How to Deal With the Toxic People in Your Life With Reality Transurfing Vadim Zeland Renée Garcia

Hello, Transurfer and the Transurfing curious! My name is Renee Garcia, guys, and this is Transurfing TV! And today on Transurfing TV, garbage people! You know, one of the things that Transurfing has given me is a release from guilt, right? I really have released myself from feelings of guilt for my thinking or the silly little systems that I've come up with for myself that help me to live a better reality for myself. And as Vadim Zeland says in the book, "As long as it doesn't hurt anybody, it's kinda like anything goes," right? And for me, sort of acknowledging when a person is a garbage person, or when a person is a person of value— and I know this is kind of shocking, because it's like, "God! Do you really wanna be labeling people?" "Garbage people!" And I only do so in extreme circumstances or cases. I'm pretty good with giving second chances and viewing people from a perspective of non-duality, just as much as I view my reality from a perspective of non-duality. I don't really see people as good or bad, I just see people as either right or wrong for me. Right? And my Script. And in this video today, I'm going to talk about garbage people from a Transurfing perspective, the characteristics and actions of garbage people, what a garbage person actually is, and how to deal with garbage people in your reality. More so than any time in my life, I can say that— The people I'm surrounded by are people of extremely high frequency, high quality, high value to me and my reality. And in turn, I give them back a lot of that same stuff that I acknowledge they're bringing to me. And I'm very aware now when a garbage person enters my Script. It's like a red blazing alarm goes off, and I'm like, Okay. A garbage person has now entered the room. So, I'm going to get into this from my perspective. But before I do that, if you like what we're doing here at Transurfing TV, please subscribe to this channel and like this video and comment on this video. And follow us on the International Transurfing Institute Facebook group for conversations on topics such as these! And Instagram @reality_transurfing, and the links to to my courses down below. Check them out, you guys. All right. So what is a garbage person? First of all, let's talk about the characteristics and then we'll get into a couple of examples. So these are people that are classically manipulators, right? How I really like to view manipulation at this point in my Transurfing practice is manipulation is the act of giving someone else the illusion of Frailing without actually giving them what it is you are giving the illusion of giving, right? So, if you were manipulating somebody, this would be you giving the illusion that you are giving something to someone else, If they give something to you, but then you don't actually give the person what you were, in appearance, ready to give, right? So, somebody's manipulating you, just the other way around. Somebody's giving you the illusion that they're gonna give something to you, and in exchange, you give something to them, but you don't receive back. That cyclical energy, right? It's not a free-flowing situation. You're simply being depleted and the other person's gaining, and you're not getting any love or energy or gains in return. So, I know this sounds kinda like cutthroat, like, "Ugh, God! Do you really wanna be looking at people from a perspective of 'What am I to gain?'" And— For me personally, it has kinda come down to that. Not so much in what it is that I'm gaining from a person, but what it is that I'm giving. And I wanna make certain that my energy is absolutely going to Pendulums, people, entities outside of me, my environment, in a way that is going to produce positive results for me, right? Now, of course, there are the exceptions, and sometimes— Sometimes things just don't work out. But more or less, I am pulling myself away from the act of just giving in to a scenario and not gaining anything in return. This is you just being attached to a Pendulum that's bleeding you out, and you're not questioning, "Well, is this deal good for me or not?" So, really, the whole topic of manipulation boils down to your deal with the Pendulum. And what is getting the better end of the deal, the Pendulum, or who, or you, right? So, manipulation is one of the biggest ones. Another characteristic of a garbage person, being critical. So, being critical really is just another way of, like, somebody being critical to you is the person trying to lower your frequency, right? That's what criticism is about, is it's about getting you— to adhere to an idea that you are lacking, or something isn't sufficient or good enough, and trying to bring you back down, right? Jealousy. This is when you're gaining something and somebody else is simply jealous of what it is you're receiving. And in a snail-like state, they're responsive. To you as the person that is receiving whatever it is that they want. And this can create animosity and resentment and all that kind of stuff. And it's really not a good— nothing comes from a jealous exchange, right? There's really nothing positive there. A garbage person could absolutely be offering you very little, getting back into the manipulation. This is someone that maybe comes into your life your layer of reality and is just a taker, right? Or somebody that comes into your reality and instantly starts demanding or grasping at things that you have, even if it's just emotional energy. So, this is one of the ones that I'm so sensitive to these days, is when I encounter a person— that I can tell they are emotionally exploiting in nature, right? They want to create some sort of scenario where there's gonna be an emotional exchange, which is ultimately going to deplete me and help them to feel good about their endeavor, which is not for any real positive gains other than the energy that they will be taking from you for themselves, right? So, another one, runs a Script intentionally against yours. Now, this is kind of an interesting one, and I've definitely recognized when people do show this sort of trait, that it is almost like another way of expressing jealousy, somebody not wanting to see you do something for some specific reason, and they initiate a Script. Script that's against your Script. This plays out, a lot of times, in professional ways. And acknowledging when someone is doing this— because what happens is you're running your Script, right? And when somebody initiates a Script directly against yours, this could cause you to start to question your own. And especially when it comes to a big goal. Let's say that you decide— You wanna have something in your life bigger and better than what you have right now, and a family member or a friend decides to create some obstacles for whatever reason. They don't want you to go after this thing. Now, when a person does this and their Script is being played out in a way that is— stronger than yours. At a certain point, you could simply break your path to your goal because of the obstacles created by the other person running the Script against yours. I know that probably a lot of you watching this video aren't encountering this stuff all