Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, and her husband Xander explain what a facial is, why people enjoy it, and how to do it safely. They trace it to porn, discuss the appeal of visual feedback and power dynamics, and stress the importance of consent and closing your eyes.
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I can't start a video like that. Xander, why are you wearing that?
I'm giving myself a facial for the video.
No, that is not the kind of facial we are talking about today. Today we're talking about the sexual act of giving a facial. Oh, so we are breaking down.
Interesting.
What a facial is, what you need to know about it, and some fun facts about facials.
Well, this is embarrassing.
Before we get into it, we want to hear from you. Have you ever given or received a facial? Let us know in the comments down below.
Wow, what a great facial. Now, if you're brand new to our channel, wow, what a video to enter on. We are Vanessa and Xander Marin. Vanessa here is a sex therapist. I'm a regular dude. We've been together for 14 years. And most importantly, these are our cute little pugs, Winston. And Maggie's not here. Sorry.
And our account is all about giving you the tools, tips and techniques that you need to create a truly extraordinary relationship inside of the bedroom and out. So if you are excited about that, go ahead and hit that subscribe button. All right, so I've got all the hard hitting questions today. So what the heck is a facial?
All right, so it is not really what I just did. A facial is coming on someone's face. So some people prefer coming on other parts of the body, but we are talking specifically about coming on the face, hence the term facial.
Yeah, so we're talking about facials as a penis owner thing, which is why I'm asking Xander all the questions here. Okay, so why are facials even a thing? Where did guys penis owners get the idea to do this?
I think the idea mostly comes from porn and, you know, in porn of giving a facial, it's a visual representation that the guy is orgasming. And often, you know, it's better to be able to see a visual representation of that in porn rather than to just assume, like if someone is coming inside because, you know, porn is really just entertainment, so they're trying to show you it happened.
All right, why do penis owners like facials?
Well, I think it is probably because we see it so often in porn. There's a bit of a taboo factor that to it, it feels kind of wrong, but it's something that we see in porn. And so it's like, hmm, that seems like something I might like to try. You probably also get some pleasure from seeing it happen. You know, seeing yourself come on your partner's face. And then there's a sort of a power play element as well. Like you feel very Powerful doing that to somebody else.
Well, I guess that sort of leads us into the next question, which we get from our audience. A lot of people asking, like, well, does my partner want to do this to me because they hate me or they're, like, trying to degrade me? Like, I think for a lot of people, it feels like a very degrading act that feels kind of spiteful. And so, yeah, what's that all about?
Yeah, I mean, that might be where a bit of the taboo nature comes in, but I do think it's not necessarily a degrading act. You know, oftentimes it can be just, like, something that feels new and different because it may not be something that you've done before, or maybe you've never done it with his partner before. Also, if your partner is highly visual, they may really enjoy that because obviously there's a whole visual that goes along with it. However, if your partner surprises you or forces a facial on you, that's where it gets into the territory of being degraded, and that's really not okay. However, we will say that being degraded can be a kink. And so if that is your kink and it's consensual, that's really the key term. Like consensual degrading versus non consensual degrading. There is nothing wrong with being degraded and receiving a facial if that is part of your kink and that is something you're doing consensually. All right, now I'm going to turn this around on you. So why might someone enjoy receiving a facial?
Good question. Okay, there can be a lot of different possible reasons. It's very individual. So some people are just turned on by semen. It can feel hot to them to, like, watch their partner orgasming. For some people, it might just be more about their partner's pleasure. Like, I see that my partner is really enjoying this, and, like, maybe it's not my favorite thing, but I like seeing my partner experiencing that pleasure. It might be that kind of taboo nature of it. It feels like, ooh, this is something we're not supposed to do. But that makes it feel kind of fun and sexy. And like Xander was just saying a minute ago, like, some people are turned on by being degraded. So if it does feel that way to you, like, they. It could be a really exciting way that you want to experience that with your partner. Pro tip, though. If you do decide that you want to receive a facial, make sure to close your eyes when that critical moment happens, because getting semen in your eyes is definitely no fun. All right, well, that wraps up our video on facials.
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See you next time. This is a. Oh, boy, am I going to be able to see out of this.
