In this Transurfing TV episode, host Renee Garcia introduces the channel, invites viewers to join the International Transurfing Institute community, and promotes her upcoming classes and private coaching. She then delves into the core teaching: why caring about external events can drain personal energy and how to stop giving a fuck. Garcia explains the concept of "pendulums"—social, media, and relational structures that capture attention and feed on negative emotions such as fear, anger, and guilt. She argues that most emotional investment in distant crises is merely pendulum food, extracting energy without providing return. The solution she offers is to lower one’s importance levels, practice non‑attachment, and use the Transurfing principle “I see myself and I see my reality” to assess whether an emotional output serves a higher purpose. She differentiates genuine caring that leads to concrete action (e.g., animal‑rights activism) from passive emotional consumption, urging viewers to transform feeling into effective deeds or to sever the emotional umbilical cord. Garcia also adopts a nihilistic, cosmic perspective—highlighting the impermanence of the solar system and humanity—to reinforce detachment. Practical advice includes observing thoughts, distinguishing the “Outer Screen” (external distractions) from the “Center Screen” (inner focus), and continuously lowering importance to become more effective in one’s reality. The video concludes with a call to like, comment, and continue practicing non‑attachment.
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Hello, Transurfers and the Transurfing curious! I am Renee Garcia, and this is Transurfing TV, the only official YouTube channel endorsed by Vadim Zeland himself, the author of Reality Transurfing! First off, if you have not yet subscribed, please do so now! We greatly appreciate your subscription here at ITI! And if you have not joined the rockin' International Transurfing Institute Facebook group, please do so! It is a thriving, beautiful community of Transurfers, beginners and advanced, from all over the world. And we have some very titillating conversations on there! So, please join us if you have not done so already! And I would like to plug my classes briefly! I am now accepting admissions for the February 15th and 16th start dates! I am giving my 'Mo Money' class, 'Becoming Magnetic', which is attracting a partner or other human beings of all genders! Different types, professionally, friends, and just becoming more magnetic in general. And of course, I have the International Transurfing Institute core program, Transurfing 1 and Transurfing 2. All programs are endorsed by Vadim Zeland. I am also open to one-on-one now. I've given in to a couple of folks that have talked me into it, and I've decided to do some private lessons again. So, if you have any interest in working with me privately, Please feel free to contact me, renee@transurfing.us, and we will see what we can work out for you! So, today's lesson! I'm gonna swear a little bit here, guys! So, if swearing offends you or you don't wanna hear it, this is now your key to go to the next video! But today's lesson, how to not give a fuck! So, yeah! This one, for me, really was a challenge in the beginning, because I cared! A lot cared, and I'll get into that more in a moment. I cared a lot about things happening outside of me externally that I had no control over. So this is the bizarre world we live in now. Chaos, tragedy, environmental issues, animal rights, genocide, poverty, war, all of this stuff, all of this, this, this negative information getting fed to us into our realities, into our homes, into our beings. And then we are asked the bizarre chore of caring. And the reason that I feel so strongly about this topic is because if you are not in a position to actually do something about whatever cause you are feeding emotionally, if it is just being fed emotions, you're not really doing anything and you're just kind of pendulum food. So again, we have zero control over a lot of the external events happening outside of us, and we can take back that energy if we choose to do so. So why are we being solicited for care, right? So emotional connection to any cause, especially one that is not in our immediate environment, right? So if you're not in a war zone, if people aren't dying of hunger out in front of your door, if there aren't these chaotic events playing out in your immediate reality that you can see and smell and hear, then you are simply being solicited to give emotions to these external events by proxy. So you're far away and your emotions, really are just kind of like the food that Pendulums eat right up. So, these external events, what happens is they grab our attention, they keep our attention, and then they exploit our attention. So, of course, the elephant here is the advertising, or the tuning in, or captivating your attention, your thoughts, that moment. To give you something that's like an advertisement or ratings or something. So, you are being exploited emotionally when you are connected to a cause via emotion with no action. So, what is the meal du jour for Pendulums and your energy? Nervousness, right? Fear, sadness, discontent. Anger, resentment, disgust, guilt. So, these are all things that Pendulums know they can hook us via this emotion. So, Pendulums will get our attention via topics that will make this emotion blossom in you, and then use that to hook on to you. Creating an umbilical cord that then extracts energy from you. So these entities, whatever they are, media, social media, uh, family and friends, community things, all these different entities that want us to contribute emotionally, they don't actually want us to feel better. They want us to feel worse because that means more views, more watch time, more advertisements, more emotion, and they will do anything in their power to make you feel worse and make you feel these negative emotions so they can keep your energy or your attention captivated so they can captivate you. So they will do whatever it takes to make you feel worse. Their intention is not good for you. Media and worldly ways that information comes into our reality, they're not going to say one day, oh, problem solved and everything's fixed and now it's time to feel good. They know that you plugging in via negative emotions is going to keep the thing going, perpetuating it. So they will do whatever they can to keep you in that space. So who are these entities and what do they want from us? Again, this is social media, media, family, friends, social structures. And why do they do this? Again, to sell us stuff, to get us to resonate at the same frequency. This is when it comes to personal relationships, or family, friends, maybe your church, different social or community structures. The saying "misery loves company," we all want to resonate at the same frequency of the human beings around us. That's why we're attracted to things like these videos, or ITI, right? It's because we're finding people that we resonate with, and that feels good. So, being aware, being cautious of people resonating at a low frequency trying to get you to join their frequency. This is really key. This is them saying, "Come here, little Pendulum morsel, and resonate with me!" And this is not ultimately fulfilling you, or helping you to connect with your higher self or your higher purpose. This is you adhering to some other script that does not behoove you! So, what is the answer to all this shit? Stop caring! And I know this sounds like a blanket statement, and it's a little outrageous. I know the advanced Transurfers understand this well, but for the newcomers and the Transurfing curious, this is where Reality Transurfing does take a little bit of a nihilistic approach, to stop caring! Ask yourself this one question: Is this emotional output serving me in a positive way? Manner. Period. If no, stop caring to sever that emotional umbilical cord. The easiest way to become aware of it and to take the first step in doing this is the great words of Tufti, "I see myself and I see my reality." I see what is going on outside of me, and I see my relationship to it and exactly what is going on energetically. And this is really the crux of it, is we are getting bled of energy slowly via external Pendulums that have us convinced that this is caring, or this is being compassionate, or this is doing something good for your community, or doing something good for your humanity. But really, if you can stop and take a look at the situation, "I see myself and I see my reality." and measure, quantify what is going on. Is this good for me? Is it bad? Is more energy going out than is coming back into me? Am I feeling like these entities are depleting me yet giving me nothing in return? So then that's time to either renegotiate. You can watch that video, Renegotiating with the Pendulum, or simply cut it off. And the way that we cut it off is lowering our Importance levels and stop caring. Emotions are depleting energetically and they serve little purpose in reality. The exception is if it fulfills or serves your higher purpose or your higher good or puts you onto a higher track. So let's say you feel strongly for a cause. Okay. Let's say you feel strongly for animal rights. There is a difference between you scrolling through Instagram and getting snagged up on one of those weird Instagram posts where it's like, "Who's posting this?" It's some kind of advertisement, and they're showing you something horrible happening to animals, right? In some foreign country. I won't even get into the specifics, we've all seen them. But if you're one of these people that say, "Oh, I really care about animal rights!" But all you're doing is giving emotion in that way, you're actually not doing anything. You're not being effective, you're not helping the cause. Now, the thing has you convinced that you are, and that's how they hook you in, that if you don't stop, you're insensitive, or you don't care, or you're not compassionate towards animals. Whereas, of my opinion, that if you actually care, if that strikes a chord in you, it might be part of your higher purpose. So, it's time— time to get off your butt and figure out what you need to do to take that caring and transform it into action that actually helps a situation improve or helps you connect with your higher self or your higher purpose. So helping someone for real versus thinking of helping someone, this is something that I see all of the time. I get people asking me all of time, I want to help people like you, but then they don't actually take the steps. They like to think that they're caring. They like to think that they're compassionate. They like to think that it feels good to help people, but actually starting to do the work and get up off your butt and actually help people, those are two totally different things. If you didn't watch my last, I think it was the second to the last video I did where I told that story of Louis C.K. giving up Uh, his plane seat, or rather that being just a thought in his head, go back and watch that one. That's the perfect example. There's a huge difference between thinking about caring and actually caring. And if you're not actually caring, then sever it. Don't give that emotion, keep it for yourself so you can then use it to further something that you actually do care about because emotion going out of you, is energy going out of you. So, how to stop caring? Again, this is gonna sound nihilistic in nature, and it is! Lower importance levels! Don't battle emotions, lower importance around the subject instead. So, give up! If you really truly feel like you being connected to something emotionally is not helping you, give up on the subject and walk away, and go put your focus on something that actually gives you something in return. Back up! We are all small and insignificant, and everything is impermanent! I read something not too long ago saying that our entire solar system— and I know this is gonna sound like a little bit of a rant— But our entire solar system is going to be obliterated by something called violent relaxation, where everything ultimately just gets sucked into the sun and destroyed. So, everything that we think is something worthwhile or big or important, it's all headed in one direction. A little over 100 years from now, every single human being on this planet is going to be dead, including every animal. Things are constantly regenerating. Problems do resolve themselves ultimately in time. And having this attitude, having this nihilistic attitude towards none of it really matters because it's all just headed in a direction where it's all going to cease to exist. This actually does help me feel disconnected from my environment in a way that ultimately does serve me better, helping me to keep energy energy for me that I can then use in an effective manner where I actually see results rather than me just caring. I'm actually doing something. And that makes, that makes a difference, I think, in how I feel, how I function in my reality, and of course, helping other people. Now I know this is a bit of a contradiction and I understand it sounds like that, but this is how stopping caring has worked for me. It's allowed me to put myself in a position where I can use my energy for bigger and better things. So, again, strive to be effective rather than compassionate. If you consider yourself a compassionate person, ask yourself, are you actually doing stuff? Right? Being effective is so much more worthwhile than perceived compassion. If you really care, get involved, connect to your higher self, or stop caring. So I will leave you all with this. Life is to be enjoyed. Care less, enjoy more, detach, practice the Buddhist concept of non-attachment, continuously, uh, observe your thoughts and try to acknowledge and recognize when something has you hooked, and your ability as a free-thinking human being to detach. Remain away from the Outer Screen. That Outer Screen is constantly calling us, "Come here, come here!" And we have the ability to take a step back. Now, that's not inward to the point where we're just in our minds, but that's That Center Screen is where you can be effective. But don't get sucked into that Outer Screen constantly with the illusion that your caring actually means something. It doesn't. And really, at the end, the bottom line is let go and stop giving a fuck. I stopped giving a fuck on certain things when I first found Transurfing. It's been a continuous practice since then. And I notice myself dropping or lowering my Importance levels more and more and more. And I swear, the more I lower these Importance levels, the more I stop caring, the more effective I actually become in my environment. So, if you have any questions about this, I know this is a little bit provocative, ask away, I'm here to answer. Please like this video if you do in fact like it. And drop Importance, y'all! It is a wonderful, life-changing concept. Bye!
