In this instructional video, Renee Garcia explains the Reality Transurfing concept of “Frailing,” a give‑to‑receive strategy for improving personal and professional relationships. Frailing is defined as the ability to recognize and tune into what another person needs so that, by genuinely providing it, you receive what you desire. Garcia outlines why the method works, referencing the mirror principle: the energy you project (giving) is reflected back to you. She illustrates the concept with two book‑based examples—a marital proposal scenario where a woman shifts focus from her own desire to her partner’s needs, and a job interview where the candidate asks the interviewer what they need, thereby standing out. Garcia differentiates Frailing from manipulation, emphasizing that true giving (meeting the other’s real needs) creates a win‑win outcome, unlike deceptive tactics. She contrasts Frailing with Neville Goddard’s Specific Person Movement, which relies on intense inner intention. Practical tips are provided: listen intently, observe and adopt the other’s perspective, ask what you can give to make their life feel like a feast, and inject praise, positive energy, and love. Garcia stresses that Frailing requires systematic practice to become natural, and concludes with a call to reflect on whether one is operating from inner intention or Frailing, and invites viewers to subscribe and join the International Transurfing Institute community.
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Hello, Transurfers and the Transurfing curious! I am Renee Garcia, and this is of course Transurfing TV, the only official Transurfing channel endorsed by Vadim Zeland himself, the author of Reality Transurfing! So, someone asked me— remember, the videos are all made by request now, so if you have a request, something you would like me to go over, uh, send it to me and I will dive right in. So someone asked me, how do you frail someone exactly, Renee? So the title of this video today is How to Frail the Fuck Out of Someone. And this is really a very, very beneficial and complementary concept to your relationships. If you can learn even just the basics of Frailing, your reality will be better. Period. What I like to say is that our relationships are like complicated machines and Frailing is the oil which lubricates the machine, making it run more smoothly and more efficiently and more effectively. So if you can grasp these concepts and really learn how to Frail, you are going to have a better time in your reality and get more of what it is that you want. So what is Frailing exactly? So Frailing is the ability to recognize and dial into what someone else needs in order for them to give you what it is that you want or you intend to have. So why does it work? Well, it works because everyone is looking for something and the more you can give, give to receive, the more you will get back. So if you want to fall back on the concept, let's say the mirror concept, where you always get what you put towards it, if you're constantly just taking like this, you're pulling, you're making this action energetically, and you're constantly just asking your environment, your people, and all the things in your life for you to get, then your environment, your reality is going to show show you exactly the same thing. People will be more grabbing at you and taking from you. So if you can learn the art of give to receive, it makes receiving so much easier and more abundant. And really what it boils down to is your ability to tune in to what you can give specifically so you can receive what it is that you want. So I'm going to give two examples. Now, These are examples from the book, for those of you that have not read. I'm going to give you a personal relationship example, and then I'm going to give you a professional relationship example. So, the first example— and this is, again, Vadim writes about this in the book— is the marital proposal, okay? So, a girl wants to, desires to be married to her boyfriend. They're not married, they're not engaged, she wants to become engaged. So, what she starts doing is she starts nagging the guy. And telling the guy what she wants. I want to be married. I want you to propose. My family says that you should propose, really starts to harp on the guy using her own inner intention, trying to enforce her will on him to get him to give her what it is that she's looking for. Now, if she stopped and she did not ask for a marriage proposal, but examined the situation and his set of needs. What is he looking for that would make him happy and make him want to marry me? It's switching around where it is you're working from, your inner will or their will. So there's a key there. There is something that that person wants or desires that will then put him in a position where he will give you what you want and what you desire. And I'll tell you what, I know Vadim uses this as an example in the book. There is a reason for that. I have had so many women message me over the years asking me how they get their boyfriend to propose. And I simply say, "Frayle, stop using your own inner will and focus on what it is that he wants." So, now for the professional example, the job interview. Again, this is Vadim's example, and it illustrates this beautifully. Let's say you go into a job interview and the interviewer is asking you your skills and how you see yourself fitting into the company, and all the typical questions an interviewer asks. Now, if you are working from Inner Intention, you are going to sit there and try— to convince the interviewer why you feel you need the job, why you feel you're the best, why you think that you're good for the position. Again, this is inner intention. If you flipped it around and let's say really practically did just this, if you flipped it around and asked the interviewer what it is that he needs, so saying, what do you need from me? How can I fit into your company? Where do you feel my skills would best benefit you? And what could I learn to contribute more? If you went about a job interview from the perspective of Frailing the interviewer, the interviewer would be blown away because I'm sure that the majority of people that go into an interview use inner intention to try to sway the opinion of the interviewer or interviewers. So using Frailing and focusing on specifically what they may possibly be looking for is going to not only help you, but it's gonna shine a spotlight on you that is going to really stand out. So focusing on others' needs takes our ego and will out of the equation. Which makes people want to give to us more. So when I started my first business, my jewelry business, even before Transurfing, I understood the concept of Frailing. I did not go into trade shows or into offices and try to use my