An Exclusive Sneak Peek: Chapter One Of Sex Talks

Name: An Exclusive Sneak Peek: Chapter One Of Sex Talks
Uploaded: 2023-05-25T10:15:03+00:00
Duration: 1 min 8 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: Vanessa Marin explains why new relationships feel obsessive: surging dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine create a drug-like high that lasts one to…

25 May 2023 · 1 min

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Vanessa Marin explains why new relationships feel obsessive: surging dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine create a drug-like high that lasts one to three years. Then oxytocin and vasopressin take over, shifting you toward calm attachment. That loss of intensity isn't failure, it's biology.

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One to three years (max) according to the speaker.

Oxytocin and vasopressin (promote relaxation and bonding).

Serotonin levels similar to someone with obsessive-compulsive disorder; dopamine levels mimic being high on cocaine.

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Let's start with one of the most straightforward reasons chemistry with your partner feels so much stronger at the beginning of a relationship. Literal chemistry in your early months together, the neurotransmitters in your brain go buck wild. The serotonin levels there are similar to those in someone who has obsessive compulsive disorder, and the dopamine levels mimic being high on cocaine. It's that intense. But this stage can last for only one to three years max. You're previously surging High octane transmitters serotonin, dopamine and norepinephrine epinephrine get replaced with oxytocin and vasopressin, which are designed to help us relax and bond. We shift into creating deeper attachment to our partner and forging a strong, secure, lasting foundation. Brain chemistry isn't the entire picture, but it's useful to know that your brain is physically incapable of maintaining that same level of lust. Over the long term. You find yourself feeling sad and scared that it seems so much harder to be attracted to and turned on by your partner. Stop judging yourself. Losing desire is actually more natural than feeling it constantly.