3 Things To Know About Fantasies

A sex therapist and here are three things you should know about your fantasies. Number one, you don't have to act on your fantasies. Sometimes things are just fun to play around with in our brain in our actual fantasies. But just because you are daydreaming about something doesn't mean you actually have to try it in real life. Number two, your fantasies don't mean anything. A lot of us feel a temptation to read into our fantasies to try to make meaning out of why we like certain things, and it's just just not always helpful. I like to make a comparison with food here. Like, I don't try to make meaning out of the fact that I love mushrooms or I don't love oysters. It doesn't say anything about me as a person, it's just my personal preferences. And number three, you don't have to be sure that you would actually like your fantasies. So a lot of us hesitate to even share fantasy with a partner because we just don't know whether or not we're actually going to like it. But again, this is another great food comparison. When you go to a restaurant and you order the chicken salad, you're not guaranteeing that you're going to like it, right? You have a good enough sense that you'll probably like it, but there are no guarantees. Let me know what fact surprised you the most down in the comments below.