inner will to get these people to do business with me because I was very fresh, I was very inexperienced, I didn't have a lot of money, which was needed to really do this business in a way that most people do it and succeed. So I was working from a limited place when I first started. I understood the value of walking into an office or into a trade show and just immediately start asking people, what do you need? What can I do? What are you buying right now? What can I put in your direction that is going to help you to make money? And people then wanted to see me succeed. So then they did business with me and I was allowed allowed to catch some momentum and actually grow a business. But I couldn't just approach the situation selfishly and with my own will, or people weren't really going to care about my success. So you, you gotta use Frailing to win people over to your side. So what Frailing is not, and I've had a lot of people over the years message me and say, well, isn't Frailing being manipulative? Isn't that manipulating people? So manipulation is when you give the appearance that you are going to give something, but you don't end up actually giving that thing. Frailing is you figure out what that person needs and you actually give it to them. So no, you're not manipulating anybody because you are actually giving them what they actually want, and then you are getting what you want in return. You are creating a win-win scenario. This concept, Specific Person Movement, the Neville Goddard concept, this is really the antithesis of Frailing. This is someone using their inner intention 100% more, a million percent, to try to get a specific person back into their life or into their life. If you used Frailing, the results are better, it takes less energy. And if you do get this person into your life via Frailing, it's real. You're not having to trick somebody or cast a spell or do something weird to convince someone that they want to be with you when it's not in fact true. Frailing is being true to yourself and true to the other person. It's not misleading anyone. So give up the intention to have, Replace it with the intention to give, and you will get exactly what you have given up. Vadim Zeland's words. And man, do they work amazingly! Your results, both professionally and with your personal relationships, will blossom if you can grasp this concept! So, how do I do it specifically? So, these are my tips for how I frail the fuck out of someone! So, one, I listen! And I listen very, very intently! Because people oftentimes will tell you exactly what it is they are looking for, and exactly what it is they want! But usually what happens is we are so wrapped up in our inner intention, in our own minds, that we can't even hear what other people are saying, what they're expressing to us about what it is that they need, what it is they want, what it is that they desire. So if you are too inwardly focused on your own needs, you are not going to be able to hear these things. It is about tuning in to what a person is saying and actively listening to them. Number 2, observe. Live life through their perspective. What are they seeing? What are they hearing? What are they feeling? Okay? If you can put yourself in their shoes and figure out a way how you can make their experience better with their relationship with you, you are going to benefit, uh, majorly from this. Really putting yourself into the shoes of another person and figuring out exactly what it is they're experiencing, and trying to make that experience better for them, they will, of course, want to give you what it is that you intend to have. So, seeing from another's perspective is an amazing tool to develop. Again, this is practice. This isn't something that you can just do overnight. You have to gain a sense of what it is that I am talking about and start to systematically practice this. As with all Transurfing concepts, it is about systematic practice until it becomes natural. So, the more fine-tuned your skill, the more you will achieve. So, the more fine-tuned you can— you can fine-tune your ability to Frail, the more you will see that win-win scenario play out more frequently in your external environment. So what can you give to help them to feel like life is a feast? This is a question that I ask myself a lot with my relationships, my professional relationships, my romantic relationship, and my relationship with you guys. What can I give you to the best of my ability? That will help you to feel like life is a feast? What can I extend to you that will help you? What can I extend to you that you will deem valuable? What can I extend to you that will make your experience with life better? If I can give that to you, then you guys will give me what it is that I'm seeking, and that is to have more of an audience so I can to spread the word of Transurfing more. So it is really truly a win-win scenario, but I have to be willing to give it my best, to give you guys what it is that you're looking for, what you want to see, what you want to hear. And then in return, you will help me with my intention. So that's really, really the nuts and bolts of it. Um, praise. Positive energy and love. If you are challenged by a relationship and you acknowledge that you are working from a place of inner intention, if you can add in as much praise, positive energy, and love that you possibly can, the dynamic will change. It is a— it is an injection into your reality of of all the good stuff from you. And people will notice this and things will change. Give outwardly these things and your mirror will respond tenfold. So again, getting back to that, are you pulling? Are you constantly grabbing and taking from your reality? Or are you pushing and putting things into your reality that your reality could use more of? The praise, positive energy, and love, if you push as much of this out of yourself into your external reality towards your mirror, your mirror will show you more of the same. Absolutely. So again, getting back to my original statement in the beginning of the lesson, relationships are like complicated machines. And Frailing is a clean oil that helps that machine run more efficiently and more effectively, giving you what it is that you intend to have, what it is that you want. So, I will leave you all with this. Ask yourselves today where you are working from with your relationships. Are you working from inner intention? And if you are, can you gain a sense of how to switch over to Frailing instead, a more clean burning fuel for relationships? So, I will leave you all with that. Please subscribe if you have not done so. And please join us on the International Transurfing Institute Facebook group, if you have not done so already, for more conversations. Like this! Thanks, guys! Bye!
