RESENTMENT & JUDGEMENT Living The Reality Transurfing Concepts Vadim Zeland Renée Garcia

2 Jun 2020 · 3 min

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In this lecture, the speaker explores the nature of self‑resentment and judgment through the lens of Vadim Zeland’s Reality Transurfing. They distinguish between healthy dissatisfaction that fuels personal growth and destructive self‑criticism that creates a harmful dialogue between heart and mind. The heart is described as perfect and self‑sufficient, while shortcomings are attributed to the mind, not the soul. From this perspective, habitual negative self‑talk is harmful, whereas savoring tiny positive details is empowering. The speaker proposes a simple habit‑replacement technique: consciously seek the positive aspect in every negative situation, treating it as a game to rewire the habit loop. Consistent practice replaces the old destructive habit, benefiting the individual and thwarting “destructive pendulums” (negative collective forces). An illustrative tool is King Solomon’s ring inscribed with “This too shall pass,” used as a reminder to view misfortune through a transient, positive lens. The overall message encourages a shift from self‑punishment to constructive self‑acceptance, using Transurfing principles and practical reframing exercises.

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Resentment and judgment. We will begin with resentment of self. This feeling arises when a person is unfulfilled by their personal achievements and qualities and finds it hard to accept their own weaknesses. If a person is dissatisfied with their achievements to the degree that it serves as a motivation for self-improvement, then balance is not disturbed. The outside world is not affected, and the inner shift towards balance is established via positive action. If a person starts upsetting themselves, beating themselves up, or even worse, punishing themselves, then a destructive dialogue between heart and mind is created. The heart is self-sufficient, perfect, and does not deserve to be treated so harshly. All shortcomings that a person acquires are shortcomings of the mind, not the soul. From the point of view of Transurfing, The habit of expressing displeasure at little things is harmful and undermining, whereas the habit of taking pleasure in tiny details is empowering. For this reason, the technique aimed at substituting the former habit with the latter. The technique is very simple. However banal it sounds, every cloud has a silver lining. If you set yourself the task of looking for the positive in every negative situation you encounter, you will find that it is not actually that difficult to do. It can even be a game. If you play the game consistently, the old habit will be replaced by the new one, which will be of great benefit to you personally, but a nightmare for destructive pendulums. If something terrible happens, which it would be unnatural to see positively, follow the example of King Solomon, who wore a ring with the inscription "This too shall pass" on the inside edge of the ring so that no one else would see it. When the king suffered misfortune or came up against a complex problem, he would turn the ring over and read the words of the inscription.