December 4, 2025

Name: December 4, 2025
Uploaded: 2025-12-04T22:28:30+00:00
Duration: 43 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: Vanessa Marin (YouTube) explains how carrying the primary mental load in a relationship leaves the person feeling mentally full, unable to relax or feel…

4 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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Vanessa Marin (YouTube) explains how carrying the primary mental load in a relationship leaves the person feeling mentally full, unable to relax or feel desire, and constantly on autopilot. She describes how a partner who refuses to acknowledge or share the mental load can begin to feel like a child rather than an equal partner, which she notes undermines sexual/relational drive.

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So from the primary holder of the mental load, what we hear from people is, you know, like, my brain feels so full of mental load that there's just not the space for anything else. I can't relax. I can't be present in the moment. I don't feel any space for desire. I'm just constantly go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go. And if you have a relationship where it feels like your partner, like, really doesn't understand the mental load, maybe they refuse to share it with you. They refuse to acknowled doing. It is very easy for your partner to stop feeling like a partner and start feeling like your child. And nothing kills drive faster than that.