the time, because your frequency is higher, I believe, when you're— really resonating with this knowledge than the average person. So, this is probably stuff that's not just like totally abundant in your realities. But it is valuable to know that when you do come up against some of these traits, that you recognize them, and sort of— and I put it here, diagnose and assess the situation. So, you can see with clarity, right? "I see myself, I see my reality. I see that this person's being manipulative, or critical, or jealous, offering me little," right? "Running a Script intentionally against my Script." And when you do this, you really obtain the ability to stay in control and not lose yourself, again, into the Script or the other reality. Of a person that is a toxic person, right? And again, this modality, 100%, is about you staying on the path to your goal and overriding obstacles and things that come up in your way with ease, and staying true to your path, not giving up, because it's in this path that we achieve all the things that we intend to have, right? So, getting hung up and— I have, you know, when studying this stuff so deeply, really understanding the nature of reality and how reality works, and what sort of things we encounter in our lives that cause us to not have exactly what it is that we want, hands down, without a doubt, the number one thing is other people! It's amazing! And— As long as you can remain aware of this and sort of see these things with clarity as they are playing out, you have so much more advantage in navigating the situation easily, rather than getting caught up in something, not only diverting from your intention, but possibly going into an Induced Transition, lowering your energy levels, compromising your energetic field, getting sucked into a version of reality that does not suit you or your intentions, right? So, staying aware and staying awake and knowing when you encounter this stuff is so unbelievably crucial in creating your own reality. Okay. So, how to deal. First, assess the situation. So, this is why it's valuable to really have— a very strong energetic field around you, right? Because as soon as you sense that something's off in your environment, you can stop yourself, right? Rather than sort of getting caught up in a scenario which oftentimes, once you've taken that bait and you've gotten caught in the Pendulum's vortex, then you lower a little bit. Your frequency lowers, your energy level lowers, you become a little bit lost to the state that you were in previously. And in this lowering of yourself, you become susceptible to more things playing out that are in line with you getting hooked by the Pendulum, right? It increases exponentially in— your layer of reality. And then you become lost, you don't know why exactly you're not feeling as good, you don't know why exactly your energy levels are lower, you don't know why exactly you're experiencing an Induced Transition. So, having a very strong sense of your energy and what affects that energy will help you to pinpoint the moment that you need to, Assess the situation and figure out what you have come in contact with, if it is in fact a person that may be doing any of these things that are causing your layer of reality to become compromised. Then you kinda give the situation a diagnosis, right? "Okay, this person's being highly manipulative to me," or, "This person is constantly criticizing me to the extent where I can't seem to—" "I can't seem to be operating at my highest," or, "This person's acting out of jealousy, or running a Script against mine." As soon as you can do this and kind of like diagnose the situation, then it's as though you're just calling the Pendulum out without having to call it out. It's like, "I see you, and I see what you're about, and I see what you're bringing to my layer of reality, and I'm not going with that," right? So, then you go about protecting your frequency. Then it's like you acknowledge— what is at stake, your Lifetrack as you have created it for yourself, your energy levels, your trajectory towards that higher track, your path, your goal, right? And you have to go about protecting your frequency, again, so you don't lower down. And this is really what Vadim Zeland talks about in Reality Transurfing, when you get sucked into the Pendulum's vortex, keeping your frequency high and your energy levels high and your awareness high is going to absolutely help you in that vortex, like, sucking you in, right? So, now comes time for the action. You have two sort of options. This is really classically renegotiating the deal with the Pendulum. Can you still maintain your solid position on your Lifeline and continue going on your path? Or do you need to either renegotiate the deal, right? You deciding that whatever you are giving to that Pendulum person, that garbage person, is worth what you're getting in return. Or maybe you need to give a little bit less, maybe you need to ask for a little bit more, maybe you need to frail that person, right? This is you, again, not manipulating them, but actively giving the person what it is that they're asking for, and in turn, you get what it is you need. Maybe somebody just needs your attention, maybe somebody just needs you to say, stop what it is you're doing and, like, pay attention to what they're saying. And then you can go about your way with your daily whatever it is you're doing. And just stopping and asking yourself, "What is the person asking for?" Again, this is assessment. "Am I capable of giving the person what they're asking for, or is it coming at too high of a cost?" to me and my reality? And then, if the answer to that is yes, it comes time to detach, right? Then is the detachment. So, watch the video, I'll put the link below, for renegotiating the deal with the Pendulum. So, this is, again, to wrap this video up, you deciding if that person can stay in your layer of reality, can you sort of work the deal, to where you feel you're getting at least what you're putting in, if not more? And if the answer to that is no, get them out of your reality. And in this cleaning, in this cleansing of the different people in your reality, cleaning your layer of reality, you will become so much more centered. Sensitive to when one of these people come onto your track. And then, again, run through this formula, first starting with assessing the situation, so you know exactly what it is you're dealing with. So, again, I know I said this in the video before, but it really is such a pertinent point that mostly what comes in between us and our goals, if it's not ourselves, right? Is other people. And it's people that are sort of showing us these different things that cause us to lose ourselves, our momentum, our trajectory, and get sucked into a Lifeline that does not suit us or our intentions, if we were to manage the garbage people in our realities better. So, what do you think of this video? Do you have a couple of garbage people that you need to deal with? Are you pretty good at acknowledging this stuff now? And how do you keep your layer of reality clean? I'm curious to hear your thoughts! Put your comments below, like this video, all that stuff. And thank you so much for watching, guys! See you next time! Time. Bye!