In this YouTube monologue, the presenter explains how the Reality Transurfing model can be applied to relationships and life situations that feel limiting. She describes the concept of "lifelines" or "lifetracks"—frequency‑based realities that people inhabit—and argues that when one's personal frequency rises, staying with a partner, friend, or job that remains on a lower frequency creates tension and energy loss for both parties. The speaker shares a personal anecdote from her mid‑30s about feeling trapped in a comfort zone and deciding to "pull the rip‑cord" to move toward higher opportunities. She emphasizes the importance of not making impulsive, drastic moves (like filing for divorce or quitting a job) solely because of Transurfing ideas, urging viewers to assess genuine desire before acting. The talk outlines the internal dialogue between a higher self (calling for growth) and a lower self (clinging to comfort), and how external relationships can act as anchors that keep one on a lower lifetrack. By consciously leaving such anchors and entering the "alternative space"—a realm of infinite possibilities—one can align with higher‑frequency people, actions, and circumstances, thereby attracting more desirable outcomes in love, career, and personal development. The presenter cautions against falling back into old patterns after a break and stresses maintaining momentum to avoid energy loss. The video concludes with a call to comment, like, and subscribe.
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It's time to find higher things. It's time to find higher actions. It's time to find higher people, higher experiences, higher stuff. And the lower frequency holding you back, if you continue to give in to it— maybe they don't need you, right? So, maybe you're actually— and I know this is obvious to a lot of people that are older. Today we are going to be discussing how to leave other people. I know, it's like, oh my gosh, makes me kind of just a little bit queasy even thinking about it because nobody ever wants to do that, right? Nobody ever wants to be the one to dip out of a relationship or break up a marriage, break up a friendship, break up a professional partnership, break up a your domestic situation, whatever it is. But let's face it, sometimes we outgrow things and it's time to move on. And this Transurfing model that I'm going to show you guys today is my visual representation in my mind of exactly how this transpires, why this transpires, and how it— ultimately is good for everybody. Because let's face it, if you're feeling tethered and you are existing on one of these lower Lifelines with someone that is not growing, that is not excelling, that is not developing, and you are feeling as though this person is holding you back— Right? This is not going to translate well for either party. This is not good for you and it's not good for them. Because just as much as it sucks to leave someone, it also sucks to be the person that is holding someone back. So, sometimes things just don't match up at the right times, right? And— In order for the person that is to be left to really move on and get some stuff that they need so they can evolve as well, maybe they don't need you, right? So, maybe you're actually— and I know this is obvious to a lot of people that are older, like myself. Sometimes it just needs to happen so both people can grow and move on. But I know it's scary, and I wanna say before I get into this more deeply— I don't want anybody to watch this video and then go break it off, you know, a 30-year marriage, go file for divorce! Think about this stuff! And I'm sure you already are! But these are big bold moves, this is the quantum leap! And even though this might suck for you right now, you throwing yourself into the Alternative Space and all the variables that exist— in that space, which is infinite, right? There is going to be stuff there that is gonna be uncomfortable as well. So, feel confident if you're ready to make a move. Don't make a move just because of this video, or that you found Transurfing and you're like, "Oh my God! I'm involved with a Pendulum! My whole life's been bullshit!" I encounter so many people that I have in the past. I mean, now I give big disclosures, and I actually have people sign a document saying— If you make a big move in your life, it's on you, it's not on me. Because I've encountered people that find Reality Transurfing, they read it, they reach out to me for coaching, I get involved with them, and a few weeks in they're like, "Okay, I'm filing for divorce! I'm quitting my 9 to 5! I'm gonna give it all up! And I realize it's all Pendulums now!" And it's like, no, don't! Don't just jump like crazy, unless you really, really want to. I'm the kind of person that jumps like crazy, so for me, I mean, it's up to you. But don't do anything rash, is the bottom line of it. So, getting back to this. What happens, in my opinion, is that we have— remember our two different voices. We have our higher voice. Right? And we have our lower voice. So, we have the voice of our Higher Self and the voice of our Lower Self. And we have a life that is a culmination of our thoughts, actions, frequency, lessons we've learned. It all kind of creates this life. And this life becomes our comfort zone, okay? And then, at a certain point, when you start to feel— this happened with me in my mid-30s. I started to feel like the walls of that box of my comfort zone became extremely restrictive in nature. And my higher voice was calling me, saying, "Renee, it's time to—" It's time to find higher things, it's time to find higher actions, it's time to find higher people, higher experiences, higher stuff. And watch my video on the pain of not acting, right? So, then I started to encounter this pain of like feeling as though I was missing out, feeling as though I wasn't living my fullest. Feeling as though I wasn't ascending, right? And it became too much to bear, so I decided to pull the ripcord, cut the line, however you wanna look at it. I actually didn't have a super serious partner at the time, so it was a little easier for me to do. I had a partner, but we were already kind of like— things had gotten— they were deteriorating. So, it was sort of easy for me to pull that ripcord and be like, "Okay, I'm out!" So, what happens is we start resonating with the higher things, right? We start resonating with that higher action, the higher opportunity, the voice of our higher self. And we feel as though we wanna climb, but then we got Mr. or Mrs. You-Know-Who, Kinda, "No, stay here with me!" Now, what this person is doing is this person is trying to protect their comfort zone, because they don't wanna go into the unknown either! You may be working on yourself, your self-development, your future, you're reading Transurfing, you're doing whatever to evolve as a person, but maybe this person isn't doing it! Okay? So, this person isn't doing it! And they want to protect the comfort zone that you and this person has created. So, they essentially become an anchor holding you down on one of those lower Lifetracks. Now, this is when all sorts of bad stuff kicks in, resentment, hostility— feelings that they're holding you back. Maybe you start to dislike the person, maybe you start to pick the person apart. And this sort of stuff is just not good. Now, sometimes it takes a while for people— and here's the thing, and I didn't mention this in the beginning of the video, and this is actually a very, very powerful point. All of your relationships have ended because either you've done this, right? Leaving somebody on a lower Lifeline, ascending to a higher one yourself. Or somebody else has done that to you, ascending to a higher one themselves. I mean, there are a few— sometimes people will leave a relationship just to get into another dysfunctional one. But more or less, the intention is good, right? Somebody wants something higher and better, and they feel as though they're not finding it there on that Lifeline. So, you start to feel this resentment, and this person isn't allowing you to ascend, and maybe they're not working on themselves, and they wanna maintain their comfort box and you wanna kinda blow yours up. It is, in my opinion— the best thing for both of these people for that ascension to actually take place. Now, when you decide that you are going to leave this person on a lower lifeline, you throw yourself into the alternative space where there is more opportunity for you to connect with, uh, things, people, uh, events, all sorts of stuff that are then at your frequency which has become higher. So in doing this, leaving this person, ascending higher, you're actually releasing yourself to attract higher intentions for yourself. But don't waste it, right? As I just stated previously, sometimes people leave others because they have these intentions to have higher and better things, but then they themselves get trapped into their box of comfort, now just minus the Mr. or Mrs., and then they end up right back in the same place that they were in this scenario. So don't waste it. If you're going to actually make a move and leave somebody on a lower Lifeline, ensure that you do in fact ascend to a higher one and you start taking more chances and you start and you start creating more opportunity, and you start taking more action, and you start connecting with higher people that are more suitable for that future version of yourself, right? So, in closing— I don't want this one to go on too long. When you end up up here, more of what you want exists. And this can be matters of the heart, money— more adventure, more professional opportunity, whatever it is. But you sort of cut yourself off at the knees energetically when you stay in this lower space and you accept your lot with this other person, and you waste energy that you could use creating your own reality to get you up to some of these higher Lifelines. So, the bottom, bottom, bottom line of it is it all has to do with frequency. So, you were once resonating with this person at the same frequency. Your frequency has changed, your frequency is a little higher, therefore you need to ascend to those higher tracks where you're gonna match up with more of what you intend to have. More higher frequency living, and cut the cord with this lower frequency that's holding you back. And the lower frequency holding you back, if you continue to give in to it— and I've seen this a lot— you'll do like this up and down thing, right? So, what will happen is you'll feel like you wanna move forward, you'll feel like you wanna ascend, leave this person on the lower Lifetrack, ascend to a higher one. And then their frequency is very consistent, so it actually then affects your frequency, so then you become complacent and accepting again, and you go, "Okay, well, I guess that I can make do with this." And then you try to branch out again. And then— so, this thing that you're doing, this up and down thing with you trying to get up, not getting up, coming back down to their frequency, to their level— That movement is a bunch of energy loss, and that energy loss is energy you could use to create a reality, cutting the ripcord, ascending to the higher Lifelines where more of what you intend to have exists! So, this is leaving others on lower Lifelines! I know it sounds a little bit ruthless, but, you know, life is short! And why are you gonna spend your life with someone that's not evolving, were not developing, and you know that a better life is possible because you understand Transurfing now, right? So, let me know your thoughts on this one, everybody! Remember to like this video, comment, subscribe, all that good stuff! And thank you so much for watching! Bye, guys!
