Do you ever feel annoyed?

Name: Do you ever feel annoyed?
Uploaded: 2023-04-11T10:30:05+00:00
Duration: 1 min 3 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: Vanessa Marin discusses a couple-focused guideline (making out as a daily/regular ritual) framed as a voluntary, connecting practice rather than an…

11 Apr 2023 · 1 min

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Vanessa Marin discusses a couple-focused guideline (making out as a daily/regular ritual) framed as a voluntary, connecting practice rather than an obligation. She emphasizes that couples should set their own rules, allowing exceptions (e.g., illness, ongoing conflict) and rejects rigid rules like 'never go to bed angry.' The core advice is to personalize rituals so they feel meaningful and sustaining.

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Honestly, I really don't ever get annoyed by it. It's a guideline that we made for ourselves, so nobody's forcing us to do it. And it feels like this really special connecting moment between the two of us. I think that's the reason that we get into relationships. Like, we want to feel like we're in this secret little club, party of two. It's just one of the ways that makes us feel very close and connected. It's the special thing that only we do together. Also, a lot of people ask, like, well, but what if you're in a fight or you're mad at your partner or you're s. Guys, there are exceptions. I am not a believer in the never go to bed angry rule. I think that can be really harmful. So if I'm upset with Xander, if either one of us is sick, like, we're just skipping it. It's no big deal. And this is why every couple needs to make guidelines for themselves. If you don't like making out, don't make that be your thing. If you don't want it to be every day, don't make that be your thing. But do something that feels like it works for your unique relationship and think feels good and connecting for you guys to do.