In this Reality Transurfing Express lesson, Renee Garcia shares her personal journey and eight Transurfing‑based love techniques, focusing on the first four. She explains that each person exists on an infinite set of lifelines (the Alternative Space) and that a partner’s presence depends on the quality of one’s own track. She warns against “pendulums” – toxic relationship patterns that keep you on low‑frequency tracks – and advises dropping excessive importance on finding a partner, as desperation repels. Using a river‑rock metaphor, she illustrates how letting go of attachment allows you to flow toward higher‑quality possibilities. Finally, she advocates switching from a searching mindset to a “shining” mindset: aligning heart and mind, improving one’s own track, and becoming a beacon that attracts suitable partners. Personal anecdotes illustrate each point, and she promises four more tips in part 2.
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Hello, Reality Transurfers and the Reality Transurfing curious. I am Renee Garcia, and today is a very special Reality Transurfing Express lesson of the day. I've been getting lots of DMs and questions and comments and all sorts of stuff asking me how to find a suitable life partner or romantic partner. Partner. And I've held back some of my tips for success in this simply because, uh, I really feel that we should all drop importance on love just a little bit. But if you are absolutely bent on trying to find somebody right now, I believe that these, uh, tips will absolutely put you in a position to find the most suitable partner for you. So here it is. These are my top 8 juiciest Transurfing love secrets and techniques to attracting a potential partner. Again, this is going to be in two parts. So, uh, please join me for the second part and I will just get right into it. I'm going to give a lot of personal example here simply because I know a lot about this topic. I struggled for a lot of years romantically choosing the wrong people and it has just been until this last two years that I've absolutely found the love of my life. However, I had to use these concepts in order to do so. Uh, Transurfing really is what led me to the most beautiful man that I could ever have imagined. So I'm going to literally break it down, uh, Transurfing concept by Transurfing concept and tell you which ones that I specifically, uh, used or my perspective on, perspective on these concepts and how they helped me to connect with my current life partner. So, we will start in the same way that the book starts, the Alternative Space, or the Space of Variations. So, we have to remember that there are an infinite number of lifelines, or life tracks, right? And there are also an infinite number of variations of you. Okay? So, let's say that you are not working at your optimum level right now, right? You are not on your highest track, you still have some work to do. Let's say that you're sort of existing middle of the road here. Okay? Now, the reason that you are having a challenging time— —finding your perfect soulmate, if you wanna look at it that way, is because he or she simply does not exist on this track you are currently on, okay? You have to find yourself using these tools, using these concepts to some of the higher tracks where this person most likely exists. Okay? That's exactly what happened for me! I existed on these lower tracks for a lot of years! The set, decoration, the script, they simply did not provide me options that were viable partners, that were good options for me! I had a lot of shitty relationships! I had a lot of relationships that— remember, when we're on a particular track or we are highlighting specific information in the alternative space via our thought quality, we are attracting similar energy, okay? We are resonating at a specific frequency that attracts more of the same! So, let's say I was here, right? And I had, you know, kind of a shitty thought quality. I was going to connect with other people on that track that were like me! I was not going to connect with my beautiful perfect soulmate that was up here, simply because, one, I wasn't on the same track as him, and two, our thought quality didn't connect, right? Our mode of operation was different, okay? So, again, infinite number of lifelines, infinite number of variations of you. A higher, better version of you is going to connect with somebody that you really, really want to be with, right? Somebody that you really, really want in your life. Again, it's most likely that your current track— does not hold the partner that you are in search of. So, don't settle for what's on your current Lifeline. Why connect with your counterpart when you are not being the best version of yourself? So, again, go up, he's up there, she's up there. Secondly, Pendulums, okay? Pendulums, this is a big one! Now, we always have to be careful of Pendulums in our lives so we can get up to some of these higher tracks. But sometimes, some of the biggest pendulums in our lives are our romantic relationships! So, maybe you are currently in a dead relationship, right? You're in a relationship with someone that's on your current track that is not— maybe it's not working out, maybe it's not your best suitable partner, maybe you guys aren't gelling, maybe you're not growing together, right? Maybe you both have kind of a lower frequency thought, thought quality, and this pendulum person relationship is sucking your energy from you and keeping you on this stale track. Okay. Uh, this happened to me specifically before I found my current life partner. I was in a relationship with a gentleman. He was also a Transurfer, but he was having a very difficult time finding himself to some higher tracks. Um, he, his thought quality was very low. He had lots of pendulums on him. He was not allowing himself to have, and he simply was not rising in the same way that I was feeling I could rise up. Okay. And in staying connected with him, I was holding myself back to stay on that lower track. Now, the relationship just easily resolved itself when I started to go up, because he no longer existed on one of these higher tracks. I just sort of grew out of it, I elevated to a higher track, and I left him behind on his lower track. Now, I know that sounds a little bit ruthless. But that's what needed to happen in order for me to connect with him, okay? Because he wasn't down here, he was up here, and I needed to get up here, so I needed to get rid of that. And I know, again, that sounds a little bit ruthless, but let's just call it what it is. Sometimes we have dead relationships that are holding us back on a stale track where what we want does not exist. Okay? So, my third point, drop importance! This is a huge one! So, there's a number of reasons why dropping importance on finding a potential partner is one of the best tools that you can utilize here! Number 1, desperation is a repellent, okay? If somebody senses that you are desperate to get in a relationship, that you have a lot of importance— on getting into a relationship, you are going to automatically sort of repel them, okay? That's not— being desperate to start something is not the way to get into a relationship. When I dropped this one, okay, I accepted I own my own home, I have my own money, I'm living my own life, I'm living my Soul Fraile. I do not need anyone now. I dropped importance on having a relationship, and sure enough, as soon as I did that, this one appeared, okay? I honestly feel like had I not dropped importance, it simply would not have played out like that. So, for those of you that watched my video yesterday on the flow variations, this is also a concept that will help you. And dropping importance. So, remember that analogy that I gave yesterday of the Alternative Space being like a river, right? And I was on that river holding on to a rock that had a bunch of material and information and all kinds of stuff on there that I was placing too much importance on. Now, me holding on to that rock did not allow me to sort of flow downstream where other rocks and more material and stuff and things that I intended to have existed, right? I had to let go of that rock in order to flow downstream and collect some of the other things downstream that were waiting for me. So, it's the same thing with romance, right? If you are either— holding on to too much inner importance, outer importance, if you're holding on to a rock in any sense of the imagination that you can think of. So, the rock could signify a partner that you currently have that you need to let go of. A rock could be— the rock could be you just placing too much importance on having a relationship, period! Okay? Period! You gotta let go of that so you can go with the flow of variations and travel down to some of these other rocks. Collecting some of the things that are down there. So, uh, the last point that I will make before I end this part is to switch your perspective. Okay. And this is a huge one that really, really was a true game changer for me. Okay. So I had been in the habit of always looking for someone. Okay. I was always looking for someone. My perspective was that I was looking for a potential partner. Okay. And really what I was doing when I was, when I was doing this is I was almost telling myself that someone wasn't there. I had a scarcity mentality. I felt like I was searching constantly and that I most likely I was not gonna find him deep down inside, because I had so many trials with relationships in the past! As the years went on, I felt like I was searching more and more and more and more! And it wasn't until I realized that this isn't the way to do it that I actually realized the right way to do it, or the way that worked for me, rather! And what that was is first, I stopped looking! Okay? I completely stopped searching! And then what I did is I used these techniques to make myself shine brighter, right? I use these techniques, Heart and Mind Coordination, finding my goals, you know, finding my track. And I just started to shine as brightly as I felt I could. Now, when I did that, I attracted so many people. Someone, right? It went from me looking for someone to someone seeing me. Okay, now it's switched, right? I'm no longer looking. I'm just shining. I'm just doing what I need to do. I'm taking care of myself. I'm living my best track. I'm acting with heart and mind coordination. I'm going through my doors to my goals. I'm utilizing these concepts. To make myself shine more brightly, and then I'm therefore attracting someone who is looking for a partner. And the cool thing was, is when I started to do this and I dropped Importance on being in a relationship, I actually attracted a number of people, and they were all very high-quality people, and I got to then have my choice, right? I got to choose. It wasn't about me— Remember Vadim's analogy in the grocery store, walking down the aisle and there's just a few cans because everybody's taken everything and there's nothing left, right? That was me before. And now all of a sudden I'm walking down the aisle and the shelves are stocked with dudes and I get to have my pick. And it was actually a very nice experience. And I'm happy that it worked out like that because the guy that I found was really, really awesome. Is really, really awesome, and he is the perfect person for me. But it took me lessening my search, right? I had to stop with spending the energy looking for someone and take that energy and use it to make myself shine more brightly, and then I could attract the person that I really, really was— you know, the person that was— is ultimately the best one for me! So, please stay tuned for part number 2, I will go over 4 more of my tips! And I hope you all are enjoying!
