something that's truly intended for me. So, I'm gonna get into my little formula and some questions that you could ask yourself. Of how you could tap a little bit more into who you truly are today, and let go of some ideas or perceptions about certain characteristics that you have that may not be helping you, right? And really letting go. I mean, Transurfing is all about letting go, lowering all of those levels of Importance. And this is really about— lowering the levels of Inner Importance, and the freedom and the access to different versions of reality that that brings. Before I get started, though, remember to like this video and comment and subscribe and all that good stuff. Follow us on Instagram @reality_transurfing. And if you're an Arabic speaker, we have an Arabic account. I never really advertise for it or promote it. It's Arabic Transurfing, go and check it out! And follow us on the Facebook group, International Transurfing Institute Facebook group! If you would like to take the course, Reality 2.0 on Teachable, down below, check it out, y'all! So, being weird! So, this actually— I was inspired to make this video because— I've noticed that I'm still discovering ways to be okay with myself. And I'm still discovering how addressing certain characteristics that I— I'll catch myself, right? I see myself, I see my reality. And there's always like this deeper level to go, and I'll still find ways that I judge myself. And I kinda view it as like a snag on my reality. So, if I find this moment where I'm judging myself and I'm saying, "God, why are you so weird, Renee?" Or "Why do you say stuff like that?" Or "Why do you respond like that?" Then I know that that's a slight little shift over to— another version of reality that's not as optimal as me catching myself, "I see myself, I see my reality," and I love that part about myself! And this happened to me the other day when I was out for my morning walk. Sometimes people stop and wanna talk to me, and I can be a little bit socially awkward. I know people in my life would definitely consider me socially awkward. I knew— that you guys watching me, you at home, see a certain facet of me, something that I've really tailored, like talking on camera. I've gotten good at it! So, you'd say, "Well, how can somebody talk on camera that's super socially awkward?" But I'm actually really, really socially awkward! And for a long time, I have been tremendously hard on myself for this! And I could conceal it really well. I got really good at being social. But again, the energetic loss there of going to a social event and having to maintain that persona without just letting myself go and letting myself be weird, letting myself be different, letting myself act the way that I want, talk the way that I want, whatever. So, I've noticed that I do this a little bit on— I've been doing this on my walks, where somebody would come up to me and talk to me. And I would walk away and say, "God, you're so fucking weird! Why you gotta act weird like that with people? Why you gotta act weird like that with people?" And then I'd be mindlessly— now again, this is where I would wake up, I see myself, I see my reality. I would be mindlessly hard on myself running this Script in the background, "God, you're socially awkward, and it's getting worse now that you're doing the stay-at-home stuff and you're seeing people less and less. It's actually getting worse!" So, then I caught myself the other day, and I decided that every time I had an encounter with someone and I recognized myself as being weird, that I was gonna really rejoice in my weirdoness! I was gonna rejoice in my weirdoness, and I was just going to allow myself to be me! So, again, as Vadim Zeland states in the book, The more you overtly focus on a negative characteristic, the more that it will be perceived by somebody else as a negative characteristic. So, if I'm talking to somebody and I'm acknowledging like, "Oh my God! You're socially awkward and you're weird!" Then I'm going to act like there's something wrong, they're gonna pick up on that, they're gonna be like, "God! What's wrong with this chick?" Whereas if I just own it, right? If I just own it— and I'm totally okay with it, that sets the stage for, one, them being okay with it, "Hey, this chick's quirky and interesting, and people want to talk to me next time!" when I'm in the mode of accepting who I am, right? But more so, and this is the most valuable part, is that I'm accepting myself for who I truly am. And it doesn't stop there! Right? All those ways that I snag on reality, all those hooks come off. And I become just totally accepting of myself, my characteristics, the way that I am. And this is like lubricant for reality. This becomes charm, this becomes attributes rather than— negative characteristics, it all starts to work in my favor, right? So it's, it starts as a little thing, but it really, really grows into something either very, very positive and beautiful, or if I allow that negative thought about myself to root itself in my reality, my reality starts to fracture in all kinds of ways that are detrimental to my reality creation process. So, the same stuff I was endlessly trying to fix or change is the same stuff that helped me to achieve true personal success, right? I can say right now, I'm experiencing true personal success. Not personal success that the standards are set by Pendulums. And I'm having to conform myself to fit into those standards of that personal success that's set up by somebody other than me. So, this is a valuable point, because it is exactly the stuff that I was hard on myself for, exactly those things that have helped me now to achieve personal success. So, it's not only that releasing— that releasing that negative perception of those characteristics just neutralized it. Those things actually helped me when I started feeding them more, allowing myself to be quirky, allowing myself to be a weirdo, allowing myself to just be carefree and let it rip. It's this stuff that's helped me. To really advance in my reality, right? So, a couple of questions for you. What don't you like about yourself, and why don't you like it? And the reason that I ask this question is because if you really take a look at why you don't like it, you'll probably start to see that you don't like it because a Pendulum convinced you to not like it. It's really not— maybe something, whatever it is about you, it's maybe not negative in your true perception of things. It's just that you've been manipulated by a Pendulum to believe that that part of you, there's something wrong, right? So, remember, for those of you that missed my video, 'The Big Lie', Pendulums love to convince us that we have something wrong. Stuff wrong with us. Because if we believe that we have stuff wrong with us, then we buy things, or we try to conform and we feed the Pendulum energy. So, the Pendulum has a lot to gain by convincing us as individuals that there's something wrong and there's something that we need to change. And just appearance alone, I mean, Instagram and social media. Stuff plays a big role in this, right? And as Vadim Zeland says, if you perceive a physical quality to be negative, it's gonna be negative, it's gonna be perceived as negative. If you relax on it and perceive it as positive, it's gonna turn to something charming, right? You're gonna have like a je ne sais quoi about you. And I'm sure you can call to mind somebody— that you know right now that may not be the most physically attractive person, but they're extremely attractive because they're accepting of all parts of who they are, right? So, this is really a question about you getting to the root of whatever it is that's still lingering that you don't like about yourself. Why? And a Pendulum is most certainly behind that. And if you didn't catch that video, 'The Big Lie', it's a good one. I break it down exactly on that topic. So, 2, can you let go and love everything today? This is a big one. This is really why I think a lot of people struggle with getting the love that they want in their lives, is they are snagged. So, when I talk about snagging on your reality and viewing personal characteristics, that you have, perceiving them as negative, this will snag you up in your reality. And the result of that is that you show your mirror that you don't love yourself, therefore you don't get love, right? So, can you start to let go of whatever's snagging you in your reality and just really dive into the world of— self-care and self-love and self-acceptance, no matter what it is, and try that method. And this is exactly what's happened for me. And I attribute this acceptance and self-love and self-care as my number one— like, this is how I'm getting so much in my life right now, is just by letting go and accepting myself, loving myself, and caring for myself regardless of my quirks, regardless of my once perceived negative characteristics. So, can you let go and love everything today? Everything! 3) How have negative qualities held you back? This is a big one for me, and I've talked about this a lot with my evolution of doing these videos. For a long time, I was terrified to get in front of the camera. "I can't do that. I'm awkward. I'm weird. I stutter. I mess up." And those thoughts, really identifying with those thoughts to the extent that they inhibited my action, it held me back from something that I was truly intended to do. And again, it was letting that stuff go, lowering the levels of importance of how I sounded on camera. Go back and look at some of my original videos, guys. It's very, very different than today. And I wouldn't have gotten this far if I hadn't just been okay with not being good on camera. I still got in front of the camera. And Abdelghafour remembers that whole process. I would message him midday and be like, dude, I can't get a video done. It's really hard. And I don't know how to talk and I don't know what to do, but you know what? I still did it anyway. I stopped letting my perceptions of self, those negative perceptions, get in my way of taking action. So action will dissolve a lot of that stuff. But it's time to ask yourself now, how have negative qualities, negative qualities held you back and how could you act out of them anyway? Right? And just ignore the fact. So if you think you're not good speaking on camera, who cares? Just get in front of the camera and turn it on, make a video, put it on YouTube. And I promise you, You will get over that idea at a certain point that you're bad on camera. You gotta just kinda like roll through it, right? Just go right through it, but don't let it hold you back. 4, and this will be my final point before I wrap this video up. Whatever you perceive as negative about yourself, appearance, personal characteristics, whatever. Whatever you perceive as negative about yourself. You can work on it to the best of your ability and start refining it, right? Letting go of Importance, viewing it as charm, being okay with it, wrapping it in self-love and self-care and just accepting it, all that stuff. But if it's still there, and if you still are challenged to perceive it as positive, it doesn't make a difference. About your progress. You can take all of that stuff with you. And this is, again, another big lie that we're told, is that we need to sort of resolve all those things so then we can start the path to success. But it's in just bringing that stuff along and going down that path regardless that all that stuff starts to heal. Get refined. So don't feel as though you need to work on yourself so you can get to a point where you can start taking steps towards that goal or down that path to success. Just take all that crap with you now and start doing it anyway. And as you do it, you'll see that all of that stuff just starts to dissolve. It's really the action. The action and the intention and acceptance that helps all of those things dissolve and just to become part of your charm, right? Part of your charm. That's the bottom line of it. And stop really loading it up with so much importance that it's hindering— your progress, and keeping you resonating in a place where you don't feel good about yourself. Bottom line of Transurfing, feel really, really, really good about yourself, present that to the Mirror, project that to the Mirror, and reality opens up and gives you a bunch of the good stuff. So, let me know what you think of this video, everybody! Being weird. Are you weird? Are you not accepting of how weird you are? Could you accept it a little more? Could you amplify your weirdness? Have fun with it! Life is fun. Reality is fun. Life is to be enjoyed. Enjoy yourself in all your idiosyncrasies and weird little quirks. It's a good time, I promise you! Remember to like, comment, and subscribe. And thank you, Clarissa! Thank you so much for watching! Bye, guys!