Vanessa and Xander Marin explain how some people can orgasm by crossing or squeezing their legs together, often discovered in childhood. The technique works alone or combined with clitoral stimulation, and they normalize it as common while offering tips to explore other ways to orgasm.
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November 8, 2022.
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We need to start a video like that. Do you squeeze your legs together in order to help you reach orgasm? You may be surprised to learn that this is a very common and totally normal technique. So today we're talking a little bit more about why some vulva owners do this and how you can learn to orgasm in other ways if you want to.
But first, if you're brand new to our channel, then we want to say, hi. We are Vanessa and Xander Marin. Vanessa here is a sex therapist, and. And we've been together for 14 years.
Coming on 15 really soon.
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So our account is all about giving you the tools, tips, and techniques that you need to create a truly extraordinary relationship inside the bedroom and out. So if you know you're already interested in that, then just go ahead, hit that subscribe button. Okay, so what is the leg squeezing technique? So this is when a vulva owner can cross their legs or squeeze them together tightly in order to orgasm. So some people can literally have orgas just from this technique alone. Other people combine it with some clitoral stimulation. Some people also will straighten their legs out in front of them and just, like, hold muscle tension there in order to get over the edge into orgasm. Also, some people even, like, pulse the muscles a little bit, especially when they're getting very close to orgasm. So a lot of different ways to do this, but we're kind of grouping them all together into this general leg squeezing type of technique. So a lot of vulva owners discovered this technique actually as children. So maybe you just, like, squeeze your legs together when you had to go to the bathroom. Maybe it was like playing on the jungle gym. But a lot of people will discover at this young age, of course, you don't really think of what you're doing at the time as masturbation, but you just kind of discover that creating a lot of tension there feels really good. So for a lot of people, this is something that they've been doing for pretty much their entire lives.
A lot of vulva owners can feel like this is a shameful little secret that they have, or something. Something is wrong with them, or maybe that they're, like, the only person in the world who masturbates or orgasms in this way. But we want to say this is totally normal. You are not the only person.
Yeah, it's really similar to the grinding technique, which is another way that vulva owners reach orgasm. We actually have a separate YouTube video about that. So if you're interested in learning more about that Check out the other videos in our resources section. We'll link to it down below. But the same sort of dynamic comes up around that where it. It's not something that we really talk about that openly. So a lot of people don't even realize that it's a thing. Other people do it. So it contributes to that feeling of like, I must be the only weirdo in the world who does this, when the reality is it's totally normal and very common. So we just think that it's actually pretty cool that there are so many unique ways that people are able to reach orgasm.
Yeah, we really hope this makes you feel normal and not alone.
Okay, so if you're somebody who can only orgasm this way, like, it feels like you have to do this, otherwise you're just not gonna get to orgasm. Then. We are also going to link to our course, Finishing School in the description box below. This is our course that really guides you through, step by step, exactly what to do to have orgasms on your own and with your partner. And we have a whole section about overcoming this technique and learning to orgasm in other ways. Also, we want to be super clear. There is no orgasm hierarchy. There aren't like orgasms or ways of orgasming that are better than the other. So if you like orgasming this way, there's nothing wrong with it. Continue doing it. But if you want to learn how to orgasm in other ways without having to do it, the general technique that we teach in finishing school is that you wanna gradually over time, ease up on the pressure. You gotta give your body a little bit of time to get used to not having that level of stimulation. So again, we go over more tricks and techniques in finishing school itself. But that's like the general idea of what you're aiming for. All right, well, that wraps up our video on squeeze squeezing your legs to orgasm.
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