Vanessa and Xander Marin (YouTube creators) explain and try the viral "grapefruit technique" — placing a cored-out grapefruit over the penis during oral sex to stimulate the shaft — and give a sex-therapist review and practical tips. They performed an actual trial and found the technique novel and entertaining but messy, potentially irritating (citrus juice risk to the urethra), and not preferable in sensation to their usual techniques. They emphasize playfulness in the bedroom, advise cleanup (towel), normalize body fluids, and promote their paid foreplay guides for manual/oral techniques.
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We can't start a video. Back in 2014, a sex educator named Denise Walker took the Internet by storm when her grapefruit technique for oral sex went viral. That was back in 2014, but almost 10 years later, it's had a recent resurgence in popularity. We're all rediscovering this again. So today we are going to give you an explanation, explainer of the grapefruit technique, a sex therapist review of it, and we're also going to give you some important tips and things to note if you are interested in trying this technique out with your partner. But first, we want to hear from you. Have you ever heard of the grapefruit technique before? Maybe you heard about it back in 2014 or you just heard about it recently for the first time. But drop us a fruit emoji in the comments below if you have heard of it before.
Or an eggplant, why not? All right, but first, if you're brand new here, then we just want to say, hi, this is Vanessa. I'm Xander Marin, Vanessa's sex therapist. I'm just a regular dude. We've been together for 14 years. And these cute little faces to the side of us, if you can see them, are our pugs, Maggie and Winston.
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Yeah, do it.
All right, so let's talk a little bit more about what the heck the grapefruit technique is. Now, guys, I have a confession to make. We were gonna have a prop for this, but we forgot. So instead of a grapefruit, or maybe.
We just used it up, we only.
Have this teeny, tiny little orange.
So imagine this is bigger.
Imagine this is much bigger. Basically, what you do with the grapefruit technique is you use a cored out grapefruit to stimulate the shaft of the penis while you're performing oral. So you would take a grapefruit. Again, it's gonna be a lot bigger than this. You cut off each of the ends and then you cut a little bit of a hole in the middle so that the grapefruit goes onto the penis that way, right? So you're gonna have, when you're doing giving a blowjob, you're gonna have your hand on the grapefruit, your mouth on the head of the penis, and you're kind of moving up and down the shaft with your grapefruit so let's tell you a little bit about our experience. We did not use this. We used an actual grapefruit. And first of all, let me just say, like, we are all about being creative and expl. Exploring in the bedroom. Major props to Denise for coming up with this technique. We're just going to share our personal experience with it.
All right. So personally, there were some issues that come up using the grapefruit technique. I mean, the first one, as you can imagine, is you have citrus juice, which is somewhat acidic, and grapefruit is actually a bit more acidic or sour than this nice blood orange that we have, which, unfortunately is not large enough to do this. But, you know, you can have issues with citrus juice getting into your urethra. You know, it's. It's. Yeah. Like, I would say, it didn't really make for a better blow job. It made for a very novel blow job.
Yeah, it felt like entertaining. It was something different to do. But I think in terms of pure sensation, to you, it did not feel better. It actually felt worse than just a regular.
It didn't feel better, though. I wouldn't say it's necessarily a regular blowjob. I think we have some pretty good techniques. We're gonna talk about that a little later, though, so stay tuned.
And on my end, like, I just found it to be, like, really messy. We had to put a towel down before.
Oh, you gotta be prepared. Yeah.
We were worried about the juice getting everywhere.
And it did, right?
And it did. Yeah. I mean, you're squeezing the grapefruit as you're doing it, so you're literally juicing it on your partner's penis. It was kind of. Juice was everywhere. And to me, it, like, it took up so much juice area that I didn't really have as much to work with. It just felt kind of, like, clumsy and awkward and uncomfortable. And especially hearing him say, I didn't like it any better from a physical sensation perspective. If he had told me I loved it, that was amazing. I totally would have been willing to do it again. But when I heard him say, it's really not any better from our average blowjob, then it was like, I don't know if I would really want to bother trying it again.
Well, what do you think? Also about the flavor. Flavor of it, too? Because, I mean, if you think about grapefruit, usually most people, like, cut a grapefruit in half, they put a little sugar on top of grapefruit.
So I was not a fan of doing this. If we had found, like, A really big orange that we could use. Maybe that would have been more enjoyable. But for me, it was like, I did not like grapefruit.
Yeah. And definitely if you do do this, because we're not saying that you shouldn't do it. Like, if you. If you do do this, do not put sugar on as well, because that will create a whole additional stickiness factor, which is not gonna be very fun.
Yeah. So, like we were saying, we're all about couples exploring, trying new things in the bedroom. It's okay if an experiment doesn't go well. Like, we still look back at this experience and laugh. We think of it fondly. It's not like it was this horrible thing that we did that we would never do again. Right. So don't let our experience deter you from trying it out. If you're curious. It definitely is entertaining. It's a fun novelty. And, like, we're big fans of just being silly and playful in the bedroom together. Like, sex doesn't have to be so serious. It's fun, you know, to just be a little goofy with each other. Also, one thing that I'll say about this is, if you're somebody who's very squeamish about the way that semen tastes. Like, we are really big on normalizing body fluids. Like, they're not supposed to taste like candy, and we don't want anybody shaming their partner and saying, like, you don't taste good. But that being said, like, if you're a fan of grapefruit juice, if it's a good flavor for you, having that flavor in your mouth can be something that helps you get over the hump a little bit or ease into getting used to your partner's natural flavor. Our only advice that we would say is just make sure you put a towel down to clean up the juice. But go ahead and have fun. Try it out.
All right, so that wraps up our video on us reviewing the grapefruit technique. But like I alluded to earlier, I was saying that I preferred to, you know, some other blowjob techniques better than the grapefruit technique. So if you're wondering what is that, you are in luck, because we actually sell foreplay guides on how to give manual and oral sex to a penis and also to a vulva. And we've developed what we think are some really excellent techniques over the years, we've tested it. We've had thousands of other couples that test it. I would say they are pretty darn good. So, yeah, check it out in. We'll have a link down below to check that out. It's pretty awesome. All right, so if you like this video, you can give it a like. You can also hit that red button to subscribe to our YouTube channel and hit the notification bell so that you keep getting notified as soon as we post more videos